being yourself

💃🏽 JUST BE YOU 💃🏽

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I hear this a lot, ‘just be you’. I say it a lot too actually 😃 

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But how can you actually just be yourself?

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Being yourself sometimes can be the hardest thing to be. You might feel you need to control yourself, you’re not allowed to be yourself, that’s just too risky.

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You might feel you need to be a certain way to receive love. You can’t rock the boat or create too much conflict, you need to do what you’re told and be a good girl/boy.

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Or you might feel you have to accommodate poeple and make sure they’re not uncomfortable. So you prefer to keep the peace and sacrifice being you once again for the sake of keeping everyone happy.

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So what do you do?

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You sacrifice being yourself in order to be in control, in order to receive love and in order to keep everyone happy. 

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The truth is by controlling yourself, you loose touch with your true self and when it comes to being yourself you might be clueless in what that feels like.

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And when you do receive love, you’re receiving that love to the masked version of you. Still you feel unloved because it’s not you they’re loving, it’s the rundown version of you. And still, everyone’s not happy, it’s never enough.

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And when you make other people uncomfortable when you’re yourself, you’re just showing them something they’ve been avoiding and they don’t like facing it. You’re actually serving them.

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I’m great at being a chameleon. I enter a room, scan the energy of the people, listen to the words they use, the way they move and quickly calculate how I should be there to not create too much of a contrast. I used to do this a lot to fit in. Now I do it to connect with people and really feel and see who they are, not to change my way of being around them. And I still fall back into it some days. I catch myself saying things I wouldn’t normally say and go, ‘who dis?’ and come back to myself 😃

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Two weeks ago at Boom festival, there was a woman I was dancing with for a bit. In the end she came up to me saying, ‘You’re so powerful and beautiful. You have so much strength. You activated something in me. I’m going to do my best to pass it on. Thank you so much. ’ 

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I had to have her repeat it to me as I wasn’t sure how she got all of that by me just dancing around. Then again, I saw it. By your way of being, by just being you, you can show people so much without even trying.

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Here are few ways to come back to yourself when you’re loosing touch with being yourself:

- Close your eyes, take a deep breath.

- As you exhale imagine you’re sending off anything that’s not you, all the beliefs, energies people might have put on you.

- As you inhale, imagine you’re gathering back all your energy, power you mught have given to people. Imagine you’re becoming whole as you inhale, feeling whole and complete.

- Ask yourself, ‘What would I do in this moment, if no one I knew existed?’ ‘Who would I love to be?’

- Go and do that, be that.

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When you see someone who are themselves unapologetically, they don’t have to explain you who they are. You just know it, feel it from their way of being. 

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I haven’t mastered this btw. I have days where I’m being me and loving who I am. Then I have days I doubt if I should wear my feather earrings to that formal dinner. But then I do 😉

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What do you celebrate, love or honour about yourself? 

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Comment below, let’s celebrate our uniqueness 💃🏽

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Loads of love to you all 💛✨

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🎭 BEING YOURSELF 🎭

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When you are yourself you feel loved and seen for who you truly are.

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You might feel like you need to behave in a certain way to get love. You have to do something to deserve love because you can't just get love by doing nothing.
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Or you need to put a mask on to keep everyone happy except you. You need to blend and mold in without being too much of a rebel. To do this, loads of your energy goes into figuring out the situation unconsciously, people so you can blend in. Otherwise, if you reveal yourself to the world you will be betrayed by those you love.
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The truth is you're not defined by other people and other people are not defined by you. People have their own perceptions going on which they're acting out from and that doesn't mean anything about you.
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Next time when you're trying to be in a certain way you think you should be, try these steps:
- Close your eyes.
- Ask yourself 'What's holding me back from being myself?'
- Allow yourself to feel that emotion and ask yourself when you first felt that emotion.
- See that time forming infront of you. What are the decisions you are making about the world and yourself in that moment?
- Imagine looking at the situation from high above, through the eyes of your higher self, your true self. What actually happened? What was other person scared of?
- Come back to the present moment and see what's the true action for you to do for yourself if no one you care about existed.
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When you are not yourself and see that you are being loved you don't receive that love fully because that love came to the masked version of you.
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But when you are truly yourself and when you see that you're celebrated and loved for who you are, that's when you fully feel loved, seen and heard. You have nothing to hide now and you just proved that you can be yourself. It's a beautiful feeling ☺️💛
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Would love to hear from you, comment below your thoughts lovelies 👇🏼
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Much love to you 💞
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🌻 IT'S SAFE TO BE YOU 🌻

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I've been working on this yesterday and today. 

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Sometimes you might feel like its not safe to be you. You'll be ridiculed, people will judge you or not accept you for who you are.
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The truth is you're creating those reactions. Whatever people are telling you that triggers or annoys you has a potential of something to be cleared and released within you. If it wasn't related to your pain, you wouldn't be triggered at all. You'll just be neutral, and thats how you know you cleared something. When something that used to annoy you doesn't annoy you anymore. Be honest with yourself though 😃
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Those decisions you made in the past as a coping mechanism to exist in the world are just decisions and definitions. They're not the truth. They're like band aids.
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You decide that you can't express yourself in the world because its not safe. You decide you have to control every single thing otherwise you won't be able to protect yourself. You decide you can't trust anyone because people are not safe, they will hurt you. Then that starts showing up over and over again, same scenario but with different setting and characters.
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You end up trying so hard on keeping that going otherwise things will fall apart. And you start falling away from being who you truly are.
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You don't have to find who you are, you just need to peel off the layers of what you are not. Then you'll be who you are, fully.
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You can still find your purpose and go for it. But unless you release the weights, it'll be like trying to run with a rucksack..
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Next time, someone triggers you, ask yourself:
- What is this showing me?
- What's the lesson I need to learn?
- How am I showing up to create this?
- What is the one thing I'm absolutely avoiding from happening?
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You'll be surprised in what comes up and the very thing you most disguise in that person might exist within you 😉
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Do you have blocks around being you? Or do you find it easy to be yourself, if so what helped you to get there?
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Comment below or PM me if you don't wanna share publicly 🙌🏼
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Loads of love to you 💜✨
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