self care

This was today’s morning office before a breathwork session ❤️

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I woke up feeling, “Oh I really want to take a bath.” Then I thought, “Yeah but then I’m going to chill so much that I’m not going to get any work done.”

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So I brought my laptop to the bath 😂🛁
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Meet your body where it’s at rather than shoving a plan down your body that is not in alignment with where you are.
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You might need that extra lay in, a bath in the morning, half day off walking in the woods, a day away from your phone. Give yourself permission to do that.
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Don’t beat yourself up for not fitting your plans. Keep them flexible and you might surprise yourself with the amount of flow and magic coming your way 😍🙌🏼
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I love you 💛
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🙏🏼 WHAT I DO FOR MY SELF CARE 🙏🏼

Around 10 days ago, at the Goddess Within Retreat held by Gina Genie, we spoke about self care a lot. So I wanted to share what I do for my self care.

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Working for myself, especially in the beginning, I didn’t really stop. I struggled to slow down and rest. Over the last 6 years, I put these structures in place I’m going to share with you for my wellbeing and for to better serve everyone else.

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🔻 Writing 3 Pages in the Morning (30 min every day)

- This is a brain dump of everything you have in your mind. It actually helped with expressing myself better and have more ideas. It’s an exercise from the book the Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron.

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🔻 Meditate (10-15 min every day)

- I do transcendental meditation where I repeat a mantra over and over again. I time it on Insight Timer.

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🔻 Workout (3-4 workouts a week, 30 min each)

- This saved my life. It helped me be in my body more, feel stronger and have a clearer mind. I eat regularly now as well as the food is all in there. I do Shona Vertue’s 12 week workout and meal programme.

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🔻 Spend time in nature (at least once a week 3 hours)

- I moved to live near Hampstead Heath specifically for this. There is a bench I go to sit with a book. I turn off my phone. I just sit on that bench for a good while watching the trees and the meadow and reading.

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🔻 Dance (1-2 times a week 5rhythms)

- This helps me to come back to my body, feel my emotions, surrender, connect with my playfulness. There is a beautiful community whichever class I go to, so it’s great for connecting with people too.

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🔻 Bath (2-3 times a week for 30 mins minimum)

- I do this especially after workshops with epsom salt, essential oils and peaceful music. I remember not giving myself this time and keep pushing and pushing until I breakdown. When I take a bath, that doesn’t happen.

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🔻 Connect with friends (at least once a week)

- I’m grateful I have people in my life I can contact when I feel down and go, “Hey just want to let it out. I feel .... “ They just listen and say, “I hear you and I feel you etc.” without saving or fixing. They also celebrate my successes with me. There is a quote from the movie Into the Wild, “Happiness only real when shared.” No matter how much of a lone wolf you might be, you have a hardwired need for connection as a human.

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🔻 Have a Life Coach (twice a month)

- I have a coach for 3 years now which is therapy/healing too. I can say this is a must now for me like brushing teeth. One of the best things I did for my life. I really believe if you want to create a life living your full potential, you need to have a coach/mentor. You can’t do it all alone. 

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🔻 Have Fun & Be Playful (whenever)

- This is things like making silly jokes, jumping on trampoline, going into ball pits, adventure parks, going to comedy improv (if you like this please let me know, let’s go together)

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This was built over a period of 6 years. It didn’t happen overnight. I wasn’t born with a morning routine, working out regularly, meditating and dancing. I used to rebel against any structure which is a structure in itself that doesn’t serve, so I made one that served me. 

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These structures allow me to rest then get back into creating. If I don’t follow these, I go into overwhelm, I have a breakdown and it’s just not nice.

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Of course I have fall backs. I have days where I need more sleep and I just do 10 min meditation in the morning. I have weeks where I forgot to take bath or go to walk in the forest. I notice the difference. When I don’t journal, I’m not grounded and centred. I start to feel agitated not enjoying my life. Then I look at this list and go, “Oh I totally haven’t gone to dancing in 3 weeks, let me get back to it next week.” Then I’m good 😍

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This also changed in the past few years. It’s ok to be flexible about it. Especially as women, adapt it to where you are in your menstruation cycle. I don’t workout when I bleed for example and I notice journaling becomes easier around this time.

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Give yourself permission to take good care of yourself. Self care is something you give to yourself regardless, it’s not something you earn after working hard. It’s always there 💛

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Take one thing from this post that is suitable for your life currently or another idea that came to you while reading this post, do it for one week. Start small. Adjust it as you go and see how you feel 🤗

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Would love to hear your thoughts on this or any questions you might have 🙏🏼

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I love you 💛

For me, self-love is knowing yourself, knowing your truth and shining bright in your light.

It’s being yourself unapologetically with no compromise. 

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In these videos, I’m sharing a bit about our upcoming workshop - LOVE YOUR ESSENCE 😍

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It is a space where you have the opportunity to connect with your truth, love yourself for who you are and being seen for who you are 🙏🏼
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It’s open for MEN and WOMEN ❤️ Last time the men who were in the room loved it!
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You can feel the energy of it a lot more in the videos 😘
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Last time we did this workshop, we felt so much in our hearts, wanting to hug forever and not leave the room 😃
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If you’ve been feeling disconnected from yourself recently or it has been a struggle, this is the perfect place to come to recharge and remember who you are 🤗
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Faith Jones and I would love to have you there!
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26th June // 10am - 2pm
King’s Cross
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Link to book is below ✨
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https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/love-your-essence-an-explora…
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I love you 💛
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✨ ALL OF YOU IS WELCOME HERE ✨

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As a humanbeing, you are meant to feel all emotions. It’s one of the things that make you human ✨

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Growing up, some emotions might have been more acceptible in your family and some might not have been. Or maybe emotions all together were avoided, unspoken or put under the carpet. So years after, as an adult when you feel those emotions, you either feel frustrated not knowing what to do with them, you judge yourself for feeling something you were taught was bad, or you judge others who express them strongly.
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Why would you go into feeling those uncomfortable emotions at all?
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Without those emotions, your life becomes a limited way of living where your feeling spectrum stays narrow. You avoid sadness which also brings you a limited version of joy. I know this from experience, going through deep grief, loss and sadness last year which honestly at some point felt I lost my joy overall. Now my joy is a whole new level of joy with gratitude like it got an upgrade ☺️ You also become an overall more heart centred, compassionate and loving human ❤️
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If you want to connect with those emotions, feel them fully and integrate them with love leaving you feeling whole, free and embodied, come to the next group breathwork journey.
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It’s next Thursday the 13th at 6:30pm. Link to book is below ✨
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https://www.brownpapertickets.com/event/4243177
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It’s a space where all of you is welcomed, all of you will be loved for exactly who you are. It’s powerful because if you experience this space once, it becomes a reference point you can go back to. This is the gift of those journeys for you ❤️
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Message me if you have any questions and I’d love to have you there 😍
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I love you 💛
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❤️ HOW TO FALL IN LOVE WITH YOURSELF AFTER A HEARTBREAK ❤️

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Breakups are painful. 

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As much as they hurt, they can also be the beginning of a new chapter.

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Falling in love is one of the most beautiful feelings on the planet. You find each other and love every single thing about each other. You become a team together, you fall into this love bubble you create together.

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You become each other’s whole world, everything and everyone to one another. You forget how you even lived before meeting this person. You love so deeply that you’d do anything for each other. 

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Then for whatever reason, that love bubble pops, you come back to reality. You see parts in this person you don’t like. You either blame the person for not being who you want them to be OR you own the fact that it’s something actually you need to be working on so you hold each other and work through it together. 

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It’s never one thing. It’s the accumulation of little things that leads to breakups. And it hurts. It can feel like this beautiful love you shared is gone overnight and you left with nothing. You might go into the story of the love you shared wasn’t real, you were betrayed, you will never be loved again, men can’t be trusted, they abandon you etc.

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The truth is, when you’re falling in love, you’re falling in love with aspects of yourself. You love yourself through loving the other person. The other person is just you, an aspect of you. When you love those qualities in them, you love the same in yourself ❤️

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The love you shared is always there, it’s never lost. The problem is, you make it about the person. When they are out of the equation, it feels as if the love is gone. It’s not. It shows you what love can feel like so you can feel it with yourself and others.

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After a breakup, you have two choices:

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✨Are you going to close your heart and give up on love? 

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✨Or are you going to keep your heart open and love again and again?

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Mark Nepo says in the documentary, Power of the Heart, heart grows through breaking, like muscles. It’s agony in the moment, it hurts. But the heart says, “Give me more.” It’s about coming back to love, finding acceptance and forgiveness.

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When you close your heart, it can feel like protecting yourself from being hurt but you’re also closing yourself to the love, magic, happiness and all there is in life. There is a risk of your heart being broken again, but the cost you pay when you keep your heart closed is much bigger.

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Nearly throughout last year, I went through a painful breakup. We chose to seperate in a way we hold each other in our sadness and grief as we wanted to be in each other’s life forever as close friends. It was hard because we literally exposed ourselves to feel rather than numbing. It brought up loads of other stuff I avoided looking at before. It wasn’t a straight line where I felt it for three days and that was it. It was more like a cycle where some days I felt free and empowered, some days, I felt sad and heartbroken until one day, I wasn’t sad anymore.

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I had my doubts creeping in, “How can you let this go? Will you find this love again?” When you let go of something not knowing what will come, that in between space can feel scary. Wherever there is space, universe will bring in something. You just don’t know it yet.

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Filling that space doesn’t have to be being with someone else. Be with yourself first, take care of yourself first rather than expecting someone to do that. You can go straight back into another relationship that makes you feel better. This could be a distraction from feeling. When that new connection ends, there you will find your pain, waiting to be felt. That’s all it wants, to be felt.

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Here are some steps to bring you back to your own love when you feel heartbroken:

- Close your eyes.

- Take 4 deep breaths.

- Notice what emotion is present in you? Allow yourself to feel it knowing it’s safe to feel it.

- Which memory is it bringing up in you? When was the first time you felt this?

- Now see the 4 year old you. How does she feel? What does she need to hear from you? Tell her she’s loved, whole and beautiful as she is. No one’s behaviour can change that.

- Place your hand on your heart.

- Imagine bringing down your awareness into your heart space. Take a deep breath into your heart. What is your heart telling you?

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No one’s behaviour or words can change who you are. The way they treat you says more about who they are. It doesn’t mean anything about you but it shows you what you believe about yourself. It shows you about your wounded self and Ego. It’s not who you truly are. The reason it’s happening is to show you a lesson that needs to be learnt, a boundary needs to be put or a change that needs to be made.

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If you’re resistant to self-love, start with self-respect and self-honour. Treat yourself with respect and honouring of your needs. When you do, all the people who don’t treat you well will start vanishing from your reality and you won’t compromise for any less than you deserve.

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"Talk to yourself like you would to someone you love." - Brene Brown

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Forget about everyone else. Only you matter. Everyone else is a gateway to you, to learn more about yourself and love yourself even more. 

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Explore what you love. What brings you joy? What comes naturally to you? What excites you the most? What would you do for the rest of your life if you weren’t paid to do it? What do people say you’re good at?

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Know that you’re healing, growing, learning and expanding your capacity to receive and give love ☺️

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Love you ❤️

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I saw this the other day and I love it 😍

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There are 5 love languages, 5 ways we feel loved. How you love people might not be how others want to be loved. For example, you might love giving compliments as that’s what you would love, but the other person might just wants to spend quality time together with full presence and no phone.

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It’s so good to talk about these not just with your partner, but friends, family, colleagues even, to find out how they feel appreciated so you connect with people deeper.
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It’s also important to find out what makes you feel good and connect with yourself deeper. How are you giving yourself love? ❤️
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Maybe your love language is more quality time, it could be going on walks in nature. Or if it’s words, it could be catching yourself when you’re beating yourself up and saying kind words to yourself instead 🙏🏼
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Do the test 5 love languages online, then find one thing from your first love language that you can do this week to be loving towards yourself and do that 😍
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Enjoy this gorgeous sun! ☀️
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Love you 💛
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Image by Blessing Manifesting: Self Love Quotes