Awareness

I’m SO excited to announce that...

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Jitka Janakieva and I are collaborating to hold our first workshop together! 😍

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It’s called - RELEASE & NOURISH 🔥🌺

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It’s a half day transformational retreat through breathwork, sound bath and reiki.
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This was one of the most effortless collaborative creations ever. Jitka is a really good friend of mine, love her so much. She came to few of my breathwork journeys, then I went to hers to hang out. She gave me a mini sound journey as whenever I visit her house, it turns into a mini nourishing retreat ❤️ Nourishment is really her gift.
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After the journey I told her I’d love to create something with her where we combine breathwork and sound bath. She said “I’ve been thinking the same!”. Then we came up with the name literally in few seconds. It was magic ✨
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We both heard about Lifespace Healing that opened 2 months ago, a gorgeous space in West London so the venue was obvious as well 🙏🏼
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We’d love to have you there bringing you back home to your essence while we shower you with love 🧡
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12 May Sunday
Lifespace Healing, Notting Hill
2-6 pm
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We have LIMITED spaces 🌻
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You can read more or book your place through the link below 👇🏼
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https://www.lifespacehealing.com/events
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As always, all in a safe and loving space without shame or judgement 💛 Open for men and women. Come join!
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Message me if you have any questions 🙏🏼
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I love you ❤️
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Take 5 DEEP BREATHS as you watch this smoke 💚

Whenever you feel overwhelmed this week:

❤️Close your eyes
💜Take a deep breath
💛Place your hand on your heart
💚Drop back into your body
💙Ask “What’s most important right now?”
💜Follow through on that ✨
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Things you feel that are urgent are often not urgent at all. You go faster by slowing down.
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Wishing you a gorgeous Monday 😘
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I love you ❤️
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👉🏼 BLAMING VS OWNERSHIP 👊🏼

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What you resist in others is what you have in yourself that you haven’t accepted yet. 

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Judgement shows you where you need to grow or where you need to have more compassion for yourself more.

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Similar to judgement, blaming other people is a distraction from feeling and going through your own pain. It’s so much easier to blame someone for your pain.

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It’s so much easier to create drama rather than owning your pain. It’s so much easier to get angry at your parents rather than feeling your wound of feeling not good enough or unloved. It’s so much easier to blame your partner for making you feel sad by breaking up with you rather than feeling your own wound of abandonment.

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Whenever you get an emotional trigger towards someone, hurt, anger, frustration; it often comes down to a memory you had when you were a child. It’s usually not about that person. Nearly nothing is personal. You might feel your partner is causing you pain, they’re not. They’re triggering an unresolved pain from your past.

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So how do you create a life free of drama?

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By taking ownership of your life. You are creating everything in your life. Things don’t just happen to you randomly. Everything happening in your life shows you what is already going amazing and also what needs to change.

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Up until 2 years ago, I used to have so much drama in my life and I thought things were just happening and I felt powerless against it all. With ownership of all of my reality, constant self-reflecting and having few people around me with great awareness and intuition reflecting back to me the choices I make, I can say that, I’m grateful to live a life with honesty, openness and integrity. Of course I have setbacks but I bounce back from it in a day rather than lingering in my Ego for a week. This is my biggest achievement to date, to live my life this way 🌟

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And this shift doesn’t have to be hard. Inner work doesn’t have to be serious. Healing doesn’t have to happen in suffering. It takes a moment, a second, a choice to shift. 

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Here are some examples of turning BLAMING into OWNING:

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BLAMING 👉🏼 You’re getting angry at your partner for not making you feel loved and cared for

OWNING 👉🏼 You might feel this deep down without your partner anyway and you’re not letting them know what makes you feel loved expecting them to know magically.

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BLAMING 👉🏼 You’re getting annoyed at a woman in the bus for talking super loud on the phone

OWNING 👉🏼 You might have a family member that was super loud so you decided to keep yourself very quiet and small. 

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BLAMING 👉🏼 You feel pretty crap this morning and the weather is shit.

OWNING 👉🏼 You haven’t created space for yourself last night to unwind and relax, you went to bed straight from being your phone so you didn’t get a good night’s sleep.

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Here’s how you can shift from blaming to owning when you’re triggered:

- Close your eyes, take a deep breath.

- Ask yourself, “What am I thinking?” and “What am I feeling?”. Your thoughts and feelings are gateways to your Ego. Feel free to blame others here, go for it.

- Sit with that feeling, notice how it feels.

- Ask “What is this showing me about myself?” & “What is this teaching me?”

- Take another deep breath.

- See a golden ball of light above your head descending onto your body, touching your head. As it does, your whole body lights up and you’re free of the past and the future. You’re empty, here and now. And you let go of the need to know ✨

- Ask “What is in the highest to do?” 

- Follow through on that. 

- Give yourself a hug, because why not ❤️

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This works with any kind of relationships, intimate, family, friends, collegue etc. If you want to have a conversation about it with the person, ask if they’d be open to talk about it. Then start with, “I’m feeling... when you .....”. This way you are owning how you’re feeling rather than blaming the other person.

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When you master this shift from blaming to owning, I PROMISE YOU, all the drama in your life will start to fall away. You’ll notice the difference when your life start to become effortless, simple where you know what your truth is as you own what is yours and what isn’t ❤️

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I do 1-1 transformational coaching sessions around owning your life, making choices that are in the highest and create a drama-free life full of flow and joy. Message me if you’re interested ❤️

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Have a gorgeous Saturday! 😍

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I love you 💛

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😡😭😜 ALLOWING YOURSELF TO FEEL 😜😭😡

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No one can tell you what your truth is. Only you know. 

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It feels very empowering when you feel your emotions and able to navigate through them where you find your own answers.
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You’re meant to feel as a humanbeing. It’s the judgement that twists the actual experience. You can go through your emotions without judging it as positive or negative. It’s just is, an experience happening for you right now.
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All emotions just want to be felt. When you’re going through one emotion, it often links to another one. You could start with anger, as you feel your anger, you might find sadness underneath it. When you go right to the depth of your sadness, there you will find joy.
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So how do you allow yourself to feel?
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You welcome all the feelings. Not just the happy, light ones but welcome the darker emotions knowing it’s safe to feel and you won’t be shown something you’re not ready to feel.
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Every emotion holds a treasure for you. I find that the gift of anger for me was to show me where my boundaries were, where I didn’t speak my truth and what I truly cared about. I’m naturally a passionate person, came with lots of anger. I was very passive aggressive until I learnt how to speak my truth with love. Someone once told me, “With your fire, only burn what doesn’t serve you, not yourself or other people.” 🔥
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The gift of sadness for me was to have compassion and empathy for myself and others who went to a dark place. Being able to go into my sadness with such depth, gave the same depth to my joy as well. I get to appreciate the whole spectrum and feel myself and others so much more.
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Crying can come from two places. One is victim, poor me, spiralling downwards crying that doesn’t actually serve. The other one is an emotional release where you’re allowing yourself to feel the full sadness and going through it for a moment or a day, however long, knowing it is passing. You’re coming from a knowing and empowered place.
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You’re allowed to feel sad and defeated. You don’t have to be the strong one all the time. You can let your guards down. You can be loved in your grief, sadnes, anger, joy or peace.
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If you want to experience this in a safe and loving space, with no shame or judgement, come do breathwork with me on the 18th, next week. If you’re already in touch with your emotions, come join anyway, let’s go deeper. You might find parts of you that you didn’t know were there 🔥
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We still have spaces available. Link to book is below ✨
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https://www.brownpapertickets.com/event/4196787
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I love you ❤️
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Happy Sunday! 🌈

Watch the video here

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I was worried of filming this in public about who might see and “judge” me. Then I remembered when you’re worried about how other people see you, they’re just busy worrying about how you see them 😂

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Thoughts are always going to be there. It’s about whether you give your power away to them or choose following through on what you’d love to do ❤️
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Put a song on and move your body today in any way it wants to move for 5 minutes. It doesn’t have to look good and there’s no right or wrong way 😉
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The most valuable physical thing we have is our bodies. Your body will appreciate every single minute you spend moving it. When you treat it well, it will give you 10 fold more 😉
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Have a gorgeous day! ✨
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Love you ❤️
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❤️ HOW TO FALL IN LOVE WITH YOURSELF AFTER A HEARTBREAK ❤️

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Breakups are painful. 

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As much as they hurt, they can also be the beginning of a new chapter.

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Falling in love is one of the most beautiful feelings on the planet. You find each other and love every single thing about each other. You become a team together, you fall into this love bubble you create together.

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You become each other’s whole world, everything and everyone to one another. You forget how you even lived before meeting this person. You love so deeply that you’d do anything for each other. 

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Then for whatever reason, that love bubble pops, you come back to reality. You see parts in this person you don’t like. You either blame the person for not being who you want them to be OR you own the fact that it’s something actually you need to be working on so you hold each other and work through it together. 

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It’s never one thing. It’s the accumulation of little things that leads to breakups. And it hurts. It can feel like this beautiful love you shared is gone overnight and you left with nothing. You might go into the story of the love you shared wasn’t real, you were betrayed, you will never be loved again, men can’t be trusted, they abandon you etc.

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The truth is, when you’re falling in love, you’re falling in love with aspects of yourself. You love yourself through loving the other person. The other person is just you, an aspect of you. When you love those qualities in them, you love the same in yourself ❤️

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The love you shared is always there, it’s never lost. The problem is, you make it about the person. When they are out of the equation, it feels as if the love is gone. It’s not. It shows you what love can feel like so you can feel it with yourself and others.

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After a breakup, you have two choices:

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✨Are you going to close your heart and give up on love? 

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✨Or are you going to keep your heart open and love again and again?

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Mark Nepo says in the documentary, Power of the Heart, heart grows through breaking, like muscles. It’s agony in the moment, it hurts. But the heart says, “Give me more.” It’s about coming back to love, finding acceptance and forgiveness.

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When you close your heart, it can feel like protecting yourself from being hurt but you’re also closing yourself to the love, magic, happiness and all there is in life. There is a risk of your heart being broken again, but the cost you pay when you keep your heart closed is much bigger.

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Nearly throughout last year, I went through a painful breakup. We chose to seperate in a way we hold each other in our sadness and grief as we wanted to be in each other’s life forever as close friends. It was hard because we literally exposed ourselves to feel rather than numbing. It brought up loads of other stuff I avoided looking at before. It wasn’t a straight line where I felt it for three days and that was it. It was more like a cycle where some days I felt free and empowered, some days, I felt sad and heartbroken until one day, I wasn’t sad anymore.

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I had my doubts creeping in, “How can you let this go? Will you find this love again?” When you let go of something not knowing what will come, that in between space can feel scary. Wherever there is space, universe will bring in something. You just don’t know it yet.

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Filling that space doesn’t have to be being with someone else. Be with yourself first, take care of yourself first rather than expecting someone to do that. You can go straight back into another relationship that makes you feel better. This could be a distraction from feeling. When that new connection ends, there you will find your pain, waiting to be felt. That’s all it wants, to be felt.

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Here are some steps to bring you back to your own love when you feel heartbroken:

- Close your eyes.

- Take 4 deep breaths.

- Notice what emotion is present in you? Allow yourself to feel it knowing it’s safe to feel it.

- Which memory is it bringing up in you? When was the first time you felt this?

- Now see the 4 year old you. How does she feel? What does she need to hear from you? Tell her she’s loved, whole and beautiful as she is. No one’s behaviour can change that.

- Place your hand on your heart.

- Imagine bringing down your awareness into your heart space. Take a deep breath into your heart. What is your heart telling you?

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No one’s behaviour or words can change who you are. The way they treat you says more about who they are. It doesn’t mean anything about you but it shows you what you believe about yourself. It shows you about your wounded self and Ego. It’s not who you truly are. The reason it’s happening is to show you a lesson that needs to be learnt, a boundary needs to be put or a change that needs to be made.

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If you’re resistant to self-love, start with self-respect and self-honour. Treat yourself with respect and honouring of your needs. When you do, all the people who don’t treat you well will start vanishing from your reality and you won’t compromise for any less than you deserve.

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"Talk to yourself like you would to someone you love." - Brene Brown

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Forget about everyone else. Only you matter. Everyone else is a gateway to you, to learn more about yourself and love yourself even more. 

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Explore what you love. What brings you joy? What comes naturally to you? What excites you the most? What would you do for the rest of your life if you weren’t paid to do it? What do people say you’re good at?

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Know that you’re healing, growing, learning and expanding your capacity to receive and give love ☺️

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Love you ❤️

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✨ MAGIC OF THE DAY ✨

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There’s a cafe down the road from where I live. Sometimes I work from there. It’s a cafe / plant shop / hairdresser which I found amazing. Someone thought to mix them up and did it, why not. 

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I always give it as an example in sessions when there is a need for certainty and fear of letting go of the outcome while creating 🙏🏼 If you’re creating something unique coming from you, you have to be willing to be in the unknown and let go of the need to control.
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💫 Control - known
💫 Magic - unknown
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I got this plant from there. It literally made its little babies pretty quickly. Aaron showed me how to make them sprout in water until they have roots to be planted. He gave me this beautiful idea of planting them and giving it to friends 🙏🏼
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So I planted one of the baby ones for my mum so she can take it back to Istanbul with her and grow it with love 😍
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Enjoy this gorgeous sunshine today, you incredible being ☀️
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Love you 💛
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Morning workout done! ✌🏼

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I’m doing this 12 week workout & meal programme. I had this cycle of not eating because I’m stressed. Then not being able to workout because I don’t have energy. Finally changing that 💫

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I’m on week 4 now and I’m loving and hating it at the same time 😃 I’ll share more about it when I complete it.
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We have last few spaces left for breathwork tonight 🔥 Come breathe with us! It’s a great way to release any tension, stress, also to connect back to your body and the joy of life, leaving you feeling lighter and free 😍 See you there!
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Link to book is below ✨
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https://www.brownpapertickets.com/event/4095624
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Love you ❤️
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Happy weekend! 

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Hope you’re doing something good for yourself 😘 something nourishing and loving. You come first 💫

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Just a reminder of two things happening next week:
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We still have spaces left for next week’s breathwork journey on Thursday, the 21st.
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Whether you want to give it a go out of curiosity, you want to release some tension and stress or you want to connect with your body and feel joy and gratitude for life, I’d love to have you there ❤️
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You can book your place below 👇🏼
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https://www.brownpapertickets.com/event/4095624
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There are 4 spaces left for Celebrating You, 7 week online course for women that starts on Tuesday, the 19th. 3 days left!
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If you want to connect with deeper parts of yourself, find out what you love, learn how to love yourself and speak your truth, this is for you 💫 I put all my heart and Soul into it, it’s going to be powerful and life changing.
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Payment plans are available. You can book your place below 👇🏼
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https://www.isiktlabar.com/celebrating-you-1
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Any questions you have, just message me ❤️
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Give yourself a big big hug today 😘
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Love you 💙
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