I'm back! 😘

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Had 2 weeks in Istanbul seeing friends and family, playing lots of games and doing bit of work..
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Now I'm ready for London, allowed myself some time to rest yesterday and went back into sessions today.
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If you had a break from something and when you get back to it, you feel like not knowing where to start from, just start from somewhere. And the momentum will start picking up quickly.
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Don't try to figure it all out before you start. If you do that, it's guaranteed you won't start 😂
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And don't compromise, whatever you imagine, you can have it. As it is, not the watered down version but the actual dream ✨
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If you vaguely know what your dream is but not sure where to start from, book a 1 hour free taster session with me to get clear on it and find out the next step: 
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https://calendly.com/isik
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I will ever be grateful for my clients and the women who show up at the workshops I do. They show me so much more than what I show them, if not more sometimes.. If that's you, thank you from the bottom of my heart 😍
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Number 1 way to grow and heal, serve someone to grow and heal 😃💜 And no, you don't have to heal yourself fully to do it. 
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Now I'm off to 5rhythms to dance, one of the things I miss when I'm away.. 
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Wishing you a beautiful evening y'all 💛✨
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💥 FOLLOWN YOUR TRUTH 💥

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I watched the movie "The Greatest Showman" last night. I was in tears within the first 5 minutes.
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It's all about being seen, dreaming big and being yourself, doing what you believe no matter what people around you tell you. It's also about breaking through the norms, letting go of what people expect from you.
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You might feel like your family, society, the world have a certain expectation from you. You have to fulfill it, otherwise you can be disowned. You might not be loved and the world can feel like an unpredictable, unsafe and dangerous place.
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The truth is you can create whatever you want. You don't have to settle in for less than what you want. You can have what you want and so much more. 
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You can do something that has never been done before. Your dream can be something so insane, so weird, so out there. And that's amazing! Keep it that way, it doesn't have to be achievable and reasonable. 
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You don't have to mold in. You don't have to follow the norm, do what everyone else is doing. You don't have to plan the next 10 years like most people do. That's a safe, limited, small way of living. You don't have to make people feel uncomfortable. I'm not saying, be a dick. But there's a middle ground where you're following your truth and you're also loving and compassionate to those who don't understand you, yet. 
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If you're doing something that's not mainstream, in the beginning you might get resistance from people. Sometimes its your own worries reflected back at you, sometimes you are the reflection of people's deepest fear right in their face. Because you're showing them what they're scared to face.
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When you do that thing, then they understand  😉 They might come and tell you, you made them wrong. They might not even say that, that doesn't matter. You show them your dream by making it a physical reality. 
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If a guy didn't go, I want to build a vehicle that allows you to fly across continents, we wouldn't have planes today. I'm sure the inventor of planes got some hate and ridicule when they shared their dream. Those dreams made the world we have today. 
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If you feel like you want to do something but scared what others might say, follow these steps:
- If you had nothing stopping you, what would you do?
- What thought comes up to stop you from doing that? (Ex: People will laugh, I can't do that etc.)
- For a moment, imagine yourself rising above from that thought, floating above it connecting to your true essence, free from everything
- What's the first step to make that a reality?
- Take that step ✨
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Your creations happen as a result of you taking one step at a time. You have the power to choose what you want to do. If you do this after 6 months, you will look back and go, wow I created a whole new life.. That's what I did.
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What's your wildest dream? What do you want to leave behind when you leave this world? 
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Mine is connecting women to their feminine power. I want to see women speaking their truth, making their dreams come true, changing the world, doing business while being connected to their feminine side. I want to empower them to embody their sexuality and sensuality fully. I want women and men to have fun, connect, laugh, enjoy this beautiful life.. And I'd love to dance infront of thousands of people few times ☺️💛
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Nothing more than hearing people's dreams excites me, would love to hear yours below or message me😍❤️
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And watch Greatest Showman, its a true story, so wonderful to see more Hollywood movies becoming awakened and aware.. 

Have a gorgeous weekend, wherever you are 🙌🏼⭐️✨
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⭐️ COMPLETING 2017 ✨ STARTING 2018 ⭐️

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What a year it has been.. For the last few hours I'm sitting in a Starbucks, going through the photos, videos I've taken in 2017. I'm reflecting, writing, crying, feeling all sorts of emotions, letting go, inviting in my dreams.. 

If I had to give a title to last year it'd be, "Own Yourself: Transform Your Life in 1 Year". So much happened in this past year 🙌🏼
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I facilitated:
- 3 Find Your Bliss workshops
- 1 Connection Through Joy workshop
- 10 Goddess Circles
- 2 Freedom Through Breath workshops
- 1 Embrace Your Divinity workshop
- 1 cacao ceremony
- 2 interviews
- 141 private sessions
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Completed a transformational coaching qualification, 4 group breathwork sessions, a big clear out in my house, ISTA training level 1, 4 times being on the team for SuperGenius..
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Launched my website, my business, women's group, had a stand, attended so many networking events, met so many wonderful people doing what they love..
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Had countless breathwork, healings, dances, breakthroughs, Indian food, laughters, hugs, celebrations, ups and downs..
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As the year went I had less makeup, fewer bras, a bigger altar, more 5rhythms, more feathers, more dresses..
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A funeral happened. A wedding and a new baby was born..
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My body changed completely through healing, breathwork, releasing, changing old programs without even working out regularly..
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I danced fully naked with beautiful beings celebrating joy of life..
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I created an intimate and playful relationship with my man where we grow and serve together..
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I went on a holiday in Turkey with my love traveling around for 5 weeks..
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The wisest decision I made was always following my truth. The biggest risk I took was doing my first solo women's workshop making it up on the spot. The most important thing I did for others was to connect them to their true essence, cutting through all the crap we tell ourselves.

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I'm sharing some moments that meant a lot for me in the last year. The biggest lesson I learnt last year was there's no point in success and accomplishment if there's no one to share it with, so I want to thank some people for their presence and love in my life 💜 
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I can't tag everyone I ever had a connection with this year, if your name is not there please don't take it personally. If we were in each other's life in some way this year, know that I love and acknowledge you ✨ Also know that there was a tag limit 😃
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My sisters NathalieG-Therapies GulieSarahLaurenDaisieAmandaTamlynMarium for times they held me, supported me, laughed loads with me and went on adventures with me. I love you all and even when I dissappear and go to my independance mode know that I'm there for you 💖
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My Genius friends Filip, RachaelAdamEmmaTaylorSoheylJoshYui, Isabel, Ali, Daisie, Gulie, Steve, RyanDanielleCarole, Lucy, Kálmán, Moss, Mark, Gina, Duane, Magdalena, Jonna. Thank you for your love, awareness, playfulness, openness and just being yourselves in your own unique way 🔮
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My friends from my hometown Istanbul, KeremBahadırMayaMertHazel, Ceyda, Oya, Ceren and so many more people that I'm grateful for having in my life, who saw me changing throughout this year, I love you 💜
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My Animas coaching family Anne-Marie, Natasha, Marcus, Nathalie, Craig, Lama, Abbey, Yanina, Hayley, CharlotteEmma, Steve, Ilsinha, Helle, Todd. Thank you for sharing this journey with me, I'm so grateful to have met you this year and so looking forward to see how our businesses will grow as we all grow 🙌🏼
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My ISTA family who entered my family just in the end of this year, Elaine, Sam, Catherine, Rex, DavidMoranNatalieNatalieSiobhanJulianLaura, Lorraine, Signe, Candice, Alix, Miriam and many more. I love you all and can't wait to connect with you more on this beautiful journey of embodiment and liberation..
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My clients and everyone who attended to workshops I did, who read my writings, thank you for showing up, following your truth and willing to go deep into your vulnerability to connect to who you truly are, I love you ✨
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My parents ArifIpek and my family, thank you for believing in me and still supporting me with your love even when you didn't agree with what I was doing 😃 I love you 💞
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My coach and friend Sherin, for supporting me all along when I was about to give up, when I didn't want to go into the unknown, when I wanted to plan out eveything for once instead of flowing and trusting, thank you for guiding me to the truth ❤️
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My friend Duke, thank you for everything we shared, talks, adventures, healings. You taught me so much this year that I'll ever be grateful for. I'm always here for you and I want to see you more in 2018 💙
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My love Aaron for your belief in me, love you have for me, adventures, connections, breakthroughs we had together this year. I love you with all my heart and looking forward to our beautiful journey together 💚
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I am proud of the woman I've become. And I am grateful for the growth and transformation that happened in my life last year.

I learnt that when I follow through on my truth, I get what I want and so much more. When I seek an acknowledgment everything goes downhill. I learnt that I can do anything that I put into my mind, that I have a lot to offer and share. I learnt that as I create a life I love, things don't have to be hard, a struggle. It can be fun, easy and effortless. 
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I'm letting go of:
- Needing a rule book telling me how to do things
- Fitting into norm, not wanting to push people's understanding of what's acceptable
- Playing small
- Self judgment, impatience, sadness, anger and so much more
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Thank you so much for all the lessons, all the hard times, all the fun times. Thank you 2017 for pushing me to own myself, to follow my truth. I let go of the girl I was and welcome the woman I am today 😍
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Next year will have:
- Publishing 2 books
- Running a retreat for women
- Guiding men and women into who they truly are
- More breathwork, healing, dancing, tantra, sessions, workshops, talks
- Travels, festivals, trainings
- Connecting with people more
- Many more things I will reveal as I go 😉
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I will say yes when its true to say yes, when I'm about to play big and when there's an opportunity to grow ✨
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Here are great questions to acknowledge, appreciate and complete 2017:
1. What have I created in 2017?
2. What have I learnt in 2017?
3. What am I letting go of from 2017?
4. What am I going to create in 2018?
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If you want a deeper completion, (this is how I did mine), you can fill out this form as well: 
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http://yearcompass.com/…/YearCompass_booklet_en_us_A4_filla…
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Dare to dream. Let your imagination go wild, there's no limit to what you can create in the next year 😉 Anything is possible. Now it's your time to shine! ⭐️✨
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Happy new years! Wishing you everything you ever desired in this year ahead of you..
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I love you all 😍

Early New Year's celebration with family 😍🎉✨

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Playing backgammon is a well known thing in Turkey and my uncle is really good at it, I found out he was the best in our family tonight. I'm proud to say I won 3-1 despite his verbal demoralisations :)
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I absolutely love board games. I get really competitive in them and usually win ☺️💙 
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Who loves board games? 🎲
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Let's play! I'll still love you even if you win 😃💛
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Wishing you a wonderful last day of 2017 ⭐️✨
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Today my man and I have been together for 1 year! 😍❤️

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One year of adventures, diving into each other's dreams, fears, triggers.. Going to new levels of love, growth and intimacy over and over again..
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I feel very grateful we're at this point. We might look like we have the perfect relationship from the outside. But its not perfect obviously. No relationship is what it looks like from the outside. We created this beautiful connection and love we share but it didn't happen overnight magically.
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We constantly push each other to grow together. Intimate relationships are such a huge mirror, it brings up all parts of you, especially the parts you don't want to see. And I'm so grateful in those moments one of us didn't go, that's it I had enough, its over 😃 Funnily enough these are the moments that brought us closer too.
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Last night we went through these questions and spent an hour looking back at what we created together in the past year ✨ 
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These are great questions Aaron made up. They help you see parts of your relationships you haven't noticed before and acknowledge more of what you have. Having these conversations stops you from taking the other person for granted as well. 
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Here are the fabulous questions 💁🏽✨
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1. What is your favourite memory of your first year together?
2. What is the most magical moment of the last year?
3.List your 5 favourite things about you as a couple
4. List your 5 favourite things about the other person
5. Has anything surprised you about your relationship?
6. What’s been the hardest thing that you’ve gone through?
7. What has brought you closer together so far?
8. When do you feel most loved?
9. What would you like more of in your relationship?
10. What would you like less of in your relationship?
11. What have you learnt this year in your relationship?
12. What would you like to unfold in your relationship over the next year?
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You can even prepare a whole evening around going through these questions with your partner to connect deeper ❤️ Have fun! 😉
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Loads of love to you all 💛

🎉 HOLIDAY TIME & FAMILY TRIGGERS 🎉

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Merry Christmas and happy holidays! 

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Whether Christmas is a happy, joyful place for you, whether you really don't care about it or whether its not as easy for you as it is for some people, Merry Christmas and happy holidays! Honour however you're feeling. You don't have to be feeling happy this time just because everyone is. I see and feel you.
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I'm with Aaron's family today and tomorrow eating food and being together. Then we're going to Turkey on Thursday for the new year's eve. Everything you do for Christmas, gifts, tree, family time is done on the new year's eve there. So I'm having a double Christmas this year 😃
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If you're choosing to spend this time with your family, you might have old wounds surfacing, or thing you thought you dealt with. If you have doubt that you haven't progressed, see your growth as a spiral, not a line. You feel like you arrived at the same place but on a deeper level and awareness you have today.
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Follow these steps to let go of a trigger you have being around someone in your family:
- Notice and name how you're feeling
- What is that feeling telling you to do or not do?
- Close your eyes, take in a deep breath in.
- Have the 4 year old you in front of you, ask them to show a scene that made you feel the same way.
- Let the scene unfold and now see it unfold in a way that it makes the 4 year old you safe.
- Now imagine yourself rising above the situation, seeing it from a higher perspective.
- Ask, 'What's the truth?' Or 'What would I love in this moment?'
- What's that telling you to do or not do?
- Follow through on that.
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I wish you a gorgeous Christmas and a wonderful time whereever you are. And happy birthday if you're born around this time of the year as well 😃 See it as everyone's celebrating your new age with you 😍🎉
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Loads of love to you! ❤️
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💛 BOUNDARIES: SAYING YES 💛

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The other day, I posted about saying no, today's about saying yes ☺️

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If you haven't read it, you can read it in my previous post ⭐️

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So boundary is a choice you make about what you feel ok and not ok with.

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And how do you know when a yes is a true yes?

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You see people go, 'just go for it', sometimes its a real no. Sometimes not doing is true. And sometimes going for it is the true choice.

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You might be scared of saying yes, to be in the unknown. You might not want to commit fearing it might take your freedom away from you. You might not trust that things are going to work out. Or you might feel like if you want something you won't get it. So simply not wanting it will keep you safe and ok.

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The truth is you can have everything you desire. If you don't have it by now, doesn't mean you'll never have it. Own what you want, ask for it. It puts you in a vulnerable place, because you're asking for what you desire. You're risking yourself to get hurt.

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But you're also opening your heart to receive what you truly want. You can't receive if you're not open. And even if you don't get it, accept it didn't happen, let go of any meaning you make about yourself and go for it again without scaling down what you want ✨

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Follow these steps to find out what a real yes feels in your body:

- Close your eyes, take in a deep breath in.

- Repeat in your mind, 'My name is ...(your name).' 

- Repeat in your mind, 'Yes'

- Notice how that feels in your body. Where do you feel the yes in your body?

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When you do this you'll get a yes as a feeling, visual, hearing or just a knowingness. Know that that's how your yes feels like. Next time you say yes you'll know if its true or not.

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When do you struggle to say yes? When do you absolutely know when something is a hell yes for you? 

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Would love to hear ✨

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Loads of love to you 💛

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💛 BOUNDARIES: SAYING NO 💛

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What are boundaries? 

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They are choices you make about what you feel ok and not ok with.
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These can feel like non existent for you. You might feel like you never explored boundaries. In some cultures, it can even be considered disrespectful to have boundaries, to say no, but they're actually super healthy agreements you have with people to respect and love one another.
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You might have had an experience where you said yes when really you wanted to say no. Maybe you felt guilty about saying no, maybe you felt that's what you should say to get love.
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Each time you say yes but you actually want to say no, you're abandoning your body. You start loosing trust in yourself and in your own intuition.
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You don't have to take on people's fear and worries when they are accusing you, so that the conflict will be over. You can say no.
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You don't have to have sex when you don't feel like it, so that the argument will be over and you can go to bed. You can say no.
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You don't have to drink at the bar when you don't want, so that everyone else who is drinking won't judge you. You can say no.
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The problem is the guilt that comes up, when you say no. Stay with the guilt, feel it. Then ask what you need and prioritise your needs before others. This can feel selfish but actually it benefits everyone in the long run.
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Saying no is a loving thing to do for the other person too. Then they can trust you that you will speak your truth instead of resenting them. You can always choose not to have what you don't want. You don't have to justify yourself either. And at any point, you can also change your mind.
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Follow these steps to find out what a real yes and a real no feels in your body:
- Close your eyes, take in a deep breath in.
- Repeat in your mind, 'My name is ...(someone else's name).'
- Repeat in your mind, 'No'
- Notice how the no feels in your body. Where do you feel it in your body?
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This is your real, authentic no. Start noticing how you feel when you say no in your daily life. If its a maybe, take that as a no for now and then explore it again 😉
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When do you struggle to say no? When do you absolutely know when something is a no for you?
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Share below if you're drawn to or private message me if you don't want to share publicly, would love to hear. You can also say no and choose not to 😃
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Loads of love to you 💛
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Last Saturday, I assisted on a 1 day shamanic breathwork..

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Last Saturday, I assisted on a 1 day shamanic breathwork with Aaron and few other gorgeous souls ✨

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In breathwork, you breathe deeply so that oxygen and energy can go through your body. When this happens you might feel an emotion like sadness or anger coming up. You release it through making sounds and moving your body.

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At some point while hearing everyone releasing loads, I felt super calm, feeling a wave of gratitude for myself, for choosing this path..
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For choosing working on myself every day, for not numbing myself with drugs and alcohol, for following the truth every single day, for letting my heart guide me even when it wasn't the easiest choice..
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I was even scared to go a cacao ceremony 2 years ago, thinking its a bit out there. 2 years after, there I was in a shamanic breathwork, rocking a standard Saturday for me 😃
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Sometimes I got asked how do you find peope like you, people who get you. You don't have to find them. You are meant to shine in your own way, so they can find you 😉
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For everyone out there who follow bit of an alternative path refusing to blend in, I see you. I honour you and I love you 🙏🏼💙
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You are not alone. Keep being you and let your heart guide you 💖
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Loads of love