morning pages

🙏🏼 WHAT I DO FOR MY SELF CARE 🙏🏼

Around 10 days ago, at the Goddess Within Retreat held by Gina Genie, we spoke about self care a lot. So I wanted to share what I do for my self care.

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Working for myself, especially in the beginning, I didn’t really stop. I struggled to slow down and rest. Over the last 6 years, I put these structures in place I’m going to share with you for my wellbeing and for to better serve everyone else.

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🔻 Writing 3 Pages in the Morning (30 min every day)

- This is a brain dump of everything you have in your mind. It actually helped with expressing myself better and have more ideas. It’s an exercise from the book the Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron.

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🔻 Meditate (10-15 min every day)

- I do transcendental meditation where I repeat a mantra over and over again. I time it on Insight Timer.

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🔻 Workout (3-4 workouts a week, 30 min each)

- This saved my life. It helped me be in my body more, feel stronger and have a clearer mind. I eat regularly now as well as the food is all in there. I do Shona Vertue’s 12 week workout and meal programme.

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🔻 Spend time in nature (at least once a week 3 hours)

- I moved to live near Hampstead Heath specifically for this. There is a bench I go to sit with a book. I turn off my phone. I just sit on that bench for a good while watching the trees and the meadow and reading.

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🔻 Dance (1-2 times a week 5rhythms)

- This helps me to come back to my body, feel my emotions, surrender, connect with my playfulness. There is a beautiful community whichever class I go to, so it’s great for connecting with people too.

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🔻 Bath (2-3 times a week for 30 mins minimum)

- I do this especially after workshops with epsom salt, essential oils and peaceful music. I remember not giving myself this time and keep pushing and pushing until I breakdown. When I take a bath, that doesn’t happen.

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🔻 Connect with friends (at least once a week)

- I’m grateful I have people in my life I can contact when I feel down and go, “Hey just want to let it out. I feel .... “ They just listen and say, “I hear you and I feel you etc.” without saving or fixing. They also celebrate my successes with me. There is a quote from the movie Into the Wild, “Happiness only real when shared.” No matter how much of a lone wolf you might be, you have a hardwired need for connection as a human.

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🔻 Have a Life Coach (twice a month)

- I have a coach for 3 years now which is therapy/healing too. I can say this is a must now for me like brushing teeth. One of the best things I did for my life. I really believe if you want to create a life living your full potential, you need to have a coach/mentor. You can’t do it all alone. 

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🔻 Have Fun & Be Playful (whenever)

- This is things like making silly jokes, jumping on trampoline, going into ball pits, adventure parks, going to comedy improv (if you like this please let me know, let’s go together)

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This was built over a period of 6 years. It didn’t happen overnight. I wasn’t born with a morning routine, working out regularly, meditating and dancing. I used to rebel against any structure which is a structure in itself that doesn’t serve, so I made one that served me. 

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These structures allow me to rest then get back into creating. If I don’t follow these, I go into overwhelm, I have a breakdown and it’s just not nice.

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Of course I have fall backs. I have days where I need more sleep and I just do 10 min meditation in the morning. I have weeks where I forgot to take bath or go to walk in the forest. I notice the difference. When I don’t journal, I’m not grounded and centred. I start to feel agitated not enjoying my life. Then I look at this list and go, “Oh I totally haven’t gone to dancing in 3 weeks, let me get back to it next week.” Then I’m good 😍

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This also changed in the past few years. It’s ok to be flexible about it. Especially as women, adapt it to where you are in your menstruation cycle. I don’t workout when I bleed for example and I notice journaling becomes easier around this time.

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Give yourself permission to take good care of yourself. Self care is something you give to yourself regardless, it’s not something you earn after working hard. It’s always there 💛

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Take one thing from this post that is suitable for your life currently or another idea that came to you while reading this post, do it for one week. Start small. Adjust it as you go and see how you feel 🤗

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Would love to hear your thoughts on this or any questions you might have 🙏🏼

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I love you 💛

☀️ MORNING & NIGHT ROUTINES 🌕

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I wrote about few self love practices the other day. Following that, I want to share what worked for me as morning and night routines ✨

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Why have a morning or night routine?

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In the morning, it sets you up for a good mood to start the day. In the evening, it helps you rewind and have a better quality of sleep. You’re using your energy and body a lot more efficiently.

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🤩 Having a morning routine 🤩

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For the last 6 years, I’ve been trying loads of things as morning routines. This is what I found that works for me. 

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Now I do this:

- I wake up, check my temperature for Natural Cycles. Yes this has became a thing 😍 It is a natural birth control method.

- I make my bed. It sets you up for already feeling good for completing a task, productivity etc.

- I brush my teeth, wash my face etc

- I do yoga for 20 minutes. Check out downdog app - alternative - 15 squats and 30 sec plank

- I do my morning pages. 3 pages of brain dump for around 30 minutes - if not 15 minutes ✍🏼

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You might say, I don’t have 30 minutes in the morning to fluff about. Start with 10 minutes, do that for a week then add another 10 minutes. For your wellbeing, happiness and inner peace. Even writing 10 mins as a restart can do sometimes. See what works for you.

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I used to be very controlling with this having a full on routine lasting for an hour. Then I went to the other side of the spectrum and had no routine whatsoever for a year. 

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Some days when I don’t have time, I skip the yoga and write for 10 minutes. Don’t beat yourself up with this.

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Best thing you can do in the morning is not checking for your phone UNTIL after breakfast. Sometimes I do that and it feels great. These days, I check it after writing, before breakfast 😊

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😴 Having a night routine 😴

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It’s nearly impossible to increase your quality of sleep when you dive into your bed just after working on your laptop. An hour calmdown is the best, if you can’t do that half an hour will do too. 

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This is what I do now:

- I start with taking a bath sometimes, definitely not every night.

- I read a fiction book or novel. This helps your mind to rewind.

- I have warm milk with honey. I had it every night as a kid, I still love it. If you’re not into milk, try apple cider vinegar in tea and honey 🍯

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Even reading a fiction book for 10 minutes with chamomile tea is a night routine. Keep it simple to start with.

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There is no morning and night routine polices. If you’re naturally a more driven person, start with one step a day, do that for a week before adding everything else. Otherwise it becomes just another to do list. Don’t be hard on yourself.

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If you’re naturally a more going with the flow person, make sure you do one thing whether it’s journaling or moving your body. This will activate the part of you that is more likely to finish tasks. Not having a routine is a routine as well, you don’t have to rebellious against yourself about this, it’s for your own wellbeing.

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I would love to hear what you find works for you as a morning or night routine 😍 

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Feel free to comment below and share this if you found it useful ✨

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Loads of love to you 💛

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✌🏼 DO YOUR MORNING PAGES ✌🏼

I want to share one of the simplest but most powerful tools I came across. 

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Morning pages ✨ They are three pages you write first thing in the morning, created by Julia Cameron.
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You get up in the morning and write three uncensored pages of whatever is on your mind at the time. You write on a paper, so you can slow down to listen. It could be as random as, “I forgot to buy eggs yesterday, I feel shit, I’m going out of London today yey, I didn’t like what X told me yesterday, what a bitch, I don’t know why I’m friends with her sometimes.” Whatever comes to you, it’s like a brain dump.
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I started doing them four years ago when it was my last year at university studying architecture. It was a full on year, I had many excuses not to do them. I did them anyway.
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It allows you to find a still place within yourself, a place you have all the answers you’ve been looking for. It calms down the storms of your mind and brings you back to yourself. It shows you your truth, what matters to you the most. It helps you build your trust to yourself. It helps you surrender to the unknown.
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It’s not always pleasant, you face and write your darkest thoughts, uncensored. They’re better out than in. As you write, feel fully and allow, you naturally transform them.
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If you’re a writer, it becomes a warmup for your actual writing. If you’re not a writer, it becomes a clear up of your mind, showing you what’s true. A place where you can leave yesterday and make a fresh start of the day ✨
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I’m ever grateful for Julia Cameron for this tool which I recommend to half the people I meet now, including strangers on the street ✌🏼
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This is how I started writing. I loved it so much I kept doing it ever since. I miss days even weeks sometimes but I always came back to it. Some days I write two pages, some days four. I don’t do it straight after I’ve woken up. I used to, now I do it after doing yoga. It feels better for me. Do what feels good for you.
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If three pages feels intense, start with one. Give it a go for a week, one page a day and see how you feel in the end of the week ❤️ and let me know.
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Love you 😍
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