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πŸ‘ΈπŸ½ BELIEVE IN YOURSELF πŸ‘ΈπŸ½

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There's no one like you out there. No one has your energy or the gifts you have to offer.

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You might feel like you don't have much to offer, much to say. Or you might believe you're not that unique, what you want to do is done before and you're not where you want to be anyway so what's the point.. 

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When you're in that space and someone goes, 'Believe in yourself!' It might feel a bit flat and irritating, I do at least πŸ˜ƒ

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What does it even mean, believing in yourself?

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It means you know who you are and you know your gifts and the power they have. You know its true for you to be that, offer that, because that's what you love and you doing what you love is what the world needs.

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There's this beautiful quote by Howard Thurman, "Don't ask yourself what the world needs. Ask yourself what makes you come alive and then go do that. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive."

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I love this quote. When people ask for your help, you might feel like you're not capable to help them or you don't feel confident or experienced enough. That's not true, if someone's showing up and asking your help, its because they need your help, your energy. If they didn't resonate with you, they wouldn't have come up to you. 

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Allow yourself to receive the transformation you can create in their lives.. Make serving them more important than what you think about yourself and see what happens β˜ΊοΈπŸ’›

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When you step up, grow and stretch yourself your self esteem might feel like its getting lower, because your Ego gets scared. So it throws at you everything it can as a strategy to keep you small. Once you notice the strategy and the reason behind it, it doesn't have power or control over you. For example it might tell you to show this facade first before showing the real you, before opening up and being vulnerable. 

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As you drop your mask, people around you will drop theirs too. The more you see people pretending, its because you're pretending too. Its just a mirror of the vibration you're in. You don't have to show off or overdo you either. Just be the real you.

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Last Saturday I guided a movement session and a cacao ceremony for 20 people and 15 of them haven't meditated before in their lives. And there I was wearing my feathers, this goddessy dress walking around barefoot with my palo santo (similar to incense stick). I felt quite proud actually to be in that space and be myself. In the end of the day, they're just people who are not better or worse than you are.

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And if you have any doubt about not knowing who you are just think of an acorn. An acorn grows into an oak tree, it doesn't try to be an oak tree, it doesn't have to figure out how to be an oak tree. It just becomes an oak tree. It surrenders and allows that growth and transformation to happen to be its fullest and embodied self. Stop trying and allow.

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Here are 2 things you can do to start believing in yourself:

- Print out every beautiful thing people said about you.. A client's testimonial, a 'oh my god that session was incredible, thank you!' message. Your friend's or lover's encouraging message to you. Put them somewhere in your room where you can see them every day. 

(Know that you don't have to get attached to these praises, they're just reflecting your true nature to you, they're not giving you anything extra)

- Imagine you're at your 80th birthday. People are coming up to you and thanking you for being this beautiful person. What are they thanking you for? Write them down.

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So be like an acorn πŸ˜ƒ and wear feathers, always πŸ˜‰βœ¨

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Who would be if you didn't care what others think of you? And what would you do? Comment below β˜ΊοΈπŸ’ž

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Loads of love to you! πŸ’–

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πŸ‘¨β€πŸ‘©β€πŸ‘§β€πŸ‘¦ TRIGGERS IN FAMILY:Β MASTER YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR PARENTS πŸ‘¨β€πŸ‘©β€πŸ‘§β€πŸ‘¦

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Your parents are the people that will trigger you the most, at times even more than your partner.

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I was chatting to a friend the other day. He was telling me how he went on a holiday with his family and now he needs another holiday, an actual one where he can relax πŸ˜ƒ

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This is so real.. You go to see your parents for Christmas, holiday or whatever and that gathering becomes hell.. Everyone's Egos flying all over the place, people getting annoyed, old deep wounds coming up to surface.. You leave the holiday feeling worse than how you felt in the beginning πŸ˜‚

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It's so easy for your parents to trigger you, annoy you. The reason for this is they're the people you know the oldest. There are so many memories between you, pain, love, joy, happiness, hurt, anger, guilt, even emotional, sexual or physical abuse at times. So when you get triggered you're not just triggered for that moment, you're triggered for the sum of all those moments, for all these unresolved issues coming up.

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Also they are great mirrors. You inherited so many unconscious behaviours, patterns, habits from your parents because you saw them doing it as you were growing up. So you absorbed them like a sponge. Now as a grown up, when your unconscious defense mechanisms are reflected back at you by your parents, you feel angry and annoyed.. 

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In an argument with your family, your Ego will get triggered because its an unsafe situation. There's danger so you go into a survival mode by seeing the other person as the enemy. 

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But you're more than that. You're not just your Ego. You have your higher self, your true self. This is fully you, this is the real part of you that sees the situations as they are rather than attaching a story to it. 

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You can see those trigger moments as opportunities for you to grow. Your parents are showing you areas you need to work on.. Patterns that you have are being reflected to you so you can change them. Rather than figuring out those patterns on your own, you have someone to show you. How wonderful is that..

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In one of Tony Robbins videos, he was saying that its easy to meditate all day and grow on your own. Try being with the person you love 24/7, that's real growth πŸ˜‰ You don't necessarily need that person, but through your parents or partner you see all those areas you need to work on much quicker than you'd see on your own.. 

Your parents are as human as you are, they have their vulnerabilities, mistakes, regrets, weaknesses etc. When you see them as humans, you understand them, you forgive them and you see them for who they are. 

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And you don't have your parents for long. Some of you don't have them with you anymore. Feel the love you have for them and connect with them as much as you can. Then you actually enjoy the time you have with them rather than dreading it.

Find out what their love language is. How you want to be loved might not be the same way they want to be loved. Maybe your mum loves a hug rather than receiving a gift. You can find out yours from this link, then your parents'. You can even make a game out of it and do it together 😍 

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I'll write another post about love languages but here is the link until then: 

http://www.5lovelanguages.com/

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Next time you're in an argument with one of your parents, follow these steps:

- Before you do or say anything, take a deep breath. Honestly, don't skip this. Do this throughout the whole thing anyway πŸ˜ƒ

- Notice how you feel.

- Notice how the way you feel is making you do something, like an impulse. It can be shouting, getting physical, hurting that person with word etc. 

- Notice how your parent feels. If its not obvious, ask them, don't assume how they're feeling. (Always focus on how you feel first then the other person, a bit like putting the oxygen mask on yourself first on plane before you put on your child)

- See they're human like you and see their pain in that moment.

- Then imagine you're looking at the situation from above as if your higher self is observing it.

- Ask yourself 'What would my higher self do?', 'What's in the highest in this moment?'

- Do that.

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You, but only you have the power. Just having awareness of what's going on internally and externally will do magic for you, your parents, and eventually for your relationship.. 

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You always have a choice. You can choose to act from Ego or you can choose to act from your higher self. Depending on what result you want to have, its up to you to choose which level you want to operate from.. 

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When you can see you're in your Ego while you're in your Ego, that's the biggest, most helpful tool you can learn in life. Then nothing has power or control over you. 

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Master your relationship with your parents, master all relationships πŸ˜‰

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Loads of love to you ❀️

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(I love Family Guy 😍)

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