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😑 EMOTIONS: ANGER 😑

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Anger's a tricky emotion. You might be afraid to feel and express it, because it usually is considered as a 'bad' emotion. If you're honest with yourself you'll feel all emotions. Sadness, joy, love, anger.. 

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Happiness, joy etc are fine to share why not anger and sadness? Because they're uncomfortable, seeing someone in their anger makes you question how you are with this emotion. It might make you face something you don't want to face.
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Personally growing up, I was never shown how to feel my anger, express it, move through it and let it go in a healthy way. I saw it as people screaming at each other. I thought, that's anger and it does bad things.
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But the truth is you don't have to direct your anger to someone. You can feel it, express it and let it go. If you feel like you're angry and judging someone for what they're doing, direct that energy to creating your own version of how you'd do it. Same energy but used in creating rather than destruction.
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When you repress your anger, or deny that you're angry, the other side can feel it and it comes out as passive aggressive way anyway and that just feels horrible and we all know that feeling πŸ™ˆ
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I mainly express my anger during breathwork. If its a group session, everyone lays down, they start breathing. Through oxygenating the body, buried emotions come out. There's loud music, so you scream, shout, shake your body, hit some pillows, let go of the anger so it doesn't stay in your body. I love it ❀️ That's why its always part of the workshops I do.
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But if you're somewhere that you can't shout or hit a pillow, try this next time you get angry:
- Close your eyes
- Allow the anger to bubble up
- Close your mouth with both hands
- Open mouth let air out into your palms like a silent scream
- Shake your body and head while you do it
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This releases the energy from your body. If you want to gain awareness of what the anger was about to ease your Ego, ask yourself:
- What am I angry about?
- What's the anger telling me to do?
- Now let that go, imagine you're empty pure light, floating above the situation, fully present and in bliss, ask 'What's the truth?'
- Act on that truth.
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This helps you to see what's underneath that anger. Maybe you're angry bypassing feeling sadness. But if you sit with that anger, you'll feel the sadness, then it'll go.
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No emotions have control over you if you feel them fully ✨
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What's your take on expressing anger? How comfortable are you with your own anger?
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Loads of love to you ❀️
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I'm back! 😘

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Had 2 weeks in Istanbul seeing friends and family, playing lots of games and doing bit of work..
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Now I'm ready for London, allowed myself some time to rest yesterday and went back into sessions today.
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If you had a break from something and when you get back to it, you feel like not knowing where to start from, just start from somewhere. And the momentum will start picking up quickly.
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Don't try to figure it all out before you start. If you do that, it's guaranteed you won't start πŸ˜‚
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And don't compromise, whatever you imagine, you can have it. As it is, not the watered down version but the actual dream ✨
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If you vaguely know what your dream is but not sure where to start from, book a 1 hour free taster session with me to get clear on it and find out the next step: 
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https://calendly.com/isik
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I will ever be grateful for my clients and the women who show up at the workshops I do. They show me so much more than what I show them, if not more sometimes.. If that's you, thank you from the bottom of my heart 😍
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Number 1 way to grow and heal, serve someone to grow and heal πŸ˜ƒπŸ’œ And no, you don't have to heal yourself fully to do it. 
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Now I'm off to 5rhythms to dance, one of the things I miss when I'm away.. 
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Wishing you a beautiful evening y'all πŸ’›βœ¨
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✨ PATIENCE ✨

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Your ability to be patient will determine your success in everything.

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This can be the hardest thing to be sometimes, being patient.. Yet it can be so powerful as well.
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You might feel like after you've taken the step today, you want things to happen tomorrow. I'm usually like this tbh, after I've done the hard work, I go, 'Ok where's the result?' πŸ˜ƒ It doesn't work that way unfortunately.
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Look at nature. Trees take their time to grow, flowers take their time to blossom. They're not in a rush, they're just going at their natural pace knowing they'll eventually get there.
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When you plant a seed, that seed actually grows underneath the soil but because you can't see it, you might give up at that point just before the plant starts growing above the soil.
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Look at a pregnant woman. She grows and carries her baby in her womb for 9 months. That 9 months is necessary for the baby to be healthy and fully ready for the world.
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Same with your creations, you can't rush the process. You can grow quickly but you can't jump from having 2 clients to 30 clients in one week. You won't be able to manage as effortlessly because you didn't experience what having 10 or 20 clients feel like.
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Patience is your friend who's telling you to wait and surrender to the process after you've done your part with your absolute best. I love this saying by Eckhart Tolle, "Sometimes surrender means giving up trying to understand and becoming comfortable with not knowing."
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So how can you be more patient?
- Look at where you were 2 years ago, look at where you are now. Realise how that time and patience brought that transformation to your life.
- Meditate 10 mins a day. Just close your eyes and repeat any mantra in your head. Om Namah Shivaya is a good one, it builds your self confidence.
- Remind yourself that huge successes weren't achieved overnight. They took time and patience ✨
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Sometimes there's nothing to do but being patient, being ok with waiting. And that's absolutely fine, stay with it.
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Are you usually patient? If you had to learn to be patient, what made you more patient? Would love to hear πŸ™πŸΌ
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Have a beautiful day! πŸ’™πŸ’Ž
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πŸ‘ΈπŸ½ BELIEVE IN YOURSELF πŸ‘ΈπŸ½

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There's no one like you out there. No one has your energy or the gifts you have to offer.

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You might feel like you don't have much to offer, much to say. Or you might believe you're not that unique, what you want to do is done before and you're not where you want to be anyway so what's the point.. 

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When you're in that space and someone goes, 'Believe in yourself!' It might feel a bit flat and irritating, I do at least πŸ˜ƒ

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What does it even mean, believing in yourself?

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It means you know who you are and you know your gifts and the power they have. You know its true for you to be that, offer that, because that's what you love and you doing what you love is what the world needs.

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There's this beautiful quote by Howard Thurman, "Don't ask yourself what the world needs. Ask yourself what makes you come alive and then go do that. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive."

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I love this quote. When people ask for your help, you might feel like you're not capable to help them or you don't feel confident or experienced enough. That's not true, if someone's showing up and asking your help, its because they need your help, your energy. If they didn't resonate with you, they wouldn't have come up to you. 

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Allow yourself to receive the transformation you can create in their lives.. Make serving them more important than what you think about yourself and see what happens β˜ΊοΈπŸ’›

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When you step up, grow and stretch yourself your self esteem might feel like its getting lower, because your Ego gets scared. So it throws at you everything it can as a strategy to keep you small. Once you notice the strategy and the reason behind it, it doesn't have power or control over you. For example it might tell you to show this facade first before showing the real you, before opening up and being vulnerable. 

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As you drop your mask, people around you will drop theirs too. The more you see people pretending, its because you're pretending too. Its just a mirror of the vibration you're in. You don't have to show off or overdo you either. Just be the real you.

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Last Saturday I guided a movement session and a cacao ceremony for 20 people and 15 of them haven't meditated before in their lives. And there I was wearing my feathers, this goddessy dress walking around barefoot with my palo santo (similar to incense stick). I felt quite proud actually to be in that space and be myself. In the end of the day, they're just people who are not better or worse than you are.

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And if you have any doubt about not knowing who you are just think of an acorn. An acorn grows into an oak tree, it doesn't try to be an oak tree, it doesn't have to figure out how to be an oak tree. It just becomes an oak tree. It surrenders and allows that growth and transformation to happen to be its fullest and embodied self. Stop trying and allow.

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Here are 2 things you can do to start believing in yourself:

- Print out every beautiful thing people said about you.. A client's testimonial, a 'oh my god that session was incredible, thank you!' message. Your friend's or lover's encouraging message to you. Put them somewhere in your room where you can see them every day. 

(Know that you don't have to get attached to these praises, they're just reflecting your true nature to you, they're not giving you anything extra)

- Imagine you're at your 80th birthday. People are coming up to you and thanking you for being this beautiful person. What are they thanking you for? Write them down.

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So be like an acorn πŸ˜ƒ and wear feathers, always πŸ˜‰βœ¨

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Who would be if you didn't care what others think of you? And what would you do? Comment below β˜ΊοΈπŸ’ž

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Loads of love to you! πŸ’–

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πŸ› GROWTH: BEING IN THE UNKNOWN πŸ›

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Most conversations I have these days is about this topic, so its time to write about it ☺️

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Why does some people find it hard to be in the unknown and some live in it daily with such ease?

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It's about surrender. When you stop resisting, start surrendering to that uncertainty and being ok with that, opportunities will show themselves, you'll meet people you wouldn't normally meet.

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Look at children. Not the adulty ones that correct you all the time, the ones that are in awe, wonder and curiosity about life. They know that things are going to be ok, they trust, they're open. In that space even the smallest thing they come across can become an adventure because they're in a receptive state, paying attention to everything and noticing everything.

"Yeah but we're not kids anymore, we have bills to pay."

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Ok, the other choice you can make is to be in the known. Have all your steps sorted on a spreadsheet for the next 10 years. But that's boring. It's a total compromise, settling in for less than what is possible for you. You'll get to the point where you want to be and then go, 'Now what?'. You might feel empty. You already knew all the steps along the way. There were no surprises and excitement in that journey. Where you got in the end might not be exciting either.

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Also if you're being true to yourself and following your dreams, this option won't work. You'll eventually do some research and ask others who've done this transition and are happy now. Then when you feel like you're ready, you'll give up on the security, be in the unknown and make your dreams your reality. Why would you wait until you reach that point? You might as well start now. If you wait until you're ready that won't happen either. 

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I'm not saying start tomorrow, but know that outside circumstances will not align themselves to you so you feel ready. You'll start, then things outside will shift and align themselves to your decision. 

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There might be times you might feel uncertain, wobbly, feeling like there are no guides to follow, that you're alone in this, this will last forever and feeling like giving up, there's no point to this. Know that its a temporary feeling, its a transition. And it's your Ego, your mind, freaking out, trying to keep you where you're at, that's all. 

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When a baby is in the womb, it trusts and knows that it's going to be warm, safe and will have food. When you're born, you somehow loose that trust and security. Why not keep it? Knowing that you're held and safe, you're an adult now and even in the worst situation you can look after yourself.

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1.5 years ago I had this life coach. Back then I knew I didn't want to do architecture which is what I studied. We came down to 3 options I want to follow. They were working with kids, creating eco villages or opening people's heart. We wrote these options in three pieces of paper and she placed them on 3 chairs. She asked me to sit one by one on each chair to see what they were about. 

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I sat on the opening people's heart one first, the one I was most resistant to sit on. Thought I'll get it out of the way πŸ˜ƒ I held the paper and said 'I have no idea what this is.' I literally didn't know. I just knew it was something to do with opening people's hearts, that's the only thing I knew. She didn't say anything, just held me in that space. I felt that unknown, super uncomfortable feeling. I wanted to know how to get there and had no idea. Few moments later, the feeling passed and I didn't die. 

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1.5 years after, here I am, doing that, being in the unknown nearly every day. (Eco villages never happened btw, it was my Ego trying to use what I did in the past because it was afraid to let go of that, but I did work with kids πŸ˜‰)

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When you feel terrified of the unknown, follow these steps:

- Stay with that not knowing feeling. How does that feel? Where do you feel it in your body? Really feel it. It's the only way to go past it, don't resist it.

- What is that feeling telling you to do? 

- Close your eyes, take a deep breath. Imagine you're a floating light looking at the situation from above. What's the truth?

- What's the next step you can take to be in that truth?

- Follow through on that :)

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As you move towards what you want, things will become clearer and your Ego will relax a bit, once it sees tangible result. It will go, 'Oh cool, this works.' Until that point, keep refocusing yourself back to that direction and keep going 😍

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Whenever you move into the new and unknown, there's an opportunity for growth and magic to unfold. Allow it. Know that you're held. It's the only way to grow, being in the unknown.

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I promise you, when you get comfortable with being in the unknown, your whole life will change. 

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Let me know your thoughts 😍

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Love you 😘❀️

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πŸ’Ž IF IT DOESN'T CHALLENGE YOU, IT WON'T CHANGE YOU πŸ’Ž

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Change doesn't happen when you're comfortable. It happens at those times when you're most uncomfortable.

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I love, love, love this image 😍
It explains so beautifully how a challenge can be a gift. You face a challenge, as soon as you surrender to and see the lesson in it, you're free from it being a struggle. Then you can help people having the same challenge, because you've been there. You can emphatise with them and guide them in growing.
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When a challenge surfaces, your default mode can be to panic, terrorise people around you, to be scared, to run away from it, to get angry or to go into the victim mode asking why is this happening to you.. This is your resistance to the situation.
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Then you create a story around it. Life is hard.. See I told you, I'll never get what I want.. What's the point in even trying.. People are dangerous so I'm better off on my own.. I'm not good enough.. I have to push people away before they see me fail..
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As soon as you see it for what it is, just a challenge, then an opportunity to grow arises. You own it, you become the observer watching the situation from a higher perspective.
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Then you outgrow the challenge, it stops being a challenge for you. It becomes a lesson you learnt, mentally, emotionally, energetically..
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Next time you face a challenge, follow these steps to turn it into a gift you can offer to people:
- Ask yourself 'What is your reaction to the situation?'
- Then ask yourself, 'What am I resisting?'
- Just name it. Naming what's coming up takes the power out of it.
- Ask yourself, 'What lesson is this showing me?'.
- Notice if this is something that keeps coming up, then there's definitely a lesson to be learnt there.
- Once you saw the lesson, you can support people around you having the same resistance.
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After some awareness and practice, if you flip out, run away or resist in your way, that's ok. You're a human and you don't have to be all peace and love. You observe it, you learn and then if you wish, you can teach it to others..
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How do you overcome challenges? What are the lessons you learnt through those challenges? Comment below lovelies πŸ™πŸΌπŸ’™
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Sending you much love on this gorgeous Sunday wherever you are 😍❀️
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πŸŒ€ SPEAKING YOUR TRUTH πŸŒ€

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This topic is soo important, it kept coming up, time to write about itπŸ˜‰

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What is speaking your truth?
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It is expressing what your needs are, how you feel and what you think. It is all about communication and being yourself.
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There are many reasons that might be holding you back from speaking your truth. When you tell what you need or feel, you won't be loved for who you are, people will leave you, they will abandon you and you will be alone..
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So you don't speak your truth, you shove things under the carpet and pretend that things don't bother you. Then the next time it comes up again, it comes up even bigger. It makes you feel seperate, not seen, not heard, alone, frustrated or angry..
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The thing is nobody can guess how you feel, what your needs are exactly unless you tell them. The other person will always receive from their perception. So in between you expressing what you need and other person perceiving that in their reality we loose so much info already πŸ˜ƒ
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Another communication killer is assumptions. You assume that the other person can tell what you need from your behaviour, especially in intimate relationships. It can feel obvious to you that they'll get it, but they don't. Then you get angry at them.
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Telling exactly what you need, how you feel is the key. That requires you to be vulnerable. It is the best thing you can do while speaking your truth and being yourself.
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If you don't speak your truth you will resent people. There will be an underlying disconnection. That might lead to you taking action that is not right for you, then you'll resent that person more, for 'making' you feel that way and do that thing.
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If you speak your truth you will feel so much lighter, free and like yourself. You will say no to things easier and your energy will only go to things you truly love.
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Next time you speak your truth:
- Notice what you'd like to say knowing you can't loose anything.
- Then see what you're scared of happening if you speak your truth.
- Remind yourself that speaking your truth is the best thing to do in the long run for yourself and for that person.
- Tell that person you need to be listened uninterrupted and tell what you want to say.
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This becomes easier and easier with practice. Those who don't accept your truth and don't see you for who you are will leave. That is a good thing. So that the ones who truly deserve to be in your life will show up.
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Always speak your truth. It's the way to being yourself and freedom☺️
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What holds you back from speaking your truth? If you couldn't loose anything, what would you express? Comment below or message me πŸ’™
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Much love to you 😍❀️
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πŸŒ€ ALLOWING YOURSELF TO FEEL πŸŒ€

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I'm seeing more and more how important it is to feel the emotions. Any emotion, not just the happy and more uplifting ones..

At first it might feel like dying, super scary and dangerous. But that's just a protective layer of illusion to keep you away from them.

For a long time I decided to live in my head and always plan stuff until a year ago really. The life coach I had back then always used to ask me 'How do you feel?' I'd even start that sentence with 'I think I feel..' πŸ˜ƒ

I do breathwork once in a while. How it works is you breathe in from the mouth out from the mouth and everything you've been suppressing in your body starts coming up. Usually my hands and mouth go a bit weird:) Then you shout, kick your legs and arms to release. It's really painful, like physically painful for me in the chest and in my hands. Each time I do it, I see how much pain I cause myself by not expressing how I feel in the moment. There's another one im going to on Monday, let's see how that one goesπŸ˜‰

In the Goddess Circles I give, there's a part where we drop into our bodies, allowing any feelings to come up. It's so beautiful to watch this. It's like watching bravery and freedom. Honestly, I learn a lot from those brave warriors.

I sometimes get days where I'm like 'I'm constantly working on myself and even the same topics keep coming up. This is never ending.' It is never ending;) But each time you go in, feel and release you become freer, lighter and move forward easier.. You feel more fulfilled and comfortable in who you are ✨

It's not a weakness to cry or look like you haven't got it all together. The opposite, its raw and beautiful. It shows that you're a human. That you're actually trying, feeling, opening up your heart, falling, getting up and trying again. So worth the risk πŸ˜‰

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✨ PRESENCE ✨

Something magical happens when you're free from your mind chatter and completely present with the person you are with..

Last weekend I went to complete another module with Animas Coaching, which was about presence.

We had an exercise where we were with a person while they talked for straight 10 mins. No questions, reactions, nothing. Just listening and allowing that person to be, say anything they want.

The person I was observing threw out everything she had in her mind, vulnerably telling her thoughts, feelings, fears, beliefs and hopes.

It got to a point where she tired herself out of her ego and saw the answer herself. Literally guided herself to her answer..

I saw this happening when I was doing 12 weeks 'Artist's Way' program, Julia Cameron's book where you have to write 3 pages every day. For me, in the beginning, the first 2 pages were pure mind. Totally unrelated sentences stacking next to each other, almost a vomit of the mind. Last page would be the truth, what I'd love to do, my gifts, dreams etc. Thank God i don't have to write 3 pages of that to get to the truth now πŸ˜‚

It was amazing to see that happening right then and there, shifting in 10 mins..

It's about witnessing your own pain. It can be painful to do but once the thoughts, beliefs, emotions are seen by you, once they're witnessed and named what they are, they loose their power.. The pain is gone. Not looking at them straight in the face creates even more pain than the pain itself.

It's about seeing them and not getting carried away. They are just concepts, not the truth.

The truth is..

No matter what our past is,

No matter how scared we are or 

No matter how we want to control the outcome..

We can be anything we want to be in any given moment..

That is the ultimate freedom πŸ˜‰πŸ’›

Thank you Marcus, Laure, Erika and beautiful attendees for a wonderful weekend full of authenticity πŸ’œβœ¨

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