empowerment

✋🏼 DON’T EVER DO THAT TO ANY WOMEN EVER AGAIN ✋🏼

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This might not be a comfortable post to read. I want to share something that happened a few weeks ago because it’s important.

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I was on the tube and I sat next to a guy who was sitting his legs wide spread, I sat normally my legs touching his as he was taking up the space in my seat. I forgot about it, put on my earphones and started listening to some music.

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A minute or so later, he started to rub his leg against mine very slowly to the point I think he assumed I wasn’t going to notice. I noticed it, obviously. I didn’t say anything, shocked how he can do such thing in public.

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Then he stopped. After a while he did the same thing again while the tube was moving. I said to myself, ‘Ok, if he does it again, I’m going to say something.’ He did it again. 

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I took a deep breath and I took out my earphones. As I did that, he immediately took his leg away and got uncomfortable. I turned my head to face him and asked, “What are you doing with your leg?” He looked away. I carried on looking at him breathing deeply. I said very calmly and slowly, “You know what you did. Don’t ever do that to any woman ever again.” 

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I turned my face forward, put back my earphones on and carried on listening to music. He kept his legs within where his seat was. Two stops later it was my stop, I got off feeling slightly paranoid he might follow me, he didn’t.

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As I got off, I thought how if this has happened to me, it must happen to so many women as well. So many times that maybe women don’t share it, feeling ashamed, scared or unsafe. Also not knowing, what to do in this kind of situation. 

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If you ever find yourself in a situation like this, here are some steps for you:

- Take 5 deep breaths, stay in your body. 

- Imagine you’re sending the breath to your centre, strengthening your core. Keep breathing.

- Notice what feels true to do, sometimes it’s saying something, sometimes it’s removing yourself etc . Whatever it is, don’t endure. You don’t have to tolerate what you don’t want.

- Breathe into your heart space. Now, if you want to say something, say it with presence and power coming from your heart space. Turn your anger into power that goes into your words so they can receive your words rather than shutting down or attacking back. You have as much strength and power as this person infront of you, if not more emotional strength and power.

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The truth is if you ever find yourself in a situation like this, it doesn’t mean anything about you. Know that no human would want to hurt or prey on other human unless they’re in pain or feeling hurt themselves. Saying that, it doesn’t make what they did right either. Of course it’s not right. 

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Not saying anything keeps this behaviour going. Even the slight “it’s ok, no big deal, happens all the time” is worth mentioning coming from fierce love, not from attacking. You have the ability to stop it. You are saying no, not just for yourself but for other women this person might go and do the same thing to.

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Your words and presence carry power. Use them 🔥

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I hope this post has given you something to reflect on today. Feel free to comment or share 🙏🏼

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Loads of love to you ❤️

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💫 OTHER PEOPLE ARE DRAINING MY ENERGY 💫

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I hear this a lot and will share few words on it.

You might feel like you have limited energy and you need to save it in order to give it to the right things. You might feel like you have to protect yourself from people and the world. Or you might feel like your energy is keep being drained by people around you.
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The truth is our energy is infinite, we get it from a higher source. But if you live in a lack mentality, you’re going to feel like it is limited and you need to save it. It’s a fear based decision.
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If you believe other people drain your energy, guess what you’re going to attract? People draining your energy ☺️ Congratulations you created your reality.
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But when you know that you’re powerful and there’s nothing out there that can drain you unless you allow it, you’re cool. Then from an empowered place, you can choose who you want to hang out with. The decision will be coming from self love and respect, not fear 🌻
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I used to be this person, walking around feeling scared about when would be the next time my energy will be drained by some people. I was actively seeking it in a way, I was expecting it. Then it would happen, unsurprisingly.
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Don’t use being an empath as an excuse to not step into your power. You can feel everyone’s energy and still know which one is yours. You can help others and also choose not to help those who are not ready to receive it. You can be loving and kind and also set a boundary for yourself.
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Try this next time you feel like people are draining your energy:
- Close your eyes.
- Notice how you feel.
- Remember that they are just people, not God, not Jesus, not some supernatural being. They don’t have power over you.
- Imagine your energy is coming back to you.
- Imagine you’re sending their energy back to them as well.
- When your energy comes back, put your hand on your heart and say in your mind, “This is me. This is my energy and I decide what I want to do with it.”
- Have a coconut mocha 😃
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Or when you’re in your energy feeling grounded, just tell yourself “This is me”, anchor that feeling of what it feels like to be in your energy so you have a reference point. When someone steps in and you notice the difference you can have unagi (Friends 😍).
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Let me know if you have any questions 🙏🏼 Have a gorgeous day!
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Love you ❤️
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🌺 CREATING WHAT YOU LOVE NO MATTER WHAT 🌺

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The beautiful women who joined us in the Awakened Woman workshop last Saturday 😍

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In the morning my dear friend Amanda who was assisting and I arrived at the venue to set it up. I knew the code to the outside door, but downstairs doors were locked. I’ve been using this venue for a year and this never happened before.
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So we can’t access the room. My first response is trying few codes, do everything to get in while my mind scans other options like changing venue etc, full on solution mode. Then eventually I get angry, I panic, cry a little while Amanda is searching ways to get in, holding her ground.
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I knew cancellation was not an option so we had to get in. At this point, I delayed the starting time 30 minutes giving us enough time.
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I contact few of my friends who use the venue in case they knew. Then we started calling the numbers on the flyers outside the venue as they use the same space as well, saying, ‘Good morning, this is a bit random but we’re in this venue trying to get in. Do you know the code to get in?’ 😂
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One of them does!
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He told us the codes are in a box in the kitchen. We found the box and the codes are in there. We put in the codes and they work! The only problem is, now the door is jammed 🙈 I break the door handle by accident, Amanda puts it back together 😄
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We spent another 15 minutes trying to get in.
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What happened next was unbelievable. We still don’t know how it happened...
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Amanda stands there, in her mind she tells herself, ‘NO MORE!’. Then enters the code, pushes the door handle and the door opens! We stare each other in shock.
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We go in, shake it all off, shout, scream, punch pillows, move, then we’re good to go like nothing happened 😄
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It was a beautiful, powerful, intense workshop with huge release.. I loved every second of it 😍❤️
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Afterwards we crushed at Amanda’s unable to move or speak properly 😂
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It was an incredible day from start to the finish. In the first part of the day, I was talking about no matter what the circumstances are, you can have what you love. You’re not bypassing what’s happening now but you’re making a new choice in where you want to go. I gave this as an example. I was initially super angry at the venue organiser for not giving me the codes. I could have chosen to hold onto my anger or I could find ways to get in. I chose the latter one.
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No matter what obstacles come your way, even at times things seem impossible, just decide you’ll make a way to get to where you want to go to and the opportunities will present themselves ✨
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Thank you gorgeous woman who joined us last week!
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Loads of love to you ❤️
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😡 EMOTIONS: ANGER 😡

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Anger's a tricky emotion. You might be afraid to feel and express it, because it usually is considered as a 'bad' emotion. If you're honest with yourself you'll feel all emotions. Sadness, joy, love, anger.. 

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Happiness, joy etc are fine to share why not anger and sadness? Because they're uncomfortable, seeing someone in their anger makes you question how you are with this emotion. It might make you face something you don't want to face.
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Personally growing up, I was never shown how to feel my anger, express it, move through it and let it go in a healthy way. I saw it as people screaming at each other. I thought, that's anger and it does bad things.
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But the truth is you don't have to direct your anger to someone. You can feel it, express it and let it go. If you feel like you're angry and judging someone for what they're doing, direct that energy to creating your own version of how you'd do it. Same energy but used in creating rather than destruction.
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When you repress your anger, or deny that you're angry, the other side can feel it and it comes out as passive aggressive way anyway and that just feels horrible and we all know that feeling 🙈
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I mainly express my anger during breathwork. If its a group session, everyone lays down, they start breathing. Through oxygenating the body, buried emotions come out. There's loud music, so you scream, shout, shake your body, hit some pillows, let go of the anger so it doesn't stay in your body. I love it ❤️ That's why its always part of the workshops I do.
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But if you're somewhere that you can't shout or hit a pillow, try this next time you get angry:
- Close your eyes
- Allow the anger to bubble up
- Close your mouth with both hands
- Open mouth let air out into your palms like a silent scream
- Shake your body and head while you do it
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This releases the energy from your body. If you want to gain awareness of what the anger was about to ease your Ego, ask yourself:
- What am I angry about?
- What's the anger telling me to do?
- Now let that go, imagine you're empty pure light, floating above the situation, fully present and in bliss, ask 'What's the truth?'
- Act on that truth.
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This helps you to see what's underneath that anger. Maybe you're angry bypassing feeling sadness. But if you sit with that anger, you'll feel the sadness, then it'll go.
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No emotions have control over you if you feel them fully ✨
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What's your take on expressing anger? How comfortable are you with your own anger?
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Loads of love to you ❤️
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Beautiful workshop today with these lovelies 😍

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From what I usually do, I added a bit where I share the difference between Ego and Soul, tools how you can shift back to your truth no matter what's going on in your life. I shared vulnerably moments from my life how I did that and still doing it. It's an ongoing work on myself, like a muscle I use.

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And it felt scary, it was the first time I did that and it took its own flow. I just witnessed it.
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I feel so grateful for today, for being here, doing this work... For meeting these women, seeing them go into depths of themselves with courage.
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It means so much to me to see women come along and leave their eyes shining, filled with joy, feeling connected to their feminine flow 😍
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And I want to honour myself too actually for allowing myself to surrender to how it all unfolds. Often we don't acknowledge ourselves yet alone share publicly how proud we are of ourselves..
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Thank you beauties for coming along! ❤️
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I want to share 2 feedbacks from today. They explain much better than I'd do what these workshops are about:
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"Essential for my wellbeing. A much needed space for safety, expression and connection. I feel connected to my spirit here, and all the questions I have in life get answered by my inner knowing in this magical space."
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"It's such a warm, nourishing space. I love how women create such a powerful and at the same time nurturing, safe space within which to explore your current reality... It's truly transformational! It's a present to yourself!"
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The next one will be a day workshop on the 10th February Saturday in Covent Garden.
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12 women only
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£30 earlybird
£40 after 26th January
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Here is the link to book if this is calling you ✨
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https://m.bpt.me/event/3206326
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Sending you so much love 😍❤️
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Being apart for another 3 weeks..

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Aaron is leaving for India this time. When we were at the airport it felt like we grew so much since the last time he was about to leave..

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There was another couple there, crying their eyes out. After saying bye to my love, I watched them a bit. The guy literally surrendered to the woman in tears, sobbing.
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I felt at ease. I feel this way when I see a man being vulnerable. When he drops how he 'should' be as a 'man' and he's just himself. When he says, 'I'm scared and have no idea what is going to happen.' I feel so much safer and can trust him more because he's not pretending.
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I wanted to speak to the woman. After the guy left, she walked away from me. I went, 'oh well', letting it go. I went to grab something to eat, looked at my right side and there she was. I said to her, 'I just said goodbye to my boyfriend as well.' She smiled, turns out her boyfriend was going away for 2 months. We exchanged few words, she was way too raw I felt like, so I let her be. I went on the tube, reading my book 'The Prosperous Coach' (best book I read so far about coaching btw)
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It came to me, behind all our personalities, roles, how we present ourselves, we are all human. And it's ok, you don't have to know what's unfolding. You don't have to have it all together. No one has anyway, even when they look like they have 😃
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Have an amazing week! 🙌🏼
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Love you ❤️
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