5rhythms

Happy Sunday! 🌈

Watch the video here

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I was worried of filming this in public about who might see and “judge” me. Then I remembered when you’re worried about how other people see you, they’re just busy worrying about how you see them 😂

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Thoughts are always going to be there. It’s about whether you give your power away to them or choose following through on what you’d love to do ❤️
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Put a song on and move your body today in any way it wants to move for 5 minutes. It doesn’t have to look good and there’s no right or wrong way 😉
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The most valuable physical thing we have is our bodies. Your body will appreciate every single minute you spend moving it. When you treat it well, it will give you 10 fold more 😉
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Have a gorgeous day! ✨
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Love you ❤️
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✨ I ALLOW ✨

Last week was one of those weeks that felt like a whole month happened in a week 😃

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✨ Celebrating You, 7 week online course I facilitate, started! We had our first call with incredible women I feel honoured to know.
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✨ My mum came to visit and joined the breathwork journey we held! She stayed for few days and we created a deeper sense of love and appreciation for each other 🙏🏼
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✨ 2 women reached out to me wanting to work with me.
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✨ Yesterday I held a Goddess Circle, workshop for women, an evening of letting go and reconnecting with yourself. I filmed this afterwards 💃🏽
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All this happened while I was ON MY PERIOD 🔴
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My life tends to thrive and opportunities seem to come to me while I’m on my period 😃 as I’m more receptive and allowing more. I basically don’t have as much energy to drive forward or even resist. It showed me I don’t have to be on my period to allow. I can receive and allow other times, reminding myself by saying, “I allow.”
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When everything is flowing, I notice my Ego sneaking in with doubt trying to gain control, telling me:
- This is too good to be true
- Remember last time you were in flow, it all went downhill from there
- You can’t manage all this
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Then I close my eyes and come back to my heart where I know I can have it all, so can you ❤️
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Love you 💛
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🔺 STARTING 2019 🔺

(Link to video - https://www.facebook.com/isik.tlabar/videos/10161294316510300/)

Following my last post where I shared 20 questions to help you complete the year, here are 20 questions to help you what you want your 2019 to be about 😍

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1. What would happen in an ideal world in 2019 for you? Dare to dream.
2. A word to define 2019 for you. This will be your resource when you need a reminder.
3. 3 things you want to achieve the most?
4. 3 things you won’t compromise on?
5. 3 people who will be your anchors for rough times?
6. 3 things you will have courage to say yes to?
7. 3 things you will have the power to say no to?
8. 3 things you will do every morning?
9. 3 things you will pamper yourself with regularly?
10. 3 places you will visit?
11. 3 ways to connect with your loved ones?
12. 3 presents you will reward yourself with for your successes?
13. This year, I will not procrastinate any more over...
14. This year, I will draw the most energy from...
15. This year, I give myself permission to...
16. This year, I advise myself to...
17. This year, I want to let my inner child to know that...
18. This year, when shit hits the fan, I will remind myself to...
19. This year will be amazing for me because...
20. What do you secretly wish for 2019 to happen?
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You can have a massive board where you draw your visions for 2019, you can dance your intentions in or you can answer the questions above. Do what works for you.
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Feel free to share your answers with me on here or in message. I always get excited about people’s visions 🤩
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If you want to complete on 2018, forgive anything you need to forgive, let go of anything you need to let go of and want to get clear of what you want in 2019, I’m offering a one-off 1-1 session with me during January.
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It is on offer for - £120 - 2-2,5 hours session.
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It will be a powerful ending and a clear beginning. If you’re interested, message me ❤️
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More dance videos coming your way in 2019 😉
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Have a wonderful evening tonight, wherever you are, if you’re on your own or with people you love ✨
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Happy New Year 💛
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🎼 Monolink - Father Ocean

I offered an altar for the Sweaty Thursdays 5rhythms class yesterday 😍 

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There were two boards where people wrote what they’re letting go of, what they’re inviting in and origami birds to take back home. Here’s what they wrote 💛

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What are you letting go of? What are you inviting in? Feel free to share below ✨
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Thank you everyone who got involved!
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Loads of love to you
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💫 SURRENDER TO YOUR EMOTIONS 💫

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I’m learning the balance of allowing myself to feel sadness, grief and loss while creating and doing my work. I have no control over this at the moment. The more I surrender to my emotions, the more they transform and I’m able to create from that space. 

Life comes with it’s highs and lows. People mostly share about the highs which I find is easy to share. I don’t see many people sharing about lows openly and honestly until I meet up with them and they tell me that’s exactly how they felt 😃 Maybe it’s because of not wanting to go there again or maybe the desire to be vulnerable to a controlled extent where they still get to keep their appearances. 

The lows are where you become who you are. They’re the your stones that turn into diamonds. They’re the richness of life, raw, real and vulnerable.

The most loving and compassionate people I met are the ones who went through hell, who faced their darkness, their lows and went out from the other side, transformed. You don’t become a beautiful person by only experiencing happiness, joy, bliss etc. You can’t have depth with only experiencing these emotions. If you only allow yourself to feel those ones, you’re living your life in denial, removed from life itself. You’re not living fully.

What doesn’t kill you doesn’t always make you stronger. It can make you a closed hearted, resentful, fearful and angry person towards life as well. But when you accept what’s happening and surrender, you grow from it. The more you resist it, the more it’s going to carry on.

Especially if you menstruate and bleed regularly, before and during period is a time where all your stuff comes up. If you look closely, that period pain is telling you something. That feeling of loneliness, sadness etc is there to be felt fully. Allow it before you jump to wanting to fix it. Painkillers are not the answer.

Over the years, especially when I was small, I learnt to be joyful and interested to make friends. And I got good at it. I can make friends with anyone. I love that side of me which is being a social butterfly. It makes me feel alive and connected. 

I also have a super depressed side to me that just doesn’t want anything to do with life. It wants to hide in a room, curl up into a ball and not exist for a while. In that egoic pattern, I can’t even cry. I don’t feel, I’m completely numb and apathetic.

Now I’m learning to accept that side, talk to it, write about it, love it and transform it. Every emotion moves through you when you allow it ❤️

Acceptance is the key. If you’re not accepting as life shows you things, you can’t move forward. You’re stuck. Accept that your loved one passed away, accept that you’ve been cheated on, accept that your friend stabbed you in the back. For your own freedom, see the situation for what it is without putting a meaning to it.

I saw a beautiful friend of mine last week. After catching up, she told me I felt more loving, grounded and accepting. See in my head, everything is turning upside down and I’m loosing my shit. If you feel like that, have an honest reflection from a close friend and don’t beat yourself up. You might be doing so much better than you think you are 😉

Here’s how you can process emotions like sadness, loss, grief:

- Accept that you feel sad. Even this can be revolutionary if you usually deny your sadness. It doesn’t mean anything, it just mean that you feel sad. You’re a human with emotions.

- Close your eyes. Take 5 deep breaths into your belly while allowing the feeling to be there. 

- If you feel teary, let those tears come. If you feel rage, let the rage be there.

- Out loud, say how you feel, to the person you’re angry at, or to yourself while feeling sad. Say anything else that wants to come out.

- Hold and hug yourself.

- (If you find it challenging to get into the feeling, start writing how you feel and let the feeling talk without censoring.)

And remember, after a low, there’s always a high. Crying is not weak, it’s powerful. It’s a gift for yourself from yourself in form of a beautiful release. After big good cries I always feel lifted, calm, grounded and happy. I feel joy starting to come in again in mini waves. 

If you have a job and have things to do, allow yourself that 30 min to feel, to not do anything but to be with your pain like you would do for a friend. Whenever I go inwards, cry, write, someone books their place in my workshop or wants to have a session with me. Always. It happened today as I wrote this post.

Any unprocessed emotions will stay in your body until you feel it fully. It’s the fear of feeling we’re scared of. Once you’re in it, it’s not actually that bad. But the disconnection you have from feeling reveals itself as chronic pain, a disease, numbness. It can even effect your face. For example the left side of your face can change becoming heavier.

I went to 5rhythms movement class the other day. One of the dancers just got qualified in teaching, so the teacher invited her into the huge circle of maybe 70 people. She went in with pure joy, ecstasy, celebrating herself and her success. Then she invited everyone else to join in. Few people joined in. Everyone else was clapping in the outside circle. I watched them, I watched the people in the middle dancing, smiling and laughing. That’s when it hit me:

✨ In life, you have to participate ✨

Whatever it is, wherever you are, however you’re feeling, bring that into your life. Don’t exclude your sadness, your insecurities, include them. Show them to people, love them. 

If you want to feel your emotions fully and transform any heaviness, shame, frustration, sadness, come to breathwork next Thursday, the 15th. Bring all of you to the table. Even the parts you don’t accept or love about you as they will hunt you back until you learn to love them ❤️

Make sure to book your ticket if you want to join, we’re half full now. Here’s the link to book:

https://www.brownpapertickets.com/event/3745467

Happy new moon, a new beginning 🌕 

Sending you so much love and big hugs 💛

💃🏽 CONFIDENCE: BEING YOURSELF💃🏽

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Video: https://www.facebook.com/isik.tlabar/posts/10160864658090300?__tn__=K-R

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Confidence is owning all that you are and showing up in the world saying “This is who I am.” ❤️

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One of the most common things I come across people say in sessions and workshops is in some form or another, “I want to be myself. Sometimes, I don’t know who I am.”

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Confidence starts with being yourself. I don’t believe you can fake until you make it. People can tell that you’re faking it, they’re not stupid. And you definitely know that you’re faking it 😃 so what’s the point of that when you can start from where you’re at? Sometimes being yourself is being in silence. You don’t have to express your opinion about everything all the time. Or you don’t have to be loud to be or feel confident. No confident person ever tried to prove they’re confident anyway.

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When you see someone being themselves, it gives you the permission to do the same in your own way. You might have heard this quote by Marianne Williamson, 

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“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

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It’s probably my favourite quote to date ❤️

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As children we felt free, we lived in the moment. We didn’t worry about how we looked or what people thought about us. We were so busy being ourselves, having fun and enjoying the world. What if we kept that outlook on life? What if we didn’t doubted or questioned ourselves?

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I saw ‘I Feel Pretty’ last week. I loved it so much that I watched it again. It’s about how we pressure ourselves to look a certain way, especially women, how we criticise ourselves constantly beating ourselves up. When we look at someone we can see what makes them, them, in their unique way but when it comes down to ourselves, we’re our worst critics.

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✨ Who would you be if no one you knew existed?✨

Who you are is you, better than all the comparisons and shoulds because no one is you. No one has your face, your ideas, your energy, your creativity. Even if its a similar idea that is done before, it’s not you who’s doing it, your energy matters. 

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✨ What would you do if rejection didn’t exist? ✨

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Rejection is another thing. When it happens, we make it personal about us. Even if we knew deep down, that person wasn’t right for us, now on top of that you feel rejected, unwanted and unloved. The truth is it doesn’t mean anything about you, and it’s time to find someone who will cherish you for who you are.

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Another thing is you don’t have to believe in yourself all the time. I definitely don’t. All you need is 1-2 cheerleaders by your side as a reminder of what you already know, deep down. They can be your friend, lover, your coach, someone that will tell you, “I believe in you. You’re a shining star and you got this.” And some days its you, telling yourself.

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Here’s a process for you:

- Stand infront of a mirror and look into your eyes

- Keep breathing

- Think of something you like about yourself and say it to yourself out loud

- It can be small or big, physical or anything else. To take it to the next level, do this once a day every day for a week and see what you come up with 🤩 you might even hug yourself by the end of it 🌹

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If you want to feel what it feels like to be yourself, with no judgement or shame, come do breathwork with me on the 20th next week. If you know what that feels like, come join anyway. Let’s go deeper, find parts of you that you didn’t know was there. And all you’re doing is breathing ✨

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Make sure to book your ticket if you want to join, we’re half full now. Here’s the link to book:

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https://www.brownpapertickets.com/event/3600217

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You might get caught up in your imperfections and completely miss what makes you amazing until someone points it out.

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So tag a friend and comment below. What do you love about them? What makes them, them? Let’s celebrate each other 😍❤️

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Loads of love to you 😘

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🎧 by Monolink - The End

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🔥 COME BACK TO YOUR BODY 🔥

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Video - https://www.facebook.com/isik.tlabar/videos/10160764192855300/

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Last week, I was on a podcast. We talked about so many things but one thing that stood out was how to get out of your head to come back to your body 💃🏽

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You might feel like you live in your head a lot, feeling frustrated with your body when you get ill. Or you might feel like you can’t trust your body, it’s not safe to be in your body so you’re better off making sense of things logically. 

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You have this beautiful vehicle, your body which allows you to move, feel all range of emotions, has a voice and it’s own wisdom. It remembers, it knows what it’s doing without us managing it, it’s truly a miracle.

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There are sooo many ways to come back to your body. I want to share few I use 🔥

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5RHYTHMS

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I’m super grateful I found this map of life really. It has 5 stages: flowing (like water), staccato (rhythmic movement), chaos (you loose your shit), lyrical (melodical I guess) and stillness (moving with stillness). You move your body through these phases, there is no choreography. You move through your emotions letting them flow into one another.

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5rhythms I go to nearly every Thursday - 

http://www.dancingtao.net/journeys/index.php?p=class1

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I realised 2 days ago this is amazing as well, Wednesdays - https://www.meetup.com/HOME-5-rhythms-ecstatic-dance/

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CHANTING

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I never got chanting up until 1-2 months when I started to get into it. I would have mornings where I wake up and feel deep loneliness. Chanting connected me back to myself within 5 minutes. It’s a powerful way to connect to your voice, your body and feel the vibrations move through your bodies. 

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Here’s the song I sing, Gayatri Mantra. Look up the lyrics and have fun ✨

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https://open.spotify.com/track/3fiZFD0BhU9LBGpkhxn4qJ…

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SENSUALITY

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This is simply, connecting with your senses, especially touch. One simple exercise you can do is to connect with the pleasure in your hands. Grab a pillow. Close your eyes and start caressing the pillow with your hands. Do that for 10 minutes without thinking too much. Have no expectations and see what happens 🙌🏼

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There is so much on this that it’s endless, here are some videos where you can learn about touch and wheel of consent by Betty Martin ✨

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https://bettymartin.org/videos/

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BREATHWORK

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We all breathe but not really. There are so many ways to do this but I lay down, take deep continuous breaths into my body. Inhale, exhale, inhale, exhale without pausing in between. It’s an incredible way to let go of old emotions, old memories, old beliefs. You don’t even need to know what you’re releasing. Your body’s wisdom is working it’s magic ✨

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I’m holding a breathwork journey next Thursday in East London, come join! 😍 

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https://www.brownpapertickets.com/event/3449780

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There are so many more embodiment practices.. Yoga, contact improv, parkour, pole dancing, circus arts (silks, rope, trapeze etc), martial arts (ji jitsu, muay thai, kickboxing etc), working out etc. 

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Try out few things and see which one works for you 😍❤️ I know that I’m not a fan of sitting down meditation for example and never fully got into yoga, but I know that I love dancing as a way to meditate ✨

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Which ones do you resonate the most? How do you connect to your body?

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Would love to hear in the comment below 💜

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Have a gorgeous weekend lovelies 😘

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🎼 Olafur Arnalds - Only the Winds

I created an altar tonight for the 5rhythms class I regularly go to 😍 

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It had a note saying ‘please touch the crystals’. I always find it annoying when you go somewhere and you’re not meant to touch anything 😃 TOUCH ALL THE CRYSTALS!

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I’m grateful for this space where I can come and be with whatever emotion is present in me that day. I’m grateful that I can feel it and move through it allowing it to become something else. It was beautiful to offer an altar back for this space and to the beautiful people dancing there 🌺
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Come join, it’s every Thursday! Sweaty Thursdays in St Peter’s Church at 7:30pm ✨
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https://www.5rhythms.com/classes/SWEATYTHURSDAYS-9688
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Loads of love to you 💛

🌀 DANCE YOUR WAY OUT OF SHAME 🌀

I’ve been quiet for nearly two weeks now. A lot has been going on, I was in a place where I didn’t know where to start sharing from, so I didn’t share at all 😂 I’m going to break it down for you all, about what has been coming up for me lately. Here’s the first one 💛

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I was always ashamed of the way I moved and danced. As soon as I moved a bit sensual, shame would creep in. I would judge myself, worried how others are judging me too. When I first went to ecstatic dancing 3 years ago, I judged everyone there, I thought, ‘Omg where have I come to? These crazy people.’ without knowing that’d be the place I release tons of bagage each time, the place I meet one of my closest friend today and the place I hear my body’s wisdom for the first time.
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After few times of going dancing, judgement towards myself and others went away. I started to get out of my head, come back into my body and allow it to do it’s own thing. I cried, cried and cried so many times. Now I go to 5rhythms every week which is movement meditation practice at the same venue, a beautiful magical church in Vauxhall. I dance most days in the mornings, in-between sessions, cooking or at night.
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The other night, I was writing but the words were coming out from my head, there was no emotion in them. I decided to put on some psytrance, shake my body a bit, breathe, open my jaw, move a little, connect and film myself.
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When I filmed this, I had no intention to post it anywhere. It was for me to see myself in my frustration and have compassion for myself. I watched the whole thing cringing, not wanting to watch it. I thought, I look weird. I felt embarrasment and shame, I allowed myself to feel it. Then I asked myself, ‘Who says dancing needs to look a specific way?’ It’s your dance and you decide how you want to move and you don’t have to explain why. And it’s ok to have these thoughts and feelings even when you’ve been dancing for a while now.
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The same night after moving, I sat down and wrote 1,200 words in one go.
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You can dance your dreams into your life and dance trauma out of your life. Your body has its own wisdom and if only you can listen to it and trust it just a little bit more, it has so much to say ❤️
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To see yourself deeper and to be seen, follow these steps:
- Film yourself dancing, moving (if dancing is not your thing, it could be talking to the camera). Let your body move in any way it wants to move, there are no mistakes in moving
- Watch it yourself or even better, show it to a close friend of yours and watch it together
- See the beauty in you as you watch it. If you’re watching with a friend, you don’t need to hear their feedback, just allow yourself to be seen by them.
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May you dance your dreams into your life 🙏🏼💙
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Go to https://www.facebook.com/isik.tlabar/videos/10160161439905300/ to watch the video.

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Feel free to share this, loads of love to you 💛
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