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✨ MAGIC OF THE DAY ✨

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This is the face of rest after 9 hours of sleep and a float 😌

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Few weeks ago, someone told me they were going for a float at Floatworks. I’ve been to one nearly two years ago and loved it. I had the thought, “I’d love to go again.” Two days after, I’ve got gifted a float session 😍
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If you’ve never done it, this is how floating works: You go into an isolation tank filled with super salty water. It is similar to taking a bath, but you’re in total darkness floating and only thing you can hear is your own heartbeat and your breath. You can have the lights on if this is too intense for you. If you surrender and let go, it is heaven ✨
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It’s great for jet lag, sore muscles and anxiety. It calms down your nervous system and reduces stress. You can sometimes get out of body experiences.
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My experience is, it’s very similar to deep meditation state you go into when you meditate for longer where you’re nothing and everything, you’re just empty.
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I booked this float after last week where I did a lot of work. I learnt to rest well after doing a lot, otherwise I loose my excitement, enthusiasm for things and I burn out.
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Resting is as important as doing even though my Ego doesn’t always like it ☺️ It is also giving yourself permission to celebrate your achievements, to be grateful for what you created.
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Get your rest time in 🙌🏼
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Happy Monday!
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I love you 💛
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Cozy Saturday night in 💫

I haven’t read a book listening to super chilled music surrounded by candles and fairylights with an incense stick burning in a long long time.. It feels so good ❤️ 

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No matter how much stuff you might need to do, there is always time to slow down and reflect. The time you spend allowing yourself to feel your emotions and to rest is never wasted. It will come back to you in ten holds 😉
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Happy Saturday! What are up to tonight?
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I love you 💛
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💛 ONE STEP AT A TIME SELF LOVE 💛

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In my previous post about self-love, I wrote about accepting and loving parts of yourself you don’t like. 

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You can read the previous post here 👉🏼 

https://www.facebook.com/595885299/posts/10161244072840300/

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This one’s about the practical things you can do to cultivate self-love ✨

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SET BOUNDARIES 🙅🏽‍♀️ 

If you have people around you constantly needing your energy, only calling you when they are in a bad place but not listening to you when you need them, see if you actually want to be friends with this person. Tell them how you feel, “I’m noticing I’m there for you a lot, but when I need you, I feel like you’re not there for me.” This is your life. When you do so much for others, what are you doing for yourself? Listen to the guilt and say, “Thank you for sharing.” and give yourself what you need without having to earning or deserving it. You deserve it anyway without doing anything.

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TAKE A BATH & REST 🛁 

Fill up a bath, put some rose oil in it. Put an ambient chill playlist on, light some candles. Et voila, you created a sacred space for yourself to absolutely do nothing. You go further by slowing down. I used to go into overdrive and not even realise i’ve been working for 5 hours straight. Then my head would feel as if it’s going to explode and i wouldn’t know how to wind down. You’re not a machine and you’re allowed to have time where you do nothing but soak in a bath ✨

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LEARN HOW TO EAT WELL

I’m no expert in this. But luckily I had a conscious mum who taught me how to eat well followed by a nutritionist I saw for a while. Plan your meal shopping. Do a big one for the month, then another one in 2 weeks for things like fruits, salads as they will run out in the first two weeks. Have recipes of 5-6 dishes you can make. Write down the ingredients and do your shopping according to that. Have 2-3 alternative to breakfast/lunch/dinner in case you get bored of eating the same thing like I do. Sometimes prepare your table as if you’re having guests around. You are the guest! Treat yourself like a queen/king 👑

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CONNECT WITH YOUR BODY 🏃🏽‍♀️ 

Your body loves moving. Choose a workout or embodiment practice. Whether its running, yoga, dancing, climbing etc, stick to something 2-3 times a week even for 20 minutes and you’ll see a drastic change in how you feel and also how your body looks ✨

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HAVE SOME ALONE TIME 💛 

We live in such a busy world, in such fast pace. It can be easy to forget to spend time on your own. Take yourself out on a date, to a movie, for a dinner, for a walk in nature. You’re the person you’re going to be with for the rest of your life. Get to know yourself, what do you like? What brings you joy? And don’t rush if you don’t know your purpose. When you do what brings you joy, your purpose will become obvious with time ✨

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There is a place deep within you that knows who you are. You don’t have to look outside for things. You just have to let go of everything you’re not and turn down the volume of external sounds. This is why slowing down and being in silence is powerful. Switching from doing to being, it’s rejuvenating, healing and restoring ✨

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HAVE COMPASSION TOWARDS YOURSELF 😍

We’re our worst enemies. Talk to yourself how you’d talk to a friend, especially when you’re feeling low, especially when you don’t feel at your best. The words you use carry powerful energy. You might not have crossed everything from your to-do list. That’s ok. You might not be where you thought you’d be by now. That’s ok. Train yourself to tell yourself, “That’s ok. I love you anyway.”

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HAVE A MORNING AND NIGHT ROUTINE ☀️🌕

Morning routine can be as simple as making your bed and journaling for 10 minutes, writing out whatever you’re thinking in that moment. A night routine can be as simple as reading a fiction novel for 10 minutes while drinking a camomile tea. Keep it simple to start with. I’ll write a longer post about this tomorrow.

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These are action steps that are easy to do. Go into the part of you that doesn’t feel loved, a part of you you don’t accept, pushed to the side. Love that part. When you accept and love more the parts you don’t want anyone to find out, all these practicalities fall into place anyway. External actions become effortless when you shift the internal.

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Take one practice from this post, whether it’s taking a bath or moving your body, do it regularly for a week. Then come back to this post and add another. It’s overhelming to do them all at the same time in one go. 

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This past November and first half of December, for the first time in my life, I slept well, ate well, did 5rhythms (movement meditation), did yoga nearly every day. I always had one or two out of balance. For the first time I nailed it. And I know I might not have this balance all the time and that’s ok.

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Ask yourself:

- Is this going to connect me more with me?

- What gives me more self-love?

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And do that. Treat yourself like you’re your own lover 😉💛

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I love you ❤️

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😘😘😘

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😣 OVERWHELM 😣

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This is an interesting topic as it comes into my life every now and then.

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I find that it’s not about completely removing stress, overwhelm and anxiety. It’s about accepting their existence and learning to play with them when they come out to work.

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Overwhelm comes from needing to do everything on your own so you can control the outcome. When you feel like you have to do everything on your own, you can ask for help and receive it gracefully. There are people out there when they help, it brings them joy, when you push away support, you rob them from the joy of giving as well.

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Overwhelm comes from control. When you see there are way too many options that you can’t control, you go into overwhelm. It happens when things are happening real quick and you feel it’s growing out of your control so you shut down to get back in the control seat. 

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This happened to me few weeks ago, when Aaron and I were seperating, I was searching to find a new home to start living on my own, had 2 workshops in one week, had one day to pack everything and few other things were going on which I forgot now. I was sitting, thinking about all the things I need to do in a neverending loop. I was going into overthinking and panic.

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It’s not because a lot was going on. It was about how I was responding to the things that were going on. If you think its hard and overwhelming, it’s going to be hard and overwhelming which takes the joy out of what you are doing. What you normally do with joy becomes just another task added to your to do list. If you connect to love you have about all these things you’re doing, then ease, flow and joy will come back into it. 

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Underneath all the overwhelm, I love giving workshops and I actually loved the house search, creating a new home. As soon as I stop trying so hard, get out of the overwhelm and connect back to the joy, someone books a ticket to one of my workshops. It’s mindblowing, every single time.

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Another one happened right today actually, there was a lot going on that I felt like was happening out of my control. I saw that I created most of it in my head. I made it more than what it is and created a huge wall to climb that overwhelmed me, but in truth there was no wall, everything was actually ok 😂

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Overwhelm also comes from trying to plan out the next five years. If you are honest and true to yourself, you’ll see that who you are changes every moment of every day. If you plan out your next five years you’ll be planning it from where you are right now. Your circumstances might change tomorrow and your control to stick to your plans might push away all the opportunities out there. I’m not saying go with the wind every day and have no plan whatsoever, but instead have a goal, a vision, a destination you want to arrive at. Find your next true action, take that and keep your awareness open to people, resources coming to you. Repeat this as you go.

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I stopped doing to-do lists 1.5 years ago just to try it out for two weeks. It turned out to be one of the best things I did. I didn’t like it in the beginning, especially the uneasy feeling of letting go of control. In the end, it allowed my heart and intuition to come in more into my life.

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Funnily enough, I started remembering things I thought I’d forget because I didn’t have a to do list. More ideas started flowing to me because I was being more present. Whatever had priority would naturally pop into my mind and I’d do it straight away rather than writing it down to do later. I set reminders now if I’m meant to send a newsletter, call someone etc. I use calendar obviously but other than that I don’t do to-do lists. The temptation is there but I know it takes me into a frantic overdrive mode, so I don’t do it.

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Whatever I go through in my life, my clients do as well, sometimes we’re synced daily, it’s so interesting. So whenever I am in overwhelm, I have few clients in overwhelm as well, being a great mirror to me without even realising, gets me out of my overwhelm instantly. I’m super grateful for them 🙌🏼

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Next time you’re trying to juggle way too many balls and feeling overwhelmed, follow these steps:

- Notice you’re in overwhelm, name that it’s overwhelm

- Close your eyes, take a deep breath, sigh it out

- Notice what thoughts you’re telling yourself, what meaning you’re putting to the situation

- Imagine rising above the situation, floating above it, looking at it from a higher perspective

- Ask, ‘What’s number one priority right now?’

- Do that. Don’t go into planning the rest before you do that

- Repeat rising above and finding what’s priority as you need.

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If you do to-do lists and have bit of an addictive relationship with them, go for a week without doing one and see what happens 😉 Then assess again after a week, don’t judge the situation before then and move from there ✨

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Sending you loads of love 💛

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