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😣 OVERWHELM 😣

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This is an interesting topic as it comes into my life every now and then.

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I find that it’s not about completely removing stress, overwhelm and anxiety. It’s about accepting their existence and learning to play with them when they come out to work.

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Overwhelm comes from needing to do everything on your own so you can control the outcome. When you feel like you have to do everything on your own, you can ask for help and receive it gracefully. There are people out there when they help, it brings them joy, when you push away support, you rob them from the joy of giving as well.

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Overwhelm comes from control. When you see there are way too many options that you can’t control, you go into overwhelm. It happens when things are happening real quick and you feel it’s growing out of your control so you shut down to get back in the control seat. 

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This happened to me few weeks ago, when Aaron and I were seperating, I was searching to find a new home to start living on my own, had 2 workshops in one week, had one day to pack everything and few other things were going on which I forgot now. I was sitting, thinking about all the things I need to do in a neverending loop. I was going into overthinking and panic.

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It’s not because a lot was going on. It was about how I was responding to the things that were going on. If you think its hard and overwhelming, it’s going to be hard and overwhelming which takes the joy out of what you are doing. What you normally do with joy becomes just another task added to your to do list. If you connect to love you have about all these things you’re doing, then ease, flow and joy will come back into it. 

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Underneath all the overwhelm, I love giving workshops and I actually loved the house search, creating a new home. As soon as I stop trying so hard, get out of the overwhelm and connect back to the joy, someone books a ticket to one of my workshops. It’s mindblowing, every single time.

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Another one happened right today actually, there was a lot going on that I felt like was happening out of my control. I saw that I created most of it in my head. I made it more than what it is and created a huge wall to climb that overwhelmed me, but in truth there was no wall, everything was actually ok 😂

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Overwhelm also comes from trying to plan out the next five years. If you are honest and true to yourself, you’ll see that who you are changes every moment of every day. If you plan out your next five years you’ll be planning it from where you are right now. Your circumstances might change tomorrow and your control to stick to your plans might push away all the opportunities out there. I’m not saying go with the wind every day and have no plan whatsoever, but instead have a goal, a vision, a destination you want to arrive at. Find your next true action, take that and keep your awareness open to people, resources coming to you. Repeat this as you go.

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I stopped doing to-do lists 1.5 years ago just to try it out for two weeks. It turned out to be one of the best things I did. I didn’t like it in the beginning, especially the uneasy feeling of letting go of control. In the end, it allowed my heart and intuition to come in more into my life.

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Funnily enough, I started remembering things I thought I’d forget because I didn’t have a to do list. More ideas started flowing to me because I was being more present. Whatever had priority would naturally pop into my mind and I’d do it straight away rather than writing it down to do later. I set reminders now if I’m meant to send a newsletter, call someone etc. I use calendar obviously but other than that I don’t do to-do lists. The temptation is there but I know it takes me into a frantic overdrive mode, so I don’t do it.

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Whatever I go through in my life, my clients do as well, sometimes we’re synced daily, it’s so interesting. So whenever I am in overwhelm, I have few clients in overwhelm as well, being a great mirror to me without even realising, gets me out of my overwhelm instantly. I’m super grateful for them 🙌🏼

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Next time you’re trying to juggle way too many balls and feeling overwhelmed, follow these steps:

- Notice you’re in overwhelm, name that it’s overwhelm

- Close your eyes, take a deep breath, sigh it out

- Notice what thoughts you’re telling yourself, what meaning you’re putting to the situation

- Imagine rising above the situation, floating above it, looking at it from a higher perspective

- Ask, ‘What’s number one priority right now?’

- Do that. Don’t go into planning the rest before you do that

- Repeat rising above and finding what’s priority as you need.

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If you do to-do lists and have bit of an addictive relationship with them, go for a week without doing one and see what happens 😉 Then assess again after a week, don’t judge the situation before then and move from there ✨

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Sending you loads of love 💛

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NEW TATTOO 😍🔻

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First tattoo ever as well! I love this triangle on my left foot ❤️

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The idea came to me literally a week ago, this triangle representing water, flow and surrender. I remind myself every day, not to go into overdrive and autopilot but rather, slow down. Come back to flow and surrender 💙
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I was terrified, couldn't believe I was going with an idea I got a week ago, did everything to sabotage and cancel it, then stopped my own drama and went,
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Ok is it true for me to get this tattoo?
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Yes.
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Its a representation of me truly stepping into my feminine, a chapter of growing up is closing and a new one, stepping into my adult womanhood, is beginning.. That's why there was a lot of resistance. So I went for it 🙌🏼
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Aaron's sister did it for me. She set up a bedroom so beautifully like a cocoon, with so much love. It felt like a ritual. With every needle going in, I asked her to repeat flow and surrender. So she did 🙏🏼
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I felt them holding space for me. It didn't hurt as much as I thought. I imagined how 2018 looks like for me, set some intentions. Then 15 mins later we started watching Friends 😃 (love Friends ❤️)
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When I put my hand on it, I can literally feel love, flow, surrender coming out of it. And each time I look at it, I smile 🙏🏼 Remembering how easy doing something can be, when it feels true ✨
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💞 ALLOW YOURSELF TO RECEIVE 💞

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"Life is hard."

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You might believe you have to push through life to get what you want, that it is a struggle and that is the way it is..
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What if it's not meant to be hard? What if you're meant to flow, you're meant to have loads of joy, love and abundance?
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Receiving is as important as giving. Allowing things to come to you naturally.. You might push things and believe that's the way to get things done. That's fine, but I'm saying there's another way.
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You have to open up your heart fully and receive all that is waiting for you. It's ok to open up your heart to its full capacity so that love can enter.. You might get scared that people will hurt you but when you're closing your heart, you're closing yourself to all the beauty that is out there as well..
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It doesn't just effect love, it effects everything. Your ability to receive love will be the same ability of receiving money, receiving joy, receiving support.. They are all forms of love.
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I'm learning loads about this at the moment. I have no problem with giving love or support freely because if I have the answer to someone's problem, its selfish not to give it.. But when it comes to receiving, there are layers I'm working through at the moment 😃
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Each time I open up my heart more to receive, something external happens right away. A new client appears.. A friend contacts me appreciating and giving me love out of the blue.. I get a compliment from someone I haven't met before.. And I get a free coconut bite from Pret 😂
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When you're in that vibration of allowing and receiving love, people will naturally want to give you stuff for free. It's inevitable.
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Next time you feel like you have to push through rather than allowing, try these out:
- Close your eyes and take a deep breath.
- Notice what your mind is telling you, usually its the impulse or urge to do something.
- Ask 'will this benefit me or will it lead to burn out?'
- Imagine the attachment to that idea is dissolving
- Have a look at where you are and what you want to do next.
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Have a beautiful rest of the weekend 😍☀️
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Love you 💛 Receive it, hehe 😉
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FOLLOWING YOUR INTUITION

Had a magical experience tonight..

So was going to have a healing session, it got cancelled and I got from my intuition to go @cuchira's movement therapy class when I saw her post yesterday.

I wasn't feeling it to be honest, was feeling all tired and icky and in my head. I tuned in and got 'get up, go' so I went without thinking about it too much.

Oh my god.. This woman is magic.. Serious magic. She doesn't just teach a mixture of yoga, dance, movement therapy, its something I never experienced before.. You know you experience something that you can't describe because its something unique coming from that one person..

I remembered how simple it is to breathe, yet I forgot. We moved intuitively, however our body felt, honest and as it is.. Then we allowed our bodies to meet and move together, it got all messy 😂 It brought up whole loads of stuff. I loved how what we do daily without being aware of, came up so quickly. Through being uncomfortable and asking why I got to a space where I was feeling all sad. I allowed the sadness to go all over my body completely. It was surrender. Then it went away. There was nothingness.

I was procrastinating over the last few weeks for starting the women's group I visioned, what its gonna be about etc.. From that nothingness, words, images came to me. It opened up at such ease. It was already there for me to have, I was getting in the way..

Initially I was gonna stay in and do a meditation tonight to receive what I needed to write in the group. I got it, plus I got so much more;) Just because I trusted my intuition..

After I left, I went into pret to eat some yumness, someone working there asked me if I liked coconut and offered me the coconut bite thingy for free without me even asking..

When women come together, magic happens. I saw that once more tonight. Thank you @cuchira for being you, allowing every single woman in the room to be themselves, unapologetically. What you're doing is indescribable in words, you're such an inspiration. Love you goddess 🙌🏼💜

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