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✨ WHAT DO I BELIEVE IN? ✨

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I recently got asked the question, 'What do I believe in?' 

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I believe in magic. I believe you can absolutely make your dreams your reality. You don't really need to settle for that job that you don't want. When you step into your dream and look back at the past when it used to be your present, you see that it's no longer your present, that's magic.
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I believe in love. I believe when you come from your heart, speak from your heart, live from your heart, magic happens. People understand you when you speak to their heart. I'm not saying ignore the mind or body, its a balance of all of them. Listening to it all, give them all a chance to speak and make a decision after that.
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I believe everyone in this world has something incredible to offer to this world. Everyone has a gift, no matter where they are, no matter what their job is, their age, race etc. That's why I do what I do, helping people find their gift and express that. I believe everyone has the capacity to create something no one did before. Even if its done, its not done in a way you'd do it, because no one is you.
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Tamara is a unique photographer. She came to one of the Goddess Circles I did months ago. That's where we met. The other day we met up. She asked me great, deep questions. Right to the point, no chit chat, I loved it ✨ While she photographes people she asks them these questions.. Same questions for everyone.
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- What does trust mean for you?
- What does it mean to be a man/woman?
- What do you believe in?
- Is there anything you hide from people? Or from yourself?
- Is there anything you're particularly grateful for?
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I loved being part of her project. When I'm asked questions, ideas and answers that haven't come to me before just pop up. So always ask me questions ☺️ I get as much out of it as you do 🙏🏼
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If you'd like to be photographed while answering her questions, get in touch with her. She's looking for people 😍
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Read the rest of my answers here:
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https://www.gimmeacamera.com/blog/isik
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Have an awesome rest of the week lovelies 💞
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💎 IF IT DOESN'T CHALLENGE YOU, IT WON'T CHANGE YOU 💎

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Change doesn't happen when you're comfortable. It happens at those times when you're most uncomfortable.

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I love, love, love this image 😍
It explains so beautifully how a challenge can be a gift. You face a challenge, as soon as you surrender to and see the lesson in it, you're free from it being a struggle. Then you can help people having the same challenge, because you've been there. You can emphatise with them and guide them in growing.
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When a challenge surfaces, your default mode can be to panic, terrorise people around you, to be scared, to run away from it, to get angry or to go into the victim mode asking why is this happening to you.. This is your resistance to the situation.
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Then you create a story around it. Life is hard.. See I told you, I'll never get what I want.. What's the point in even trying.. People are dangerous so I'm better off on my own.. I'm not good enough.. I have to push people away before they see me fail..
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As soon as you see it for what it is, just a challenge, then an opportunity to grow arises. You own it, you become the observer watching the situation from a higher perspective.
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Then you outgrow the challenge, it stops being a challenge for you. It becomes a lesson you learnt, mentally, emotionally, energetically..
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Next time you face a challenge, follow these steps to turn it into a gift you can offer to people:
- Ask yourself 'What is your reaction to the situation?'
- Then ask yourself, 'What am I resisting?'
- Just name it. Naming what's coming up takes the power out of it.
- Ask yourself, 'What lesson is this showing me?'.
- Notice if this is something that keeps coming up, then there's definitely a lesson to be learnt there.
- Once you saw the lesson, you can support people around you having the same resistance.
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After some awareness and practice, if you flip out, run away or resist in your way, that's ok. You're a human and you don't have to be all peace and love. You observe it, you learn and then if you wish, you can teach it to others..
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How do you overcome challenges? What are the lessons you learnt through those challenges? Comment below lovelies 🙏🏼💙
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Sending you much love on this gorgeous Sunday wherever you are 😍❤️
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THE ONE THING

"What would be the one thing you couldn't live without doing?" ✨

I got asked this question recently and realised I'm doing that one thing all the time, helping & coaching people basically.

So I looked after children part time and I loved being around their playful energy. They're so much in the present moment!

I wanna write about 2 things happened with them which I didn't even realised I was doing it.

With one of the girls, we were playing parrot. Basically she was repeating what I was saying. We started off with 'hello, how are you' etc. Then I started saying 'you're beautiful, you're smart, you're loveable' she would repeat obviously starting with 'you.. You..' Then I thought, ok let's turn this game into a mini affirmation game. I started phrasing them as 'I'm beautiful, I'm smart, I'm loveable' then she'd repeat that. I could see how her face was changing as saying these. 

She actually came up to me few times to play that game and another girl asked me to play it too..

There's another game I play where I find out what children's love languages are. 

Love languages are 5 ways we feel loved (physical touch - words of affirmation - quality time - gifts - service). Somebody might fix your lamp for you to show their love but all you wanted was a hug.. For that person offering something might have the same effect. Its an any kind of relationship saver, look it up! Mine is in this order if you ever wanna make me feel loved btw😉

I'd ask the kids 'do you feel more loved when mummy buys you an ice cream or tells you she loves you?' or 'do you feel more loved when she hugs you or plays with you?'. So that I know what to do to make them feel loved and its super fun!

So I asked a kid 'what's your favourite thing in the world?' Its a great question btw to ask kids if you don't wanna ask adult questions like how was your day😄  He said 'my mum'. The convo went like this:

- Does your mum play with you?

- Yes

- Does your mum buy you gifts?

- Yes

- Does your mum tells you she loves you?

- No.

I felt the sadness and feeling of unloved in his voice. So I went:

- But she plays with you and buys you gifts right?

- Yes.

Obviously mum's love language was service and gifts whereas this kid's was words of affirmation and physical touch (kept hugging me).

- Ok, next time she buys you something or plays with you remember this is the way she shows her love. She might not say it but she tells her love by playing with you or buying gifts for you, ok?

He was looking at the floor the whole time we were speaking. First time ever he looked up and nodded smiling. I wasn't sure the whole time if he was getting all this, i mean he's 6-7, but I just knew he got it, when he looked at me. I was like 'YES!'. Nailed it! You know😄

My point is, your one thing is something that you're doing all the time knowingly or unknowingly.

If you're a dancer, you'll just dance nearly the whole time you're awake, on tube, in the kitchen..

If you're a writer or a poem, in every occasion to write, even for a christmas card, you'd throw out some magic in your writing.

If you're a helper, you'd help in every occasion without thinking.

Whatever you're doing that's natural for you to do no matter what your job is, is your gift.

Keep sharing it! The world needs more people like you just being themselves..

Love and magic 💜✨

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