sadness

😡😭😜 ALLOWING YOURSELF TO FEEL 😜😭😡

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No one can tell you what your truth is. Only you know. 

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It feels very empowering when you feel your emotions and able to navigate through them where you find your own answers.
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You’re meant to feel as a humanbeing. It’s the judgement that twists the actual experience. You can go through your emotions without judging it as positive or negative. It’s just is, an experience happening for you right now.
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All emotions just want to be felt. When you’re going through one emotion, it often links to another one. You could start with anger, as you feel your anger, you might find sadness underneath it. When you go right to the depth of your sadness, there you will find joy.
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So how do you allow yourself to feel?
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You welcome all the feelings. Not just the happy, light ones but welcome the darker emotions knowing it’s safe to feel and you won’t be shown something you’re not ready to feel.
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Every emotion holds a treasure for you. I find that the gift of anger for me was to show me where my boundaries were, where I didn’t speak my truth and what I truly cared about. I’m naturally a passionate person, came with lots of anger. I was very passive aggressive until I learnt how to speak my truth with love. Someone once told me, “With your fire, only burn what doesn’t serve you, not yourself or other people.” 🔥
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The gift of sadness for me was to have compassion and empathy for myself and others who went to a dark place. Being able to go into my sadness with such depth, gave the same depth to my joy as well. I get to appreciate the whole spectrum and feel myself and others so much more.
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Crying can come from two places. One is victim, poor me, spiralling downwards crying that doesn’t actually serve. The other one is an emotional release where you’re allowing yourself to feel the full sadness and going through it for a moment or a day, however long, knowing it is passing. You’re coming from a knowing and empowered place.
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You’re allowed to feel sad and defeated. You don’t have to be the strong one all the time. You can let your guards down. You can be loved in your grief, sadnes, anger, joy or peace.
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If you want to experience this in a safe and loving space, with no shame or judgement, come do breathwork with me on the 18th, next week. If you’re already in touch with your emotions, come join anyway, let’s go deeper. You might find parts of you that you didn’t know were there 🔥
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We still have spaces available. Link to book is below ✨
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https://www.brownpapertickets.com/event/4196787
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I love you ❤️
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💧 CRYING 💧

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Crying can be so healing and healthy 💙

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Growing up, maybe crying was shamed in your house or amongst your friends. You might have felt that it’s not ok to cry, it’s a sign of weakness. Or you might have judged others for crying in public.
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I cry a lot. I cry from feeling loss and grief. I cry from feeling grateful. I cry from being premenstrual and on my period as women are more connected to their emotions around this time.
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Crying doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with you. It’s the mind that thinks something’s wrong. You’re a human, you’re meant to feel and cry. It’s your body’s natural release.
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Sometimes anger can be a way of escaping feeling sad. When you sit with yourself and observe the anger, you might find sadness underneath it. And I promise you, if you feel that sadness fully, you will feel freer and lighter afterwards 🙏🏼
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It’s also important how we are with others when they cry. If someone’s crying infront of you, it can feel almost automatic to rub their back, give tissues, give them a hug etc. You just have good intentions and don’t want to see your loved ones suffer, right? Even though, it comes from deep love and care, this might actually stop them from processing their emotions.
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Maybe they don’t want any fixing in that moment. Maybe they just want to cry, to be seen and heard. Trust their ability to go through their emotions and trust your ability to hold that for them with your presence and love. When you feel the energy naturally shift and settle, feel free to offer a hug ❤️
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I went to Vivek’s satsang few weeks ago. He was saying how emotions are not yours, welcome them with love. They’re just moving through you. I love this. When you see they’re not yours and there’s nothing wrong with you, you can move through those emotions with surrender ✨
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Here are few steps to allow yourself to feel or to cry properly:
- Give yourself 10-20 minutes uninterrupted time where you give yourself permission to feel or cry.
- Close your eyes, take 5 deep breaths.
- Allow your emotion, whatever it might be sadness, grief, loss etc to be there.
- If you feel tears want to come, let them come. Don’t hold back. If you tend to cry silently or hold your breath with every sob, make a sound “aaa” to help the release.
- Put your hand on your heart, imagine sending compassion to yourself. You got yourself, you’re not alone.
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Here’s a playlist I put together and used a lot last year around the time my dad passed away. I would literally give myself 30 min time to cry in between work wherever I could. May it supports you in releasing any emotions ❤️
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https://open.spotify.com/…/1147326591/playlist/4fhMOjOZgVtX…
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Whatever you’re going through, know that it’s passing with every breath and tear. You’ll come out from the other side thinking “That was hard but I’m grateful, it made me who I am today.”
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If you need support, just reach out to me 😘
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How is your relationship with crying? Would love to hear 🙏🏼
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Love you 💛
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😔 EMOTIONS: SADNESS 😔

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Sadness is not a bad emotion, not a good emotion either. It's just an emotion.

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Most people don't want to feel 'bad' emotions like sadness, anger, grief etc. It might feel scary actually. When you feel sad, it might feel like its going to be there forever and you're stuck in it now. The world feels like such a lonely place and you're the only person feeling this way..
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I've felt this many times. Especially this year as I'm allowing myself to feel more, I'm feeling everything like 10 times more. I love it. The truth is we're all human and we feel many emotions. We're not linear. We can't be happy all the time or sad all the time. When you are honest with yourself, you feel all emotions.
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You might feel angry but actually when you sit with that anger there might be sadness underneath it. When you sit with the sadness fully, cry, weep, mourn, do whatever you need to do fully feel it, underneath that you're going to find joy. When I cry loads afterwards a wave of calmness washes over me and it feels really good actually.
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It doesn't mean anything about you, you're just releasing, letting go of old emotions. When you feel your sadness, grieve fully, you give someone the permission to do the same.
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Whenever I see someone cry, I actually smile. Because they're allowing themselves to feel and reminding me how human we all are. I feel so much love and compassion for them. I let them cry without touching, saying anything, without interrupting them feeling until they're done, then offer a hug. How beautiful is that? Being human, feeling it all. Celebrate it, you're alive and feeling!
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Next time you feel sad, try these steps:
- Close your eyes and take a deep breath
- Sigh out loud
- Allow yourself to feel the sadness
- If tears come, don't hold them back, they're meant to come and go
- When tears are done imagine your future self infront of you
- Ask them, 'What's my next inspired action to follow my truth?'
- Follow that
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You can feel it all and still not let it take you go off course. You have the power and you get to choose 🙏🏼
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What do you do when you feel sad? Do you cry a lot? I definitely do ☺️
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Love you 💙
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Post breathwork shine 💁🏽

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Last week I went to a breathwork ceremony with Aaron and we felt inspired to hold another breathwork workshop. So we are doing another Freedom Through Breath on the 15th Feb, Thursday 7-9pm 😍

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This is a beautiful opportunity to let go of the mind and come back to the body to listen to its wisdom. You will let go of stuff you no longer need through breathing.
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Come and join us for this powerful journey ✨ Feel free to invite friends who you feel might be interested 🙏🏼
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https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/freedom-through-breath-a-bre…
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Loads of love to you ❤️
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It's hard sometimes, doing what's true..

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Yesterday night, my love left for Thailand, for 2.5 months.. I cried my eyes out, moments throughout the day, going to the airport to say bye and a bit today as well.

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We literally went from being together 7/24 for a month, to being apart for longer than two months.. Bit of an extreme contrast there 😃

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It's hard sometimes, doing what's true. But I know that it will benefit me, Aaron and our relationship in the long run 🙌🏼
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Of course I feel sad, I feel upset, but it's not lasting forever. I don't really go into victim mode anymore, because I'm aware of it. It takes away from your Ego's satisfaction 😃
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Also being aware and spiritual doesn't mean you got it all together, all the time.
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You're human, I'm human and we all feel. Whatever you're going through, know that it definitely isn't going to last forever, even if it feels like it.. Only you can make it longer than it's meant to by holding onto it.
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When you open up and allow emotions to move through you without trying to make sense, everything settles down naturally.. Then sadness can turn into joy and anger into calmness..
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How are you feeling today? ✨
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I'm happy to be back in London ❤️ Loads of love to you! 😘
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