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💄 A MONTH WITHOUT MAKEUP 💄

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Today marks one month without wearing any makeup ❤️

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I grew up being told if you go out without make up, it’s disrespectful for other people. You haven’t put any effort in, meaning you don’t care about the person you’re meeting up with. It sounds ridiculous writing this but growing up it sounded legit. Ever since I was 15, I learnt to put makeup on my face every day. It just became a habit so I rolled with it.
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I had a week here and there when I was camping, in nature, or at a retreat and didn’t put makeup on. It felt weird initially, like something’s missing. I look like I just rolled out of bed. After few days though, it felt beautiful. I get to connect with and love my real face ❤️
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This time around, after 2-3 weeks of no makeup (not even ‘bit of mascara’), I swear, my eye lashes started to grow! Even my skin got better, my eyes started to shine a lot more. My face literally perked up. So I carried on until now ✨
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I keep hearing men sometimes find telling women ‘You’re beautiful’ a bit cheesy, assuming they hear it all the time. They might or might not hear it all the time, but it never is cheesy to hear it again. You have no idea how many incredibly beautiful women don’t find themselves beautiful. It might be a vulnerable thing to say but go for it ❤️
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I didn’t find myself beautiful without makeup at some point because I was disconnected from who I truly was. Now I’m super happy to say I can go out without makeup and feel beautiful and good in my body (I don’t really go out, but you know to 5rhythms class or something 😃)
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You might be in a workplace where you feel you have to wear makeup. Start with a week on holiday where you’re not putting anything on to try it out, to pass that initial resistant phase and see how your face will start to shine in it’s natural beauty 😍
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Another thing is how men treat you when you have no makeup on. If they don’t honour and treat you well without it, maybe have an open and honest conversation about your expectations and upbringings around how women should be. They are just beliefs many people took on board without questioning how they feel about them. They’re not the ultimate truth, and they don’t have to be your truth for sure.
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✨ You don’t have to do anything you don’t want to do. ✨
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If they honour and treat you well without makeup on, amazing. You should be treated like a queen, just as you are, with or without makeup 💃🏽
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I’m not saying throw away all your make up and never use it again 😃 If the desire to do so comes naturally, that’s amazing. Just don’t do it out of reaction. I love make up, I’ll probably use it in the future 😍 Just sharing how in awe I am for the result of not using makeup for a month 💄
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Your face is the only face you have and no one else has it. Give so much love to it ❤️
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Feel free to share this post 😘
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May you have a gorgeous week ahead 💛
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💃🏽 JUST BE YOU 💃🏽

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I hear this a lot, ‘just be you’. I say it a lot too actually 😃 

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But how can you actually just be yourself?

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Being yourself sometimes can be the hardest thing to be. You might feel you need to control yourself, you’re not allowed to be yourself, that’s just too risky.

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You might feel you need to be a certain way to receive love. You can’t rock the boat or create too much conflict, you need to do what you’re told and be a good girl/boy.

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Or you might feel you have to accommodate poeple and make sure they’re not uncomfortable. So you prefer to keep the peace and sacrifice being you once again for the sake of keeping everyone happy.

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So what do you do?

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You sacrifice being yourself in order to be in control, in order to receive love and in order to keep everyone happy. 

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The truth is by controlling yourself, you loose touch with your true self and when it comes to being yourself you might be clueless in what that feels like.

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And when you do receive love, you’re receiving that love to the masked version of you. Still you feel unloved because it’s not you they’re loving, it’s the rundown version of you. And still, everyone’s not happy, it’s never enough.

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And when you make other people uncomfortable when you’re yourself, you’re just showing them something they’ve been avoiding and they don’t like facing it. You’re actually serving them.

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I’m great at being a chameleon. I enter a room, scan the energy of the people, listen to the words they use, the way they move and quickly calculate how I should be there to not create too much of a contrast. I used to do this a lot to fit in. Now I do it to connect with people and really feel and see who they are, not to change my way of being around them. And I still fall back into it some days. I catch myself saying things I wouldn’t normally say and go, ‘who dis?’ and come back to myself 😃

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Two weeks ago at Boom festival, there was a woman I was dancing with for a bit. In the end she came up to me saying, ‘You’re so powerful and beautiful. You have so much strength. You activated something in me. I’m going to do my best to pass it on. Thank you so much. ’ 

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I had to have her repeat it to me as I wasn’t sure how she got all of that by me just dancing around. Then again, I saw it. By your way of being, by just being you, you can show people so much without even trying.

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Here are few ways to come back to yourself when you’re loosing touch with being yourself:

- Close your eyes, take a deep breath.

- As you exhale imagine you’re sending off anything that’s not you, all the beliefs, energies people might have put on you.

- As you inhale, imagine you’re gathering back all your energy, power you mught have given to people. Imagine you’re becoming whole as you inhale, feeling whole and complete.

- Ask yourself, ‘What would I do in this moment, if no one I knew existed?’ ‘Who would I love to be?’

- Go and do that, be that.

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When you see someone who are themselves unapologetically, they don’t have to explain you who they are. You just know it, feel it from their way of being. 

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I haven’t mastered this btw. I have days where I’m being me and loving who I am. Then I have days I doubt if I should wear my feather earrings to that formal dinner. But then I do 😉

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What do you celebrate, love or honour about yourself? 

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Comment below, let’s celebrate our uniqueness 💃🏽

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Loads of love to you all 💛✨

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My friend Nathalie is here in London!

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One of my closest friends Nathalie went to Croatia a year ago to follow her heart to create a retreat/home holding embodiment retreats. She ended up traveling to Australia, Spain, Texas, Peru and New York after Croatia 😃

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She inspires me with her courage and her determination to cope with the lack of routine 😂 I love routines and having a clean and organised home. I couldn’t do what she did for a year, would probably go crazy. She loves routines too so I admire her for what she’s done.
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She’s staying with me this week then off to Australia to move in with her boyfriend and continue with her projects ❤️
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I want to share how we met and got close as I’m super grateful to have her in my life. So we met 2-3 years ago at ecstatic dancing, started talking about tantra and I added her as ‘Nathalie Tantra’ on my phone, to this day she’s still Nathalie Tantra on my phone and in my life 🙏🏼
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We bumped into each other few times at ecstatic dancing and each time I asked her when she is starting her dance group. I was geniune, she’s really good. She got super uncomfortable each time I asked 😃 Anyway we met up for a coffee one day. I felt a strong pull to ask if she wanted to meetup with me and dance every week (we’re not close by this point) she was a bit shocked but said ‘yes’.
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We started dancing in her kitchen followed by deep conversations and eating on the floor. We laughed, cried, had so much fun, filmed ourselves. Sometimes Adam joined us 🐵 We moved with one another with blindfolds on, learnt to surrender and trust again.
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During this time we both started training as life coaches (Nov 2016) at the same time in Animas Coaching and now here we are, both graduated in a whole new chapter in our lives.
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We went to 5rhythms last night and on Sunday we’re going to picnic gathering our coaching school is organising ✨
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I am grateful to have very few but deep friendships like this one where no matter how far you go without talking for weeks, when you come back together the connection’s always there and deeper.
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Love you Nathalie so much 💛
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I’m on my way to Avebury now, going to Swindon first.

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I’m on my way to Avebury now, going to Swindon first. I said to the woman who was giving me this coffee who reminded me of my mum’s eyes, ‘You have incredible beautiful eyes.’ She lit up and said, ‘I wanted to tell you the same. They’re beautiful.’ We held our eye gaze for a bit, I felt the love, such an amazing feeling, to connect with another woman for a moment, whether you know her or not. Then she gave me the coffee for free ❤️

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Always choose kindness ✨ And of course don’t use it to manipulate people to get your way 😂 (More on the Integrated Feminine Retreat later)

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🌺 CREATING WHAT YOU LOVE NO MATTER WHAT 🌺

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The beautiful women who joined us in the Awakened Woman workshop last Saturday 😍

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In the morning my dear friend Amanda who was assisting and I arrived at the venue to set it up. I knew the code to the outside door, but downstairs doors were locked. I’ve been using this venue for a year and this never happened before.
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So we can’t access the room. My first response is trying few codes, do everything to get in while my mind scans other options like changing venue etc, full on solution mode. Then eventually I get angry, I panic, cry a little while Amanda is searching ways to get in, holding her ground.
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I knew cancellation was not an option so we had to get in. At this point, I delayed the starting time 30 minutes giving us enough time.
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I contact few of my friends who use the venue in case they knew. Then we started calling the numbers on the flyers outside the venue as they use the same space as well, saying, ‘Good morning, this is a bit random but we’re in this venue trying to get in. Do you know the code to get in?’ 😂
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One of them does!
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He told us the codes are in a box in the kitchen. We found the box and the codes are in there. We put in the codes and they work! The only problem is, now the door is jammed 🙈 I break the door handle by accident, Amanda puts it back together 😄
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We spent another 15 minutes trying to get in.
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What happened next was unbelievable. We still don’t know how it happened...
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Amanda stands there, in her mind she tells herself, ‘NO MORE!’. Then enters the code, pushes the door handle and the door opens! We stare each other in shock.
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We go in, shake it all off, shout, scream, punch pillows, move, then we’re good to go like nothing happened 😄
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It was a beautiful, powerful, intense workshop with huge release.. I loved every second of it 😍❤️
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Afterwards we crushed at Amanda’s unable to move or speak properly 😂
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It was an incredible day from start to the finish. In the first part of the day, I was talking about no matter what the circumstances are, you can have what you love. You’re not bypassing what’s happening now but you’re making a new choice in where you want to go. I gave this as an example. I was initially super angry at the venue organiser for not giving me the codes. I could have chosen to hold onto my anger or I could find ways to get in. I chose the latter one.
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No matter what obstacles come your way, even at times things seem impossible, just decide you’ll make a way to get to where you want to go to and the opportunities will present themselves ✨
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Thank you gorgeous woman who joined us last week!
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Loads of love to you ❤️
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This beast arrived just now 😂💙

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I’m at a point where I need louder music for movement and breathwork part of the workshops I do.

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So here it is, it’s a bit bigger than I expected 😄
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There are few final tickets left for tomorrow, The Awakened Woman. This is a beautiful, safe and empowered space to come together with women, talking about Ego-Soul, masculine-feminine energies, tools to get out of your head, guided movement and breathwork 🙌🏼 You’ll leave feeling lighter, grounded and empowered 💗
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Tickets are £45. Here’s the link ✨
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https://www.brownpapertickets.com/event/3340434
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See you there 💛
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Loads of love 

😣 OVERWHELM 😣

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This is an interesting topic as it comes into my life every now and then.

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I find that it’s not about completely removing stress, overwhelm and anxiety. It’s about accepting their existence and learning to play with them when they come out to work.

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Overwhelm comes from needing to do everything on your own so you can control the outcome. When you feel like you have to do everything on your own, you can ask for help and receive it gracefully. There are people out there when they help, it brings them joy, when you push away support, you rob them from the joy of giving as well.

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Overwhelm comes from control. When you see there are way too many options that you can’t control, you go into overwhelm. It happens when things are happening real quick and you feel it’s growing out of your control so you shut down to get back in the control seat. 

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This happened to me few weeks ago, when Aaron and I were seperating, I was searching to find a new home to start living on my own, had 2 workshops in one week, had one day to pack everything and few other things were going on which I forgot now. I was sitting, thinking about all the things I need to do in a neverending loop. I was going into overthinking and panic.

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It’s not because a lot was going on. It was about how I was responding to the things that were going on. If you think its hard and overwhelming, it’s going to be hard and overwhelming which takes the joy out of what you are doing. What you normally do with joy becomes just another task added to your to do list. If you connect to love you have about all these things you’re doing, then ease, flow and joy will come back into it. 

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Underneath all the overwhelm, I love giving workshops and I actually loved the house search, creating a new home. As soon as I stop trying so hard, get out of the overwhelm and connect back to the joy, someone books a ticket to one of my workshops. It’s mindblowing, every single time.

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Another one happened right today actually, there was a lot going on that I felt like was happening out of my control. I saw that I created most of it in my head. I made it more than what it is and created a huge wall to climb that overwhelmed me, but in truth there was no wall, everything was actually ok 😂

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Overwhelm also comes from trying to plan out the next five years. If you are honest and true to yourself, you’ll see that who you are changes every moment of every day. If you plan out your next five years you’ll be planning it from where you are right now. Your circumstances might change tomorrow and your control to stick to your plans might push away all the opportunities out there. I’m not saying go with the wind every day and have no plan whatsoever, but instead have a goal, a vision, a destination you want to arrive at. Find your next true action, take that and keep your awareness open to people, resources coming to you. Repeat this as you go.

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I stopped doing to-do lists 1.5 years ago just to try it out for two weeks. It turned out to be one of the best things I did. I didn’t like it in the beginning, especially the uneasy feeling of letting go of control. In the end, it allowed my heart and intuition to come in more into my life.

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Funnily enough, I started remembering things I thought I’d forget because I didn’t have a to do list. More ideas started flowing to me because I was being more present. Whatever had priority would naturally pop into my mind and I’d do it straight away rather than writing it down to do later. I set reminders now if I’m meant to send a newsletter, call someone etc. I use calendar obviously but other than that I don’t do to-do lists. The temptation is there but I know it takes me into a frantic overdrive mode, so I don’t do it.

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Whatever I go through in my life, my clients do as well, sometimes we’re synced daily, it’s so interesting. So whenever I am in overwhelm, I have few clients in overwhelm as well, being a great mirror to me without even realising, gets me out of my overwhelm instantly. I’m super grateful for them 🙌🏼

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Next time you’re trying to juggle way too many balls and feeling overwhelmed, follow these steps:

- Notice you’re in overwhelm, name that it’s overwhelm

- Close your eyes, take a deep breath, sigh it out

- Notice what thoughts you’re telling yourself, what meaning you’re putting to the situation

- Imagine rising above the situation, floating above it, looking at it from a higher perspective

- Ask, ‘What’s number one priority right now?’

- Do that. Don’t go into planning the rest before you do that

- Repeat rising above and finding what’s priority as you need.

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If you do to-do lists and have bit of an addictive relationship with them, go for a week without doing one and see what happens 😉 Then assess again after a week, don’t judge the situation before then and move from there ✨

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Sending you loads of love 💛

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😍 THANK YOU 😍

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Last week has been the most eventful week with lots of growth, expansion and surrender I experienced, what a ride it has been...

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Thank you from the bottom of my heart for reading and feeling my posts. I write about my most vulnerable parts and it means a lot that you see them. There's more to come 😉
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So many women I haven't met reached out to me, sharing their most vulnerable and open experiences. They skipped the whole 'Hey, how are you?' bit and went right into 'I'm struggling with surrender. I'd love to talk' I love that honesty and straightforwardness. If you've been hesitant to reach out, go for it.
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So many women I met but haven't spoken to in a while reached out opening their heart wide open, saying, 'I'm here for you if you want company.' I am truly grateful for the love I'm finding everywhere ❤️
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I received this note and gift from my beautiful friend and client Inka the other day. It melted my heart. I've been seeing her blossom with her expression in the world over the last year feeling so proud of her 😍
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I offer a one-off free session for the ones who want to find out their power and purpose in life. We'll find it out intuitively in one session with the next inspired action that will allow that vision to come to you.
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When there are loads of people out there telling you what to do, it can be frustrating to know which one is actually true for you. We'll find out what is your authentic way to express your gift in the world.
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If you already know your gift and calling in this world, we'll take you to the next level giving you a whole new momentum.
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If you're not sure how that works, just book a free session. It will be a video call lasting around 1-1.5 hours.
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These sessions are normally £100. I offer one-off free sessions because I much prefer giving the experience to people rather than talking about it.
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Here's the link to book - https://calendly.com/isik
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Feel free to share this with someone who you feel might benefit.
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Loads of love to you ❤️
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SOLD OUT BABY!! ❤️

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My 1 day workshop tomorrow in London is now sold out. Feeling so excited and grateful to go deep with 12 beautiful women tomorrow connecting to our feminine power! 😍❤️

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PM me your email address to stay tuned for future events lovelies. So much more to come this year ❤️
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Have an amazing Friday ✨
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