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🔻🔴 HOW I CAME TO LOVE MY MENSTRUAL CYCLE 🔴🔻

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Having your period can be a daunting or a beautiful experience. Here’s my journey from hating my period to loving and honouring it 🌺

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When I had my period for the first time, my mum took me out for dinner with my dad to celebrate. I’m grateful for that experience how it left me feeling this is something to be celebrated rather than be ashamed of. Thank you mum 😍❤️

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Later on, I found having my period daunting through my teenage years up until 2 years ago. I wasn’t aware of what was actually going on in my body not just during bleeding but other times during my cycle as well.

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I was pushing pushing pushing, busy getting stuff done. I saw having period as a roadblock. It was slowing me down and getting in the way of my productivity and focus. 

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Until I learnt, in one menstrual cycle, you actually go through all four seasons. 

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❄️ During bleeding, you’re in winter where you go inwards, slow down, release and rest. 

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🌺 After you bleed, you’re going into spring where your natural energy is coming back to you, feeling productive and on top of things. 

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☀️Then you go into summer where you’re in full bloom, at your peak, great with people, feeling loving, connected and balanced. 

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🍂 As you ovulate, you start to go into autumn where the desire to go inwards is getting stronger, noticing what needs to change in your life, your intuition showing you your truth.

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Then I understood, we women, are connected with the cycles of nature, we are nature herself. We have a whole year happening inside our bodies every month 🌎

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I stopped using tampons and started using divacup - a cup you use during bleeding to collect your blood. I was grossed out of the idea in the beginning, then I noticed I had less period cramps and I got to connect with my blood. I would put my blood on my face, give it to my plants or paint with it 🔴 

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You can read a post I wrote a year ago, connecting with my blood with my partner 👇🏼

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https://www.facebook.com/595885299/posts/10160027539565300?sfns=mo

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2 summers ago, my whole forehead flared up with spots. I went to dermatologist and gynecologist to find out what that was about. The gynecologist immediately told me to start taking the birth control pill. I’ve only taken it for 3 months in my life. I asked my body, looked at him and said, “No.” He was surprised. Two weeks later, my forehead cleared up naturally being around Mediterranean sun, sea and salt.

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I had a non hormonal coil (IUD) in my womb for 3 years as a birth control method. It is a T shaped copper object that creates an environment in your womb impossible for sperms to survive. 6 months ago, when my long term relationship ended, I got clear during a period that I needed to take the coil out as I was bleeding a lot due to inflammation from this foreign object in my womb. 

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I’m ever grateful for that piece of copper for allowing me to go to places I never knew existed, knowing I’m safe to surrender in lovemaking. I thanked it and went to get it out by a woman at the clinic who was called the “coil whisperer” 😂

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During the last 6 months, I noticed my bleeding got lighter and lighter with every cycle up until now, with no pain.

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I started using Natural Cycles which is a natural birth control method where you measure your temperature every morning and it tracks where you are in your cycle, if you’re fertile or not, whether you should use protection or not while having sex. I started to get to know my body a lot better which left me feeling even more empowered.

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I still use divacups as a way of connecting with my blood and period pants in case it leaks.

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Connecting with your menstrual cycle is one of the gateways to your full power as a woman. It’s about holding the little girl in you and showing her she can trust her body, have a deeper sense of appreciation for her body, knowing her body has an innate wisdom and functions beautifully. All she need to do is trust, allow and listen.

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Then that little girl turns into an empowered woman who knows her body, who knows her truth and is not afraid to express it. She’s embodied and empowered.

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Your body tells you every day, “You can trust me.” If you’re coming off the birth control pill, know that you can trust her. Your body’s waiting for you to come back home, to come back to your power and celebrate your body’s magic.

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As you connect with your menstrual flow:

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👉🏼 You feel a lot deeper, the whole spectrum - the lighter and the darker emotions. 

👉🏼 You become very in tune with yourself, others and the world. 

👉🏼 Your creativity flows as your blood flows. 👉🏼 As you embrace and welcome the ride, you practice surrender not just in your menstruation but in your life as well.

👉🏼 You come back home to your body feeling gratitude for what your body naturally does without you thinking about it.

👉🏼 You won’t let anyone in your womb you don’t connect with deeply as you love and honour your body. Your womb is the most sacred part of your body and no one should enter without your permission. 

👉🏼 You come back to your wholeness knowing yourself so deeply 🌸

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If you want to read more about menstrual cycle:

- Woman Code by Alisa Vitti 👉🏼 masculine approach

- Red Moon by Miranda Gray 👉🏼 feminine approach

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Learn everything from specialists, experts and then question them all. Ask your body. See if it feels true for your body, you know the final answer ❤️

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REMINDER: This can be a taboo subject to talk about. I’m sharing this because most woman, at some point in their lives get frustrated about their menstrual cycle, hormones or period not knowing what to do. There is a way out into a beautiful journey.

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Feel free to share if you feel this might empower someone you know 🔴

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I love hearing about women’s journeys with their period, blood, birth control methods etc. Would love to hear in the comments below or you can message me 😘

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Love you ❤️

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We did a workshop! Your Empowered Cycle 😍🔥

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Amanda and I did a half day workshop today for the first time, journeying into four seasons we go through in our menstruation cycle.

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I presented the spring (maiden) - summer (mother) phase as Amanda did autumn (wild woman) and winter (crone) which works so well with our natural energy 😍 Then we led a dance together through the seasons.
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You never know how the dances are going to turn out. Complete unknown. Somehow they always do their magic and I feel so alive doing them. I feel tingles, complete presence, joy, bliss, gratitude, everything. I feel everyone in the room and I feel grateful to be able to feel.
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That’s what we were saying, when you feel something fully, it leaves naturally. It finished it’s course and now it’s a new phase. Nothing stays the same no matter how hard you hold onto it, it transforms and flows when you allow and surrender.
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When you embrace all parts of you, sit with all parts of you, nothing can hold you back really. You claim your space in the world by being yourself 🔥
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I always get nervous when it’s a new workshop format and always, I mean always, it turns out great. And I still get nervous 😂 Then I remember when women come together things naturally flow and connect anyway 🌷
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I feel grateful to have women showing up, ready to go in to shift things. And I feel so grateful to do this with Amanda. We work so well together ❤️
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My intention was to make this post a short one which no longer is but will end this one with those beautiful words from the feedback today:
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“Powerful circle for women to feel open, acknowledged, empowered. It allows you to connect deeply to yourself, to find yourself and reconnect with the rhythms of being a woman.”
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And looking at the feedback forms, I am calm, grounding, focused, loving and gentle. Amanda is wild, funny, passionate, present and a free spirit 😃
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Thank you everyone who joined us today ❤️ We’ll do another one after summer ☀️
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Coming up next is The Integrated Feminine retreat next weekend with Clara, bringing aspects of femininity together through different embodiment practices. 4 spaces are left lovelies if you’re interested, here’s the link for more info ✨
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https://www.brownpapertickets.com/event/3434972
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Loads of love to you 💛
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🔴 "ARE YOU ON YOUR PERIOD?" 🔴

There's a thing where women feel all over the place just before they have their period. I'm sure women, you felt this or men, you dreaded being around your woman feeling 'oh god here it goes again' 😉

Everything seem to work great when period is not around, you feel energised, sexy, radiant and getting so much done. Then slowly PMS vibes start to kick in. You don't have as much energy, not motivated, not feeling overly social and just a bit off, sometimes annoyed at yourself for not keeping your momentum, also triggers are everywhere.. Who can relate to this? 🙌🏼
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First of all, women are not built like men, you don't function linearly super pumped every day. You function in cycles, you have your ups and downs. And when you really honour the downs, ups become even more powerful and stronger.
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PMS is actually a magical time where, women, have a natural built in system telling you things you need to work on. Brings up stuff for you so there is an opportunity to learn and grow more. But sometimes you tend to not listen to your body, numb it with painkillers or feel sorry for yourself for few days..
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I was at that place for many years thinking its normal to have pain during period. It's actually not, those pains are things coming up for you so you start clearing them. When I started listening to those messages and did healing on things that were coming up, pain went away as soon as I realised the lesson of it.
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And now even when I'm thinking of doing something that I shouldn't, my womb literally kicks in a pain saying no to that ✌🏼
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So here are few steps you can do to clear:
- Feel into the pain, allow yourself to feel the pain first, its there for a reason.
- Ask the pain what emotions, feelings and even people its bringing up.
- Imagine taking out that emotion, person and talking to them, tell everything you want. Acknowledging the feeling is most of the healing.
- Ask what do I need to learn about this experience and allow the answer to come up.
(You can talk in your mind or journaling is even more powerful)
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So what are the things that come up for you during or before your period? You can PM me if you don't wanna share publicly ✨
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Loads of love!