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πŸ’› BOUNDARIES: SAYING YES πŸ’›

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The other day, I posted about saying no, today's about saying yes ☺️

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If you haven't read it, you can read it in my previous post ⭐️

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So boundary is a choice you make about what you feel ok and not ok with.

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And how do you know when a yes is a true yes?

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You see people go, 'just go for it', sometimes its a real no. Sometimes not doing is true. And sometimes going for it is the true choice.

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You might be scared of saying yes, to be in the unknown. You might not want to commit fearing it might take your freedom away from you. You might not trust that things are going to work out. Or you might feel like if you want something you won't get it. So simply not wanting it will keep you safe and ok.

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The truth is you can have everything you desire. If you don't have it by now, doesn't mean you'll never have it. Own what you want, ask for it. It puts you in a vulnerable place, because you're asking for what you desire. You're risking yourself to get hurt.

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But you're also opening your heart to receive what you truly want. You can't receive if you're not open. And even if you don't get it, accept it didn't happen, let go of any meaning you make about yourself and go for it again without scaling down what you want ✨

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Follow these steps to find out what a real yes feels in your body:

- Close your eyes, take in a deep breath in.

- Repeat in your mind, 'My name is ...(your name).' 

- Repeat in your mind, 'Yes'

- Notice how that feels in your body. Where do you feel the yes in your body?

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When you do this you'll get a yes as a feeling, visual, hearing or just a knowingness. Know that that's how your yes feels like. Next time you say yes you'll know if its true or not.

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When do you struggle to say yes? When do you absolutely know when something is a hell yes for you? 

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Would love to hear ✨

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Loads of love to you πŸ’›

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✌🏼 RECOGNISE HOW FAR YOU CAME ✌🏼

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I'm assisting at a training half day this weekend so I received an email from the facilitator thanking the team. It brought up a memory that I haven't thought of years actually, want to share that with you ☺️

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I was attending the same training 6 years ago. I remember this moment where we were doing shares. I was sitting at the back corner unlike now sitting in the front super keen and engaged πŸ˜ƒ
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So I got up, started sharing. Back then I used to speak quietly and fast, I had to repeat what I was saying all the time. As I was sharing, the facilitator couldn't hear me properly. He asked me to speak louder, so I did. Then he asked me to come to the front and share from there. I was like, 'Oh god what have I done in raising my hand..'. So I did, I walked all the way to the front, shared infront to the group, then thanked the facilitator telling him he's very loving and compassionate.
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He said, 'So are you.' I wasn't expecting that answer, looked a bit confused. He looked at me with such presence, one of these moments where its just you and the person that everything else dissolves away. I started crying as I saw him as a mirror for the compassion and love I have for people..
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Back then, I wasn't comfortable with crying infront of people unlike now speaking through my tears with a high pitch voice πŸ˜ƒ I was crying like I wanted to hide. I stepped back trying to hold my tears, holding my head down etc. He took my hand and said, 'When you cry, you step forward.', gently pulling me a bit forward while he stayed back. He asked,' Look into the eyes of these people. Do they look dangerous to you?' I looked up and half the room was literally crying. I said, 'No, they don't.'
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Looking back at that memory, I feel grateful for all the growth, all the tears, all the learnings that brought me here.. I take such short time to learn something, apply it and turn it into habit that I forgot I was doing the opposite like 6 months ago πŸ˜ƒ
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If you're a speedy growth queen/king, ask yourself these questions to just recognise how far you came:
- What have changed in my life?
- What have I learnt?
- What do I do now that I wasn't doing 2 years ago?
- What story did I stop telling myself?
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If you're inspired to share some of your answers, I'd love to hear them ☺️❀️
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Have a beautiful weekend lovelies ✨
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Loads of love! β€οΈ
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πŸ’Ž IF IT DOESN'T CHALLENGE YOU, IT WON'T CHANGE YOU πŸ’Ž

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Change doesn't happen when you're comfortable. It happens at those times when you're most uncomfortable.

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I love, love, love this image 😍
It explains so beautifully how a challenge can be a gift. You face a challenge, as soon as you surrender to and see the lesson in it, you're free from it being a struggle. Then you can help people having the same challenge, because you've been there. You can emphatise with them and guide them in growing.
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When a challenge surfaces, your default mode can be to panic, terrorise people around you, to be scared, to run away from it, to get angry or to go into the victim mode asking why is this happening to you.. This is your resistance to the situation.
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Then you create a story around it. Life is hard.. See I told you, I'll never get what I want.. What's the point in even trying.. People are dangerous so I'm better off on my own.. I'm not good enough.. I have to push people away before they see me fail..
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As soon as you see it for what it is, just a challenge, then an opportunity to grow arises. You own it, you become the observer watching the situation from a higher perspective.
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Then you outgrow the challenge, it stops being a challenge for you. It becomes a lesson you learnt, mentally, emotionally, energetically..
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Next time you face a challenge, follow these steps to turn it into a gift you can offer to people:
- Ask yourself 'What is your reaction to the situation?'
- Then ask yourself, 'What am I resisting?'
- Just name it. Naming what's coming up takes the power out of it.
- Ask yourself, 'What lesson is this showing me?'.
- Notice if this is something that keeps coming up, then there's definitely a lesson to be learnt there.
- Once you saw the lesson, you can support people around you having the same resistance.
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After some awareness and practice, if you flip out, run away or resist in your way, that's ok. You're a human and you don't have to be all peace and love. You observe it, you learn and then if you wish, you can teach it to others..
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How do you overcome challenges? What are the lessons you learnt through those challenges? Comment below lovelies πŸ™πŸΌπŸ’™
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Sending you much love on this gorgeous Sunday wherever you are 😍❀️
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