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Being apart for another 3 weeks..

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Aaron is leaving for India this time. When we were at the airport it felt like we grew so much since the last time he was about to leave..

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There was another couple there, crying their eyes out. After saying bye to my love, I watched them a bit. The guy literally surrendered to the woman in tears, sobbing.
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I felt at ease. I feel this way when I see a man being vulnerable. When he drops how he 'should' be as a 'man' and he's just himself. When he says, 'I'm scared and have no idea what is going to happen.' I feel so much safer and can trust him more because he's not pretending.
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I wanted to speak to the woman. After the guy left, she walked away from me. I went, 'oh well', letting it go. I went to grab something to eat, looked at my right side and there she was. I said to her, 'I just said goodbye to my boyfriend as well.' She smiled, turns out her boyfriend was going away for 2 months. We exchanged few words, she was way too raw I felt like, so I let her be. I went on the tube, reading my book 'The Prosperous Coach' (best book I read so far about coaching btw)
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It came to me, behind all our personalities, roles, how we present ourselves, we are all human. And it's ok, you don't have to know what's unfolding. You don't have to have it all together. No one has anyway, even when they look like they have πŸ˜ƒ
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Have an amazing week! πŸ™ŒπŸΌ
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Love you ❀️
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πŸŒ€ SPEAKING YOUR TRUTH πŸŒ€

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This topic is soo important, it kept coming up, time to write about itπŸ˜‰

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What is speaking your truth?
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It is expressing what your needs are, how you feel and what you think. It is all about communication and being yourself.
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There are many reasons that might be holding you back from speaking your truth. When you tell what you need or feel, you won't be loved for who you are, people will leave you, they will abandon you and you will be alone..
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So you don't speak your truth, you shove things under the carpet and pretend that things don't bother you. Then the next time it comes up again, it comes up even bigger. It makes you feel seperate, not seen, not heard, alone, frustrated or angry..
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The thing is nobody can guess how you feel, what your needs are exactly unless you tell them. The other person will always receive from their perception. So in between you expressing what you need and other person perceiving that in their reality we loose so much info already πŸ˜ƒ
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Another communication killer is assumptions. You assume that the other person can tell what you need from your behaviour, especially in intimate relationships. It can feel obvious to you that they'll get it, but they don't. Then you get angry at them.
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Telling exactly what you need, how you feel is the key. That requires you to be vulnerable. It is the best thing you can do while speaking your truth and being yourself.
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If you don't speak your truth you will resent people. There will be an underlying disconnection. That might lead to you taking action that is not right for you, then you'll resent that person more, for 'making' you feel that way and do that thing.
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If you speak your truth you will feel so much lighter, free and like yourself. You will say no to things easier and your energy will only go to things you truly love.
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Next time you speak your truth:
- Notice what you'd like to say knowing you can't loose anything.
- Then see what you're scared of happening if you speak your truth.
- Remind yourself that speaking your truth is the best thing to do in the long run for yourself and for that person.
- Tell that person you need to be listened uninterrupted and tell what you want to say.
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This becomes easier and easier with practice. Those who don't accept your truth and don't see you for who you are will leave. That is a good thing. So that the ones who truly deserve to be in your life will show up.
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Always speak your truth. It's the way to being yourself and freedom☺️
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What holds you back from speaking your truth? If you couldn't loose anything, what would you express? Comment below or message me πŸ’™
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Much love to you 😍❀️
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