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This is my celebration dance! 💛

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I took this after coming back from the talk I gave last night 💃🏽

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I’m not going to lie, a part of me was terrified of this talk. I’m used to giving workshops in circles but standing up infront of people was a whole different scenario. This is what my mind was telling me. The truth is, one person or a group, sitting or standing, it’s all the same thing. It’s about connecting to the heart and serving.
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When I was younger, I decided it’s not safe to put my heart out in the world. It’s so much safer to be in my head. So when I’m triggered, I get all analytical, calculated and rigid, right into my head. It feels exhausting.
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Yesterday, I told my younger self that I got her, she can trust me now. She can see fear as excitement and anticipation. She can show her heart and speak from her heart and it’s ok ✨
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I remembered my friend Celynn told me once, the audience wants you to succeed. When I was standing there, feeling connected with my heart and with the audience’s heart, I realised there is no authority, right or wrong, we’re all in this journey together ❤️
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Giving this talk made me appreciate how much I’ve grown in the last two years. When I gave my first talk a year ago, I was going through a breakup, just moved out to live on my own and so much more was going on. Now I feel the most grounded and the most empowered I ever felt. It feels easy and effortless ❤️
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And I feel like I’m just starting 🔥
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Love you 💛
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I’m on my way to give a talk 😍

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It’s about how to get out of your head and come back into your heart, which has been my journey for the last 2 years ❤️

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I rarely post last minute but I have a feeling someone needs to see this and come. If that’s you, come 😘
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It’s at We Work, Moorgate
1 Fore Street
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Link to book is below 😍
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https://www.animascoaching.com/coaching-cpd-events/
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Love you 💛
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🙏🏼 GIVING YOURSELF PERMISSION 🙏🏼

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Last weekend, I went to Elizabeth Gilbert’s talk. She’s the author of ‘Eat, Pray, Love’ and ‘Big Magic’.

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She’s super funny, real, loving, straightforward and compassionate all at the same time, loved her energy and the way she spoke. Such a courageous Soul ✨
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We wrote ourselves letters from different aspects of ourselves. One letter we wrote specifically hit close to home. It was a permission slip.
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There might be times you feel like you can’t do the things you want to do because you might feel you will be judged, you might feel like a bad person for wanting to do these things. Then shame comes in. An endless battle starts within you trying to be good. You look outside of yourself wanting someone to tell you you’re ok.
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Usually this person is some sort of authority figure, teacher, mum, dad. Someone you look up to, someone you believe if they agree with what you are doing and who you are, you’re all good.
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What if you gave yourself that permission you’ve been seeking for?
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We wrote the ultimate permission slip from the authority, the head teacher within us. It goes like this, I put in some examples:
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From the office of the head teachers, (you gotta make it all formal)
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Dear (your name),
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I’m the head teacher and this is your permission slip.
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I give you permission to not clean up that food you spilled straight away.
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I give you permission to not smile when you’re not feeling like smiling.
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I give you permission to change your hair colour.
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(And goes on until you feel complete.)
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Sincerely,
The head teacher
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You list everything you’ve been meaning to do or be but felt like you can’t do that. This is your permission from yourself to yourself.
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You can say things like ‘I give you permission to love yourself, to forgive yourself’ etc but be specific. Maybe its speaking your truth about something, maybe its about allowing yourself to cry or maybe its taking yourself to that retreat or holiday.
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When some of the people in the room read their permission slip, the energy was incredible. So freeing, expanded and honest. I definitely felt freer when I wrote mine🌻
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Try this for yourself, write it out and put it up somewhere you can see 😍
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Ask these questions:
- What exactly is it you want to give yourself permission for?
- What is it you want to do?
- What is it you want to stop doing?
- What would you love to do if no one would judge or shame you?
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Would love to hear some in the comments if you feel like sharing 🌷
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Sending you loads of love 💛
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