This is my little heaven ❤️

One of the reasons I wanted to live on my own was to see clients at my place and hold mini workshops. I’m so grateful today I’m able to do this 😍

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Last year had a lot of grief for me. At some point it was so intense that I thought I won’t go back to my old joy. I even made peace with not feeling ecstatic or excited about life again. I surrendered to it. At the time, Aaron said something wise as he always does. He said that I won’t go back to my old joy, but I’ll have a new joy that has so much more depth as I’ve gone way into the other side of the spectrum.
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Yesterday evening, I felt that joy during Goddess Circle which I held at my place. It’s a more grounded joy rather than an overexcited and erratic one. It felt alive and I felt totally ok losing this joy again. In that moment, I felt grateful for every single tear, every single loss, every single dark moment. I looked up and saw the word “joy” on this cushion I have.
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Another thing was seeing once again, whether it’s 1 woman, 2 women, 30 women there, the number doesn’t mean anything. Even if one person shows up and receives something out of it, I’ve done my job ❤️
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The next Goddess Circle is on the 28th Jan.
1 space left.
Link to book ✨
https://www.brownpapertickets.com/event/3914294
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The next Freedom Through Breath is on the 31st Jan.
* SOLD OUT *

The one after that - 21st Feb
Link to book ✨
https://www.brownpapertickets.com/event/4053846
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I’m off to dance, wishing you a beautiful and magical evening 😍✨
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Love you ❤️
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🌹 DON’T SAVE PEOPLE, LOVE THEM 🌹

Saving someone strips them out of their power. The intention behind it could be geniune but the person might not be wanting to be saved. Maybe they just wanted to be heard and loved.

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Loving someone instead of saving them could be being there for them, listening to them. It’s not about trying to make things better for them, it’s accepting and meeting them where they’re at and simply asking, “What can I do to support you?” Then trusting they will tell you what they need. If they don’t know what they need, you can support them in finding that but you can’t find that for them.
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When people face a challenge they also have the ability to create resources. Even if you know from afar that they’re messing up, let them mess up. They need to go through that to learn the valuable lesson 🙏🏼
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This is not only overcrossing people’s boundaries but also assuming you know what’s best for them better than them. You might also have a part of you that feels worthy and significant when you save someone. In that case, you’re taking from that person rather than giving.
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If you tend to save others ✨ You can let them know you’re there for them, you love them trusting they will ask for help if they need ❤️
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If you tend to expect to be saved ✨ Know that you’re a powerful being. You can go through the challenge you’re facing. You can speak your truth, set boundary, whatever you need to do. And you can ask for help ❤️
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Loads of love to you 😍
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Happy weekend! 😍❤️

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I hope you’re having a lovely one 💛

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I gave a completion on 2018 - vision for 2019 session in the morning 🙏🏼
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I absolutely love helping people imagine what their year could look like and actually allow it to come to life effortlessly through using few tools. In these sessions, I guide them through letting go of the weight or everything attached to the old year so it’s a fresh start 😍
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I’m offering a 2-2.5 hours long one off session on offer during January. So you complete the last year and kickstart the new year with joy and excitement 🔥
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I only have few spots left. Message me if you’re interested. I’d love to be of service to you 🙏🏼
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Have a beautiful rest of the weekend ❤️
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Love you 😍
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❤️ 4 THINGS TO REMEMBER IN ALL RELATIONSHIPS ❤️

✨When someone rejects you, it doesn’t mean anything about you ✨

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When someone doesn’t want to be with you, it can be almost automatic to take it personally. You might feel abandoned, unloved, unworthy or insignificant. You might question yourself as if there is something wrong with you or you might loose your confidence. You might even change yourself to fit into the criterias of that person so they don’t leave you.

When you’re being yourself and someone rejects you, that is actually a good thing. It shows that you’re not right for each other. When you’re being yourself and that person wants to be with you, that’s beautiful. You win either way. 

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The truth is, there is someone for you out there who will love you for who you are. You don’t have to change yourself and be less of who you are for someone. Ever 😍

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✨When you compare yourself with others, you forget who you are ✨

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When you compare yourself with others, you’re taking something external as a reference point and you loose your centre, you give your power away. 

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Especially on social media when you look at other people’s lives, it’s easy to fall into the trap of comparison. You don’t know the whole story of what’s going on for them. No one’s life is perfect. Even if they tell you they don’t have any issues, that’s not true. They’re either playing it small, not being honest with themselves or haven’t gone deeper into their wounds.

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Write a list of 20 things you love about yourself, it could be about how you look, your character, anything. 20 things that makes you, you ❤️ Next time you catch yourself comparing with others, you can bring your focus back to what you love about yourself.

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✨ You can ask for what you want and have it ✨

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You might feel like you can’t ask for what you want not just from your partner but from people around you. It might feel awkward, you might feel you don’t deserve to have it or you might not want to let people in to keep yourself safe as asking for help requires vulnerability.

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A good way to ask for what you want is speak from your heart. Don’t offer a favour first, or tell how tired you are hoping they’ll get the message, that’s manipulation. Ask directly. Be clear and loving. If they say no, that’s ok, again doesn’t mean anything about you. Ask someone else. You’ll be surprised how many people are willing to help you, they just don’t know how. 

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✨ Give yourself what you wants others to give you ✨

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Close your eyes and imagine the 5 year old you infront of you. What does s/he need? What does s/he need to hear from you to feel safe and loved? Tell them that.

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Give your inner child what you want others to give you. This way you meet your own needs and you don’t get upset by others’ actions towards you, especially by your parents’. When the need for them to do something is not there, they naturally give you what you always wanted anyway 😊 This also helps you to focus on your future with ease and flow rather than dwelling on the past.

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Feel free to share if you found this useful 😍

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I work on those areas (relationship & purpose) a lot in 1:1 coaching/clearing sessions. If you want support in mastering these, message me ❤️

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Love you 😘

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I totally forgot to share that ...

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… One Tribe Magazine started to publish my writing every month 😍 First one is the January edition, second one is the December ❤️ 

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Your time and presence are the best gifts you can give to anyone and I’m grateful for every time you choose giving that to receive what I write. I will never take it for granted 🙏🏼

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Last Saturday, I spent the day in Oxford...

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… walking around streets, sitting on top of a hill, laughing, catching up with my friends from university where I studied architecture 💛

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I lived there three years ago, it changed soo much since then. Every time I go back to a place I used to live, I see that it’s not about the place itself. It’s the people you had the memories with that make the place special ❤️

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It was so lovely to see what everyone was up to. I don’t do architecture anymore obviously. Few others changed the direction they’re going as well. We were talking about how studying architecture gave us so much. Discipline and work ethic 🙏🏼 It taught me how to organise my life, my business, how to work even when I haven’t slept much.l, how to always push through and deliver even when I don’t feel like it.
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Going back, I wouldn’t change a thing. It was so difficult but it made me who I am today and I’m so grateful ❤️ I wouldn’t do it again though 😂
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Everyone in this photo and everyone from the Oxford crew, I love you 😍
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👩🏽 HEALING THE PARENT WOUND 👨🏽

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This is can hold the key to your freedom, being yourself authentically. Family is not an area people want to work on until they realise it effects all areas of their life from relationships to business.

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Most of our fears and insecurities come from our perception of our interaction with our parents. Everyone had something in their childhood. Even the person who had the most beautiful childhood has pain somewhere whether they share it or not.
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Maybe your parents never saw you and understood you. Maybe they physically abused you leaving you feeling worthless. Or maybe they put too much pressure on you that you felt you had to be perfect to receive their love.
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Your mum and dad will never be who you want them to be. There will always be something you wish they did or didn’t do. The truth is you can’t change the past but you can see the lessons and forgive them.
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So how do you forgive?
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You see that forgiveness is for your freedom, not for them. When you forgive, you’re not making them right. You’re choosing to let go of the weight, resentment and move on. You’re choosing your future over your past.
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There is such a truthful quote I found the other day by Anne Lamott, “Expectations are resentments under constructions.”
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When you expect your mum or dad to do something, you lost sight of who they truly are. You might say, “Yeah but they’re meant to be my parents!”. They are, but they’re humans on their journey as well and no one is perfect.
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Letting go of the story requires you stepping into your authority and leadership which can feel scary. Because who would you be without your story? It’s what the little girl/boy in you have known all those years.
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This is a process of growing up and parenting yourself, coming closer to yourself every step along the way.
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Your parents are your mirrors. They show you parts you don’t love and accept about yourself. The more you love them, the more you love yourself ✨
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If you’d like support in forgiving, loving your parents, and healing childhood traumas, I offer coaching sessions around this. I deeply care about you all and I want you to move forward with ease, freedom and love this year 😍
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If you’re interested, message me ❤️
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I love you 🌹
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(Image is me with my mum and dad, love them so much 😍)
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😍 THANK YOU 😍

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These were the posts you guys liked or commented on the most in 2018 ❤️ (On Instagram really but pretty much the same on here)

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I’m deeply grateful for all of you, for reading what I write (it’s ok if you don’t read until the end, I know they’re long 😃), for sharing the posts, for commenting your experience and your emotions. I appreciate and value all of them and all of you.
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When I’m sharing vulnerable topics, I don’t share to be witnessed or to be seen. If I’m sharing it, it means I’ve already done this part with someone. I share when I feel that it will serve someone. Even if it serves one person, I’ve done my job. For this reason, there are many things I don’t share because it just doesn’t serve anyone to know the information.
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I share when I feel complete about something. If it’s still ongoing, I share at a point where I reach certain level of awareness around it.
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I want to make it clear that I have anxieties, fears, insecurities from time to time like everyone. I naturally don’t want to be vulnerable. My Ego doesn’t like it. I believe if I am, people will find out there is something bad about me and will run away. So for me, it’s a constant practice of getting over it and being open because I know it serves. The more I share, there’s a momentum that builds and you guys getting so much out of them and sharing what it did for you just keeps me going 🙏🏼
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A massive THANK YOU to you all again for showing up, being here and doing the work.
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You are so loved ❤️
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I’d love to know what you want me to write more about this year. Comment below or message me 😍
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