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✌🏼 RECOGNISE HOW FAR YOU CAME ✌🏼

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I'm assisting at a training half day this weekend so I received an email from the facilitator thanking the team. It brought up a memory that I haven't thought of years actually, want to share that with you ☺️

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I was attending the same training 6 years ago. I remember this moment where we were doing shares. I was sitting at the back corner unlike now sitting in the front super keen and engaged πŸ˜ƒ
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So I got up, started sharing. Back then I used to speak quietly and fast, I had to repeat what I was saying all the time. As I was sharing, the facilitator couldn't hear me properly. He asked me to speak louder, so I did. Then he asked me to come to the front and share from there. I was like, 'Oh god what have I done in raising my hand..'. So I did, I walked all the way to the front, shared infront to the group, then thanked the facilitator telling him he's very loving and compassionate.
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He said, 'So are you.' I wasn't expecting that answer, looked a bit confused. He looked at me with such presence, one of these moments where its just you and the person that everything else dissolves away. I started crying as I saw him as a mirror for the compassion and love I have for people..
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Back then, I wasn't comfortable with crying infront of people unlike now speaking through my tears with a high pitch voice πŸ˜ƒ I was crying like I wanted to hide. I stepped back trying to hold my tears, holding my head down etc. He took my hand and said, 'When you cry, you step forward.', gently pulling me a bit forward while he stayed back. He asked,' Look into the eyes of these people. Do they look dangerous to you?' I looked up and half the room was literally crying. I said, 'No, they don't.'
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Looking back at that memory, I feel grateful for all the growth, all the tears, all the learnings that brought me here.. I take such short time to learn something, apply it and turn it into habit that I forgot I was doing the opposite like 6 months ago πŸ˜ƒ
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If you're a speedy growth queen/king, ask yourself these questions to just recognise how far you came:
- What have changed in my life?
- What have I learnt?
- What do I do now that I wasn't doing 2 years ago?
- What story did I stop telling myself?
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If you're inspired to share some of your answers, I'd love to hear them ☺️❀️
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Have a beautiful weekend lovelies ✨
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Loads of love! β€οΈ
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πŸ™ŒπŸΌ 5 LESSONS I LEARNT FROM 5 JIM CARREY MOVIES πŸ™ŒπŸΌ

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I absolutely love movies. In high school I watched around 2-3 movies in a week and would do movie marathons on my own watching 15 movies in a week on holidays. They were movies like Memento, Run Lola Run, Irreversible, Donnie Darko. Bit dark but always made me question and think of stuff I haven't thought of before..

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I don't watch as much now though but I love a night in watching a movie.. Recently, I found out series 'Rick and Morty', I don't normally watch series but made an exception with this one. Check it out if you haven't heard of it, its fun πŸ˜‰
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On the holiday I had few weeks ago, I watched few Jim Carrey movies again. It's amazing how much I notice when I watch movies I haven't seen in ages, because I changed a lot, my awareness expanded a lot..
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So here are 5 main things I got out of 5 Jim Carrey movies I watched β˜ΊοΈπŸ‘‡πŸΌ
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1. IF YOU DON'T DEAL WITH YOUR OWN PROBLEMS, YOU CAN'T DEAL WITH OTHERS' (Me, Myself & Irene)
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- Don't brush things under the carpet for the sake of avoiding conflict. Always speak your truth in the moment otherwise you hurt yourself and others around you in the long run.
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2. IF YOU WANT TO FEEL JOY, YOU HAVE TO FEEL SADNESS AS WELL (Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind)
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- If you wanna get rid of pain you have to get rid of the beautiful moments too. Pain and happiness are intertwined and you can't avoid pain while having happiness.
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3. WE ACCEPT THE REALITY OF THE WORLD WHICH WE'VE BEEN PRESENTED (The Truman Show - my favourite 😍)
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- Question everything that's around you. Know that someone else created all of it. So you have the power to change it, implement your version as well. You can get out of it as there's no right or wrong way.
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4. IF YOU WANT TO SEE A MIRACLE, BE THE MIRACLE (Bruce Almighty)
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- You might want God to do everything for you, but you have the power. You have to see that you create everything in your life, highs and lows. Once you see and take responsibility for that, you can change that.
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5. YOU NEVER KNOW WHAT'S ON ITS WAY WHEN YOU SAY YES AND ALLOW OPPORTUNITIES TO COME IN (Yes Man)
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- When you play small and safe, life becomes predictable and boring. You might be saying no feeling like you're not enough for anything so what's the point in even trying.. But once you flip that around and allow life to come to you, life becomes a playful ride..
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Have you seen these movies? Which one struck you the most? 😍
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Loads of love to you πŸ’›βœ¨
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πŸ’Ž IF IT DOESN'T CHALLENGE YOU, IT WON'T CHANGE YOU πŸ’Ž

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Change doesn't happen when you're comfortable. It happens at those times when you're most uncomfortable.

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I love, love, love this image 😍
It explains so beautifully how a challenge can be a gift. You face a challenge, as soon as you surrender to and see the lesson in it, you're free from it being a struggle. Then you can help people having the same challenge, because you've been there. You can emphatise with them and guide them in growing.
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When a challenge surfaces, your default mode can be to panic, terrorise people around you, to be scared, to run away from it, to get angry or to go into the victim mode asking why is this happening to you.. This is your resistance to the situation.
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Then you create a story around it. Life is hard.. See I told you, I'll never get what I want.. What's the point in even trying.. People are dangerous so I'm better off on my own.. I'm not good enough.. I have to push people away before they see me fail..
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As soon as you see it for what it is, just a challenge, then an opportunity to grow arises. You own it, you become the observer watching the situation from a higher perspective.
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Then you outgrow the challenge, it stops being a challenge for you. It becomes a lesson you learnt, mentally, emotionally, energetically..
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Next time you face a challenge, follow these steps to turn it into a gift you can offer to people:
- Ask yourself 'What is your reaction to the situation?'
- Then ask yourself, 'What am I resisting?'
- Just name it. Naming what's coming up takes the power out of it.
- Ask yourself, 'What lesson is this showing me?'.
- Notice if this is something that keeps coming up, then there's definitely a lesson to be learnt there.
- Once you saw the lesson, you can support people around you having the same resistance.
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After some awareness and practice, if you flip out, run away or resist in your way, that's ok. You're a human and you don't have to be all peace and love. You observe it, you learn and then if you wish, you can teach it to others..
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How do you overcome challenges? What are the lessons you learnt through those challenges? Comment below lovelies πŸ™πŸΌπŸ’™
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Sending you much love on this gorgeous Sunday wherever you are 😍❀️
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