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💧 CRYING 💧

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Crying can be so healing and healthy 💙

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Growing up, maybe crying was shamed in your house or amongst your friends. You might have felt that it’s not ok to cry, it’s a sign of weakness. Or you might have judged others for crying in public.
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I cry a lot. I cry from feeling loss and grief. I cry from feeling grateful. I cry from being premenstrual and on my period as women are more connected to their emotions around this time.
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Crying doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with you. It’s the mind that thinks something’s wrong. You’re a human, you’re meant to feel and cry. It’s your body’s natural release.
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Sometimes anger can be a way of escaping feeling sad. When you sit with yourself and observe the anger, you might find sadness underneath it. And I promise you, if you feel that sadness fully, you will feel freer and lighter afterwards 🙏🏼
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It’s also important how we are with others when they cry. If someone’s crying infront of you, it can feel almost automatic to rub their back, give tissues, give them a hug etc. You just have good intentions and don’t want to see your loved ones suffer, right? Even though, it comes from deep love and care, this might actually stop them from processing their emotions.
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Maybe they don’t want any fixing in that moment. Maybe they just want to cry, to be seen and heard. Trust their ability to go through their emotions and trust your ability to hold that for them with your presence and love. When you feel the energy naturally shift and settle, feel free to offer a hug ❤️
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I went to Vivek’s satsang few weeks ago. He was saying how emotions are not yours, welcome them with love. They’re just moving through you. I love this. When you see they’re not yours and there’s nothing wrong with you, you can move through those emotions with surrender ✨
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Here are few steps to allow yourself to feel or to cry properly:
- Give yourself 10-20 minutes uninterrupted time where you give yourself permission to feel or cry.
- Close your eyes, take 5 deep breaths.
- Allow your emotion, whatever it might be sadness, grief, loss etc to be there.
- If you feel tears want to come, let them come. Don’t hold back. If you tend to cry silently or hold your breath with every sob, make a sound “aaa” to help the release.
- Put your hand on your heart, imagine sending compassion to yourself. You got yourself, you’re not alone.
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Here’s a playlist I put together and used a lot last year around the time my dad passed away. I would literally give myself 30 min time to cry in between work wherever I could. May it supports you in releasing any emotions ❤️
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https://open.spotify.com/…/1147326591/playlist/4fhMOjOZgVtX…
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Whatever you’re going through, know that it’s passing with every breath and tear. You’ll come out from the other side thinking “That was hard but I’m grateful, it made me who I am today.”
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If you need support, just reach out to me 😘
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How is your relationship with crying? Would love to hear 🙏🏼
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Love you 💛
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I woke up feeling so alive this morning, full of joy, excitement and bliss! ❤️

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I held a breathwork journey yesterday for 35 people at 11:11 Events where we had a day full of talks, workshops, open mic jams 🙌🏼

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I'm out of words, honestly, each time I do these breathwork journeys, its an honour to see how willing people are to go deep within, to let go and move forward with lightness and freedom. It truly makes me happy when I see someone feeling their pain fully, then 10 minutes later, they're free from it, liberated from their past traumas. They're a different person than the one who walked into the room.
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Thank you Saara Daisie Isabel Rita and Jenna for holding space with me. It means the world to me to know that I'm not alone, to know that there's a whole army of men and women behind me pushing me forward, supporting me ❤️ I always believed I had to do this on my own, that's not really the case:) Thank you Rita for doing such a great job in creating an incredible energy for the whole day 🙌🏼
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Now I'm off to packing my whole life in one day for the move tomorrow lol. Super exciting times 😍🙌🏼
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Wishing you a wonderful Sunday 💛
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😡 EMOTIONS: ANGER 😡

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Anger's a tricky emotion. You might be afraid to feel and express it, because it usually is considered as a 'bad' emotion. If you're honest with yourself you'll feel all emotions. Sadness, joy, love, anger.. 

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Happiness, joy etc are fine to share why not anger and sadness? Because they're uncomfortable, seeing someone in their anger makes you question how you are with this emotion. It might make you face something you don't want to face.
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Personally growing up, I was never shown how to feel my anger, express it, move through it and let it go in a healthy way. I saw it as people screaming at each other. I thought, that's anger and it does bad things.
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But the truth is you don't have to direct your anger to someone. You can feel it, express it and let it go. If you feel like you're angry and judging someone for what they're doing, direct that energy to creating your own version of how you'd do it. Same energy but used in creating rather than destruction.
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When you repress your anger, or deny that you're angry, the other side can feel it and it comes out as passive aggressive way anyway and that just feels horrible and we all know that feeling 🙈
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I mainly express my anger during breathwork. If its a group session, everyone lays down, they start breathing. Through oxygenating the body, buried emotions come out. There's loud music, so you scream, shout, shake your body, hit some pillows, let go of the anger so it doesn't stay in your body. I love it ❤️ That's why its always part of the workshops I do.
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But if you're somewhere that you can't shout or hit a pillow, try this next time you get angry:
- Close your eyes
- Allow the anger to bubble up
- Close your mouth with both hands
- Open mouth let air out into your palms like a silent scream
- Shake your body and head while you do it
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This releases the energy from your body. If you want to gain awareness of what the anger was about to ease your Ego, ask yourself:
- What am I angry about?
- What's the anger telling me to do?
- Now let that go, imagine you're empty pure light, floating above the situation, fully present and in bliss, ask 'What's the truth?'
- Act on that truth.
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This helps you to see what's underneath that anger. Maybe you're angry bypassing feeling sadness. But if you sit with that anger, you'll feel the sadness, then it'll go.
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No emotions have control over you if you feel them fully ✨
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What's your take on expressing anger? How comfortable are you with your own anger?
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Loads of love to you ❤️
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⚪️ ❤️ SOVEREIGNTY & LOVE ❤️ ⚪️

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This has been the main theme in my life in the last 2 weeks, so time to write about it 🙏🏼

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What does it mean, to be sovereign?
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It's being whole and complete within yourself, being in your power and not needing something external to complete you or make you feel good. Its being your own lover, treating your body like it belongs to someone you love. Its not needing that person to love you because you feel that love towards yourself anyway.
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When you're sovereign, you love someone for who they are, not because they fix the incompleteness in you or they fulfill how you want to be.
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You don't need that person, but you want them. You want to connect and share intimacy with them just because of that, no other motives. Rather than saying 'I choose you because you complete me', its freedom to say 'I choose you because I love you'.
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You're able to love all parts of them. Because it doesn't threaten you anymore. Its doesn't mean anything about you and it doesn't trigger your incompleteness anymore. Because now you're whole. This is the shift from dependancy to sovereignty, two complete people coming together ✨
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Also there's a fine line between being sovereign and being super independant where you can create distance, push people away and go one man band. So just watch out for that 😃
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There is a beautiful Osho card, 'The Creator', my favourite one.. It says, there are two types of creators in the world: one type of creator works with objects - a poet, a painter etc. The other type of creator works on himself. He doesn't work with objects, he works on his own being. He makes himself into a masterpiece.
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It's about dropping the idea of becoming someone and surrendering to who you are, because you already are a masterpiece. Then you know yourself and you know you have everything you need..
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When you feel like you need to get something from someone, follow these steps to come back to your sovereignty:
- Notice how you feel, name how you feel.
- Notice what it means about you if you don't get that thing.
- Notice what that need is telling you to do.
- Close your eyes, take in a deep breath and imagine you're empty in pure bliss and presence.
- Ask 'What's the truth?' and allow anything to come up.
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The more you make this shift, the more it'll become an effortless habit where you just naturally in love and freedom..
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Let me know your thoughts below ☺️💛
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Loads of love! 💞
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✨ HOW DO YOU MEDITATE? ✨

I first started meditating at 8 thanks to my parents ✨ Dropped it for a while then I was meditating regularly 2 years ago twice a day, half an hour each. It helped me so much during university times while studying architecture.. 

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I wouldn't get thrown around by problems and was able to hold my centre in the stressful times through finding my inner calmness.. Also helped me with sleeping less and getting more stuff done as half an hour meditation replaces a whole night's rest 😃
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There are so many meditation types out there, I tried few then the one I resonated the most was the primordial sound meditation. Its very similar to transcendental meditation, basically mantra meditation.
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I was initiated a mantra sound equivalating to the time and place I was born. So each time you repeat that mantra while meditating, it'd match your vibration to your Soul's vibration. It helps you induce altered state of consciousness easily.
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So how do you do mantra meditation?
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You sit down, close your eyes, breathe and repeat a mantra in your mind's eye. That's pretty much all you do. If you feel like you're dropping away, bring the mantra to your awareness and keep repeating it.
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Setting an intention before you start can be great, if you feel drawn to it. Start with 5 minutes and build up to 10 mins a day. Now I do 10 mins a day and I find that it works well with the rest of my morning routine which is doing breathwork, journaling and dancing in the garden.
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So here are few mantras you can repeat depending on what you'd like to attract to your life:
- Om Namah Shivaya (building your self confidence, reminding you are made up of divine energy)
- Om Agasthi Shahina (for insomnia, if you can't sleep, repeat this in bed)
- Om Shrim Maha Lakshmiyei Swaha (allowing more abundance into your world)
- Wah Yantee (awakening your intuition)
- Ong Sohung (opening your heart)
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Let me know your thoughts on this.
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Do you have a meditation practice? Would love to hear about it in the comments 🙌🏼✨
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Much love to you ✨
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🎈 FORGIVENESS 🎈

I've been doing experiential healing lately. And I'm grateful for having received loads of those from my boyfriend. Relationships bring up a lot of stuff so what we do is as they come up we clear them there and then so they stop coming up ✌🏼

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I do them in my sessions as well when they're needed. They're basically a super fast way to move forward. Let's say you believe 'I can't have what I want, if I have, it will be taken away from me.' We feel into it and go back to a moment where you felt it strongly, sometime in the childhood. You talk to the person as if they were there, they talk back, you understand where they're coming from, you forgive and love them. That thing stops showing up. It can show up as a thought form but has no emotional charge around. Works with traumatic experiences, clears it all. Pretty magic.. You can do it on your own too. But I've been lazy, I ask Aaron to do it 😃
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One powerful thing I keep seeing again and again is that forgiveness is so important to release any energy around something, a person or a situation.
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So allowing yourself to feel, then forgiving. Forgiving the person for what they did or didn't.. Seeing and understanding their pain, seeing the reason behind why they showed up in the way they did.
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We're all born as pure love. Something has to have happened to someone for them to show up with no love.
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I had one the other day where I saw that one of my ex just didn't own anything he created, kept blaming others. Through this healing process, I saw that he just didn't know any other way, that was the best he could do at that time. Knowing that you can't really carry on resenting and being angry at someone. You just have compassion and understanding for them.
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Forgiveness doesn't mean you agree with what they're doing, it just means you don't want to carry on holding a hot coal, you let it go..
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It's forgiving yourself as much as forgiving others. For making a mistake, for not speaking up, for being mean to yourself, forgiving all those times.. It's total freedom..
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Message me if you have a pattern coming up that you want to clear. Much love to you! 💛
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🌺 Coming Back into the Heart 🌺

I'm here laying down under a tree.. Dropping back into my body and I feel drawn to write and share with you.

Up until this point, I've been more masculine, driven and quite 'mindy'. It has been super useful, I get things done but it doesn't allow me to enjoy the journey or feel so much.

This morning, I realised I didn't allow myself to be playful because I assumed that life is serious and there are things to do. I needed to do these things before I can be playful..

I would create even more things to do and I'd never get to the point of being playful lol.

If I got a message from my intuition about being vulnerable and being me, I'd go 'ok gotta do this to be vulnerable now'. Or the other day I went to Hampstead Heath and I was like 'right, time to receive wisdom from trees' 😃  its quite funny actually.. I became all serious and disconnected from myself and others, because I'm in the head.

As soon as I let go of what I 'need' to do or be, I bring whatever I want to be or do into that moment..

It doesn't have to be complicated. It's quite simple actually. We're the ones making it complicated, then there is something to 'figure' out. There's something for the mind to work on.

The truth is there's nothing to work on. There are things to do, yes, but things can be done in a playful way, even the serious stuff. It's about doing this but having fun in the process. Bringing softness into it. Then there is joy and flow 💜

Sacred Earth - Bliss, awesome song to get out of your head and come back into your heart 😉💞✨

Feel free to message me btw to ask ways to get into the heart from the mind, I've accumulated a whole list of things by now 😂

#bliss #heart #nature #spirituality #awareness #truth #intuition #wisdom #bepresent #mind #mindfulness #energy #spirit #spiritual #meditation #positivevibes #positive #choices #smile #happy #peace #body #playful #fun #joy #flow #soft

💛 BE PRESENT & SURRENDER 💛

I have a story to share with you all.

2 weeks ago my phone died, literally dead, no life. And our house didn't have a broadband for a bit due to people moving in and out. Plus I forgot my watch at my friend's house 😃

So I was there like no phone, no internet, no watch. Totally disconnected from the world and I don't know the time.

Partly it happened because this is the time I really started being in my power and started creating things I love doing. It was like, 'ok let's disconnect and distract you a bit'. Once I saw that though, I relaxed, I thought I'll just enjoy this few days without a phone.

It turned out to be magical.

Usually I listen to music when I walk, didn't have that so only option was to be present and look around. Same on the tube, it felt like I'm seeing things for the first time. I thought I was pretty present normally, but this was like a new level.

I used the internet once a day from a cafe nearby to contact some people. So told my friend who I was meeting up the next day the situation, and we agreed on a time and place to meet up. I asked people how to get there, looked for signs and stuff. Literally everything pushed me to be present and surrender. No control whatsoever.

My friend arrived saying 'Sorry I'm late'. It was kinda funny because time didn't exist for me in those last few days. I had more space than having more time.

I only knew the time from the board in the underground btw:) somehow not having a watch nor phone, I was super on time. Didn't have a phone to distract myself basically.

Then.. I bought a new phone. Put on there my emails, apps and all that.

I realised all the photos were gone, weren't backed on icloud. Half of my contacts and all my notes.. Where I write stuff down when things come to me.. I was like oh my god.. Felt super down.. I was actually attaching myself to all those magical experiences I had in the last 2-3 months.

I came home and I had a package. My boyfriend sent me the book "Letting Go". So funny:) basically saying 'ok time to start from scratch'..

It was freedom once I surrendered and let go of trying to control and to know..

Being present with whatever experience you're having is the best way to go through it. When you're present, you realise it's not as bad, as scary as you imagined it to be. It just is. And that's when you surrender. Then everything just relaxes and falls into place..

Now I'm super happy with my new phone and few photos I got 😄

Much love to you all 💜 🔮