🙏🏼 GIVING YOURSELF PERMISSION 🙏🏼

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Last weekend, I went to Elizabeth Gilbert’s talk. She’s the author of ‘Eat, Pray, Love’ and ‘Big Magic’.

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She’s super funny, real, loving, straightforward and compassionate all at the same time, loved her energy and the way she spoke. Such a courageous Soul ✨
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We wrote ourselves letters from different aspects of ourselves. One letter we wrote specifically hit close to home. It was a permission slip.
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There might be times you feel like you can’t do the things you want to do because you might feel you will be judged, you might feel like a bad person for wanting to do these things. Then shame comes in. An endless battle starts within you trying to be good. You look outside of yourself wanting someone to tell you you’re ok.
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Usually this person is some sort of authority figure, teacher, mum, dad. Someone you look up to, someone you believe if they agree with what you are doing and who you are, you’re all good.
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What if you gave yourself that permission you’ve been seeking for?
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We wrote the ultimate permission slip from the authority, the head teacher within us. It goes like this, I put in some examples:
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From the office of the head teachers, (you gotta make it all formal)
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Dear (your name),
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I’m the head teacher and this is your permission slip.
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I give you permission to not clean up that food you spilled straight away.
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I give you permission to not smile when you’re not feeling like smiling.
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I give you permission to change your hair colour.
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(And goes on until you feel complete.)
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Sincerely,
The head teacher
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You list everything you’ve been meaning to do or be but felt like you can’t do that. This is your permission from yourself to yourself.
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You can say things like ‘I give you permission to love yourself, to forgive yourself’ etc but be specific. Maybe its speaking your truth about something, maybe its about allowing yourself to cry or maybe its taking yourself to that retreat or holiday.
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When some of the people in the room read their permission slip, the energy was incredible. So freeing, expanded and honest. I definitely felt freer when I wrote mine🌻
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Try this for yourself, write it out and put it up somewhere you can see 😍
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Ask these questions:
- What exactly is it you want to give yourself permission for?
- What is it you want to do?
- What is it you want to stop doing?
- What would you love to do if no one would judge or shame you?
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Would love to hear some in the comments if you feel like sharing 🌷
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Sending you loads of love 💛
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🌻☀️🍂❄️ YOUR EMPOWERED CYCLE ❄️🍂☀️🌻

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And another offering 😍

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Amanda and I joined together to create an experience of coming into alignment with your menstrual cycle through awareness and movement 🌹
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As nature follows the seasons, as does a woman's body. As women, we flow through the seasons. We have a beautiful built in system in our bodies, our menstrual cycle which allows us to experience all 4 seasons and elements within a month. We go through winter, spring, summer and autumn as we bleed and as our bleeding ceases.
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When you know which season is on its way you get to prepare yourself rather than beig completely confused and aloof about what’s going on in your body.
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This is a 4 hour immersion starting with a talk/discussion about all 4 seasons and archetypes we embody every month, followed by a guided dance giving you the experience of how these seasons actually feel in your body so when you do experience them another time you can recognise them. Your body will remember once it has the experience ❤️
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Aligning yourself with your cycle allows you to feel your feminine power and energy more, life starts to flow and happen with more ease and syncronicity ✨
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1 July Sunday // 2-6pm
Evolve Wellness Centre, South Kensington
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Earlybird tickets end tonight 🌻
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Book your place via the link - https://www.brownpapertickets.com/event/3415100
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Feel free to share with those who you feel might benefit this workshop 🌹
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Loads of love to you 💛✨
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😍 BEAUTIFUL WOMEN 😍

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I’m excited to announce Clara and I are offering a women’s retreat on 6-8 July in Kent - The Integrated Feminine! ❤️

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For few months, I wanted to create a weekend away from your usual surroundings going into nature with women 🌹 Clara reached out to me asking if I want do a retreat with her so here it is 😍
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This will be a 2.5 days immersion in nature into your wild power and playful innocence coming out from the other side feeling whole, complete and alive 🔥
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In pilgrimages, you sleep in different places, you walk different ways every day. New awareness, wisdom, inspiration start coming to you because you’re opening yourself up. You’re not doing what you normally do in every day life. It’s the opposite of taking the same tube to same work every day. It creates new pathways in your system allowing you to experience life in a whole new way.
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This weekend is an experience of exactly that. Experimenting and opening yourself up to being alive on a whole new level in a held, empowered, loving space. No judgment, no shame. You can be anything here 💛
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First 7 women who register will receive a reduced price of £177. We have 4 of those places left at the moment.
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You can pay the initial deposit of £100 to secure your place and pay the rest in a month if you wish to.
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Here’s the link to book your place:
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https://www.brownpapertickets.com/event/3434972
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Any questions you have, please message me ✨
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Looking forward to seeing you there if you’re feeling to be there 😍❤️
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Loads of love 🌹
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Yesterday was Mother’s Day here in Turkey 😍

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I honour my mum on this day and every day for her love, her courage, her belief in me, her strength and power. I love you mum with all my heart 💛

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I honour all mothers for their selfless love, patience and compassion that ripples out to the world and carries on to ripple out through their children.
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Whether you’re an actual mum or not, I honour the mother, the creator in you who loves, who brings projects to life and nurtures them ✨
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Loads of love to you all 💛
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💙 ASK FOR WHAT YOU WANT 💙

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This has been an area I’ve been practicing and mastering for the last year. Asking for what I want directly without any manipulation or anything and receiving it when it arrives.

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You may feel like to have what you want there are other things you need to do. For example, before asking for something from someone, you might believe they need to like you first. So your energy goes into making yourself loveable rather than asking for what you want. This takes a lot of energy and distracts you from where you are going.

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You can have what you want as you are the version of you today. Anything you desire in life, you are entitled to it right now without having to do anything else to deserve it.

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I’ll share a story with you, something happened the other day when I asked for what I wanted ✨

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Some of you know, before the last one day workshop I held, I was locked outside, wasn’t given the right codes by the venue organiser. I managed to get in anyway. Here’s how I got in, if you haven’t read:

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https://www.facebook.com/isik.tlabar/posts/10160272892720300

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I emailed the venue organiser explaining what actually happened on the day and asked for a full refund. He understood, came back with offering 50% off from the next hire of the venue. That was nice but I won’t be hiring the same venue again. So I asked for the full refund again. He came back offering %50 refund. By this point, I’m tempted to take the half refund. But I reminded myself, that’s a compromise, that’s not what I wanted. So I held my request for full refund 🙏🏼

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He emailed me back saying he will offer the full refund 😎 And I received it after 3 days. 

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This was a great example for me to remind myself I can ask for what I want and have it without compromise. When you go for a compromise thinking its way better than where you were, other things in your life starts going into compromise as the message you’re sending to the universe is ‘I’m ok with half-hearted things.’ So the universe sends you that.

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Here are the steps to get what you want with no compromise:

- Close your eyes, take a deep breath. Imagine you’re pure light being connected to everything through all time and space.

- Ask, ‘What do I want?’ 

- Allow any answers to come up. You need to know what you want before asking for what you want.

- Hold that as your vision, imagine it as it happened already.

- Ask, ‘What did I do to get here?’

- Follow that step

- The other person might be reluctant. You don’t need to make the situation comfortable for them. Hold the uncomfortable silence or whatever is happening between you. You’re entitled to have what you want.

- At any point, when you have doubt, use this process to refocus back to your truth.

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You don’t need to believe you can have what you want. You just need to imagine it as it happened already and take the next step from that place. Once you have what you want, that would be the proof for your Ego to believe it.

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Would love to hear in the comments below something you received by sticking to what you want 🙏🏼💙

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This is a funny video makes me laugh each time I watch it, a comedian manages to get his parking fine cancelled 😄 

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https://youtu.be/2Gkiw7zpULo

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Wishing you a wonderful evening ✨

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Loads of love 🌹

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My sweet sweet grandma passed away on Saturday... 

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Sending so much love to her ❤️ I’m going to Istanbul to be with my family, literally on the plane now🌹

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My mum told me it was raining all day when the funeral was happening. When she was being put back to the Earth, the rain stopped for 15 minutes, then started again. Incredible.
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Blessings and prayers for her would be much appreciated if you’re feeling generous and loving 💙
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Loads of love 💛
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❤️😍 GRATITUDE FOR WHAT I DO 😍❤️

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I’ve given a session yesterday evening. Then I sat here crying, feeling grateful for the sessions I offer.

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We have been working together for around 14 months, the longest time period I’ve been working with someone 1-1. She’s one of my first clients. I’ve seen her grow into the courageous, powerful woman she became today.

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Her dream is to go traveling all around the world going on adventures, run a wellbeing hostel surrounded by nature, write inspiring short stories. I had a feeling she was going to take off to travel in 5-6 months. Yesterday she told me she’s going real soon. 

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We looked at what she created here in London and what she learnt, truly celebrated all that she became and felt into what her next chapter is going to be about. I knew the session we did yesterday was going to happen soon but I felt super proud of her that it was now. 

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I cried. I was a bit hesitant to cry in a session thinking it’s a session, I’m holding space etc then I went, ‘Fuck it, this is so beautiful.’ 😍

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She cried as well and we just looked at each other on Skype. It felt like a beautiful, honouring completion. I thanked her for the gift of serving her. I think you can always grow, go to the next level and have someone who has your back all along. You don’t have to do it alone. With her, she came to a point she has everything she needs and she’s good to go.

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I have moments where I doubt what I do. I sit here thinking, ‘What am I doing?’, ‘Why am I putting myself through this?’, ‘Is it worth all this?’. I love it, but some days are just not easy. Some days, I want to just stop everything and not do anymore sessions. Then I show up for the next session. I’ve given something around 250 sessions in the last year and rescheduled maybe 2-3 from my part.

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I think that’s one thing I’m really good at. I always show up even if I’m dying inside. I don’t cancel things because I’m not feeling like it. It’s great when I’m feeling happy and joyful. But it’s not as easy when I’ve just broken up with my partner the day before. It’s not easy when all I want to do is stay in bed and not do anything that day but I have 3 sessions booked for the day. So I get up. 

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Running your coaching business is not just giving sessions. It’s booking in the sessions, rescheduling if someone forgets a session, following up with people, making calls, replying emails, sending invoice, sending session notes (I do anyway). And organising your life on top of that so you don’t become a workaholic. Most days I do it with joy and I love it. But some days I don’t have patience or resilience for any of that.

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Yesterday was a day where I felt grateful for carrying on no matter how hard it got sometimes. I felt deep respect for myself for persisting.

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Nothing excites me more than seeing someone I work with physically making their dreams their reality... And I feel grateful I’m able to do that 💙

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Today I’m grateful for myself for choosing to carry on following my truth no matter how hard it gets. The reward is seeing others feeling whole and confident🌹

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I feel like there’s a shame around coaches, guides, healers, facilitators around not feeling like serving, that what you’re doing is sacred and you need to appreciate that you’re doing it. It’s absolutely natural if you’re not feeling your usual serving vibes. You’re human and you’re not meant to be linear and motivated every day. Just show up anyway because someone needs it ✨

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So much has been going on for me recently, will share them one post at a time 🙏🏼

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Wishing you a beautiful weekend 😍

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Loads of love 💛

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She Created Her Life

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Thank you She Created Her Life team last weekend for creating such a beautiful, creative event collaborating empowering workshops during the day with incredible dance performances in the evening 💙

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It was an honour to be part of your beautiful creation ✨

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You rock beauties Ella & Tichea 💛✨
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Mural artwork by Alessandra Tortone 🌹
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Blessed by the sun today ☀️💛

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We had a breathwork journey last night that was sacred, beautiful and transformative 😍

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After last night, I felt grateful to have found breathwork as a tool to take people into their supressed emotions so these emotions can be expressed and released in a safe and loving space ✨
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Making people feel held where they feel they can be themselves brings me so much joy. I see their eyes shining bright afterwards and I feel that my job is done 😍
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Thank you Amanda and Aaron for assisting, for your love, presence and support. Thank you everyone who joined us last night for going deep into yourselves. Without you showing up, none of this would happen, grateful for you 🙌🏼
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The next one will be in September, message me your email to stay tuned for the next breathwork journey 💙
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I’m giving a 30 mins movement workshop tomorrow at She Created Her Life, its an event from 11am till 11pm for women including workshops, talks, dance and spoken word performances. Come join us ❤️
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https://www.richmix.org.uk/festivals/she-created-her-life
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Then on Monday I have another Goddess Circle, back to back workshops these days 😄
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Wishing you a beautiful weekend 🌺
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Loads of love!
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Thank you Ryan Pinnick for a powerful momentum workshop yesterday 😍

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I feel super excited about what’s to come 🙌🏼 I want to share one of the things he shared with us.

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He shared his ‘what if’ game, you go with scenarios asking what if. It’s a great freeing exercise to do, it opens up the rigidity and allows you to let go of control, because its just a game 😉
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What can happen is because you imagine different possibilities, you might like one of them and go for it. It reaches a point where you become clear in what you want and you wait until it becomes true to take action. That’s how you do a lot less to get a lot more done. Give it a go and see what comes up 🙌🏼
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These are regular momentum workshop of the SuperGenius community I’m part of. They do various training to connect you to your intuition and create what you love.
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After many workshops I did, 2 years ago this was the final one that made me go, ‘Ok I’m going to have my own business leading a movement to empower women.’ That’s when diploma in transformational coaching, workshops, sessions etc came into my life.
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The best part of it is you stay connected with people who are true to themselves creating what they want in their lives ✨
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They have a free introductory event in London 5th May 10am-4pm. Book below for your place ❤️
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https://sz142.isrefer.com/go/UYG-1day-Workshop/a8465
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Loads of love to you 🌻
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