authenticity

🙏🏼 GIVING YOURSELF PERMISSION 🙏🏼

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Last weekend, I went to Elizabeth Gilbert’s talk. She’s the author of ‘Eat, Pray, Love’ and ‘Big Magic’.

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She’s super funny, real, loving, straightforward and compassionate all at the same time, loved her energy and the way she spoke. Such a courageous Soul ✨
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We wrote ourselves letters from different aspects of ourselves. One letter we wrote specifically hit close to home. It was a permission slip.
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There might be times you feel like you can’t do the things you want to do because you might feel you will be judged, you might feel like a bad person for wanting to do these things. Then shame comes in. An endless battle starts within you trying to be good. You look outside of yourself wanting someone to tell you you’re ok.
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Usually this person is some sort of authority figure, teacher, mum, dad. Someone you look up to, someone you believe if they agree with what you are doing and who you are, you’re all good.
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What if you gave yourself that permission you’ve been seeking for?
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We wrote the ultimate permission slip from the authority, the head teacher within us. It goes like this, I put in some examples:
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From the office of the head teachers, (you gotta make it all formal)
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Dear (your name),
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I’m the head teacher and this is your permission slip.
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I give you permission to not clean up that food you spilled straight away.
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I give you permission to not smile when you’re not feeling like smiling.
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I give you permission to change your hair colour.
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(And goes on until you feel complete.)
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Sincerely,
The head teacher
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You list everything you’ve been meaning to do or be but felt like you can’t do that. This is your permission from yourself to yourself.
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You can say things like ‘I give you permission to love yourself, to forgive yourself’ etc but be specific. Maybe its speaking your truth about something, maybe its about allowing yourself to cry or maybe its taking yourself to that retreat or holiday.
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When some of the people in the room read their permission slip, the energy was incredible. So freeing, expanded and honest. I definitely felt freer when I wrote mine🌻
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Try this for yourself, write it out and put it up somewhere you can see 😍
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Ask these questions:
- What exactly is it you want to give yourself permission for?
- What is it you want to do?
- What is it you want to stop doing?
- What would you love to do if no one would judge or shame you?
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Would love to hear some in the comments if you feel like sharing 🌷
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Sending you loads of love 💛
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💥 FOLLOWN YOUR TRUTH 💥

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I watched the movie "The Greatest Showman" last night. I was in tears within the first 5 minutes.
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It's all about being seen, dreaming big and being yourself, doing what you believe no matter what people around you tell you. It's also about breaking through the norms, letting go of what people expect from you.
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You might feel like your family, society, the world have a certain expectation from you. You have to fulfill it, otherwise you can be disowned. You might not be loved and the world can feel like an unpredictable, unsafe and dangerous place.
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The truth is you can create whatever you want. You don't have to settle in for less than what you want. You can have what you want and so much more. 
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You can do something that has never been done before. Your dream can be something so insane, so weird, so out there. And that's amazing! Keep it that way, it doesn't have to be achievable and reasonable. 
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You don't have to mold in. You don't have to follow the norm, do what everyone else is doing. You don't have to plan the next 10 years like most people do. That's a safe, limited, small way of living. You don't have to make people feel uncomfortable. I'm not saying, be a dick. But there's a middle ground where you're following your truth and you're also loving and compassionate to those who don't understand you, yet. 
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If you're doing something that's not mainstream, in the beginning you might get resistance from people. Sometimes its your own worries reflected back at you, sometimes you are the reflection of people's deepest fear right in their face. Because you're showing them what they're scared to face.
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When you do that thing, then they understand  😉 They might come and tell you, you made them wrong. They might not even say that, that doesn't matter. You show them your dream by making it a physical reality. 
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If a guy didn't go, I want to build a vehicle that allows you to fly across continents, we wouldn't have planes today. I'm sure the inventor of planes got some hate and ridicule when they shared their dream. Those dreams made the world we have today. 
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If you feel like you want to do something but scared what others might say, follow these steps:
- If you had nothing stopping you, what would you do?
- What thought comes up to stop you from doing that? (Ex: People will laugh, I can't do that etc.)
- For a moment, imagine yourself rising above from that thought, floating above it connecting to your true essence, free from everything
- What's the first step to make that a reality?
- Take that step ✨
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Your creations happen as a result of you taking one step at a time. You have the power to choose what you want to do. If you do this after 6 months, you will look back and go, wow I created a whole new life.. That's what I did.
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What's your wildest dream? What do you want to leave behind when you leave this world? 
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Mine is connecting women to their feminine power. I want to see women speaking their truth, making their dreams come true, changing the world, doing business while being connected to their feminine side. I want to empower them to embody their sexuality and sensuality fully. I want women and men to have fun, connect, laugh, enjoy this beautiful life.. And I'd love to dance infront of thousands of people few times ☺️💛
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Nothing more than hearing people's dreams excites me, would love to hear yours below or message me😍❤️
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And watch Greatest Showman, its a true story, so wonderful to see more Hollywood movies becoming awakened and aware.. 

Have a gorgeous weekend, wherever you are 🙌🏼⭐️✨
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👸🏽 BELIEVE IN YOURSELF 👸🏽

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There's no one like you out there. No one has your energy or the gifts you have to offer.

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You might feel like you don't have much to offer, much to say. Or you might believe you're not that unique, what you want to do is done before and you're not where you want to be anyway so what's the point.. 

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When you're in that space and someone goes, 'Believe in yourself!' It might feel a bit flat and irritating, I do at least 😃

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What does it even mean, believing in yourself?

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It means you know who you are and you know your gifts and the power they have. You know its true for you to be that, offer that, because that's what you love and you doing what you love is what the world needs.

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There's this beautiful quote by Howard Thurman, "Don't ask yourself what the world needs. Ask yourself what makes you come alive and then go do that. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive."

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I love this quote. When people ask for your help, you might feel like you're not capable to help them or you don't feel confident or experienced enough. That's not true, if someone's showing up and asking your help, its because they need your help, your energy. If they didn't resonate with you, they wouldn't have come up to you. 

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Allow yourself to receive the transformation you can create in their lives.. Make serving them more important than what you think about yourself and see what happens ☺️💛

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When you step up, grow and stretch yourself your self esteem might feel like its getting lower, because your Ego gets scared. So it throws at you everything it can as a strategy to keep you small. Once you notice the strategy and the reason behind it, it doesn't have power or control over you. For example it might tell you to show this facade first before showing the real you, before opening up and being vulnerable. 

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As you drop your mask, people around you will drop theirs too. The more you see people pretending, its because you're pretending too. Its just a mirror of the vibration you're in. You don't have to show off or overdo you either. Just be the real you.

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Last Saturday I guided a movement session and a cacao ceremony for 20 people and 15 of them haven't meditated before in their lives. And there I was wearing my feathers, this goddessy dress walking around barefoot with my palo santo (similar to incense stick). I felt quite proud actually to be in that space and be myself. In the end of the day, they're just people who are not better or worse than you are.

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And if you have any doubt about not knowing who you are just think of an acorn. An acorn grows into an oak tree, it doesn't try to be an oak tree, it doesn't have to figure out how to be an oak tree. It just becomes an oak tree. It surrenders and allows that growth and transformation to happen to be its fullest and embodied self. Stop trying and allow.

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Here are 2 things you can do to start believing in yourself:

- Print out every beautiful thing people said about you.. A client's testimonial, a 'oh my god that session was incredible, thank you!' message. Your friend's or lover's encouraging message to you. Put them somewhere in your room where you can see them every day. 

(Know that you don't have to get attached to these praises, they're just reflecting your true nature to you, they're not giving you anything extra)

- Imagine you're at your 80th birthday. People are coming up to you and thanking you for being this beautiful person. What are they thanking you for? Write them down.

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So be like an acorn 😃 and wear feathers, always 😉✨

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Who would be if you didn't care what others think of you? And what would you do? Comment below ☺️💞

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Loads of love to you! 💖

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✨ PRESENCE ✨

Something magical happens when you're free from your mind chatter and completely present with the person you are with..

Last weekend I went to complete another module with Animas Coaching, which was about presence.

We had an exercise where we were with a person while they talked for straight 10 mins. No questions, reactions, nothing. Just listening and allowing that person to be, say anything they want.

The person I was observing threw out everything she had in her mind, vulnerably telling her thoughts, feelings, fears, beliefs and hopes.

It got to a point where she tired herself out of her ego and saw the answer herself. Literally guided herself to her answer..

I saw this happening when I was doing 12 weeks 'Artist's Way' program, Julia Cameron's book where you have to write 3 pages every day. For me, in the beginning, the first 2 pages were pure mind. Totally unrelated sentences stacking next to each other, almost a vomit of the mind. Last page would be the truth, what I'd love to do, my gifts, dreams etc. Thank God i don't have to write 3 pages of that to get to the truth now 😂

It was amazing to see that happening right then and there, shifting in 10 mins..

It's about witnessing your own pain. It can be painful to do but once the thoughts, beliefs, emotions are seen by you, once they're witnessed and named what they are, they loose their power.. The pain is gone. Not looking at them straight in the face creates even more pain than the pain itself.

It's about seeing them and not getting carried away. They are just concepts, not the truth.

The truth is..

No matter what our past is,

No matter how scared we are or 

No matter how we want to control the outcome..

We can be anything we want to be in any given moment..

That is the ultimate freedom 😉💛

Thank you Marcus, Laure, Erika and beautiful attendees for a wonderful weekend full of authenticity 💜✨

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