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💚 COMMITMENT TO LOVE 💚

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This post is dedicated to me and Aaron Le Conte’s friendship ✨

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Over the last 1.5 years, we committed to turn our intimate relationship into deep friendship. When I reflect and look at my life our friendship is something I deeply cherish and honour. So I’d love to tell you more about it as I think it’s pretty rare the journey we went on.

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In summary, Aaron and I met three years ago. We went super deep and fast into our relationship. Our first date turned into 3 days where we told each other “I love you”. Fast forward one year, every moment we were triggered by each other, we held space for each other to do a healing around it. This was very intense and to be honest not sustainable in the long run 😃

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As we decided to end our intimacy, we wanted to be friends forever for real. So we decided to hold each other through our seperation, to open our hearts even more rather than shutting down.

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This wasn’t a walk in the park. I can honestly say this breakup was the hardest thing I had to go through as it brought up so many wounds to the surface while my dad passed away as well. During this time parts of me literally died.

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I want to celebrate the qualities of this man that have deeply transformed my life:

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✨ His unconditional love. He loves me as I am and to this day carries on to do so. He showed me what unconditional love can feel and look like in a relationship and how it doesn’t have to go away after breakups. He showed me how when you love someone as they are unconditionally, they blossom and become more of who they truly are.

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✨ His support. From day 1, he encouraged me to step into my power, start and build my business. When I wanted to stop, he helped me to carry on. He still helps me with my business. He edits my meditations, gives me business strategy sessions, assists me with the breathwork journeys when he’s around. He still did, even when we were going through a tough time together. He was able to put our process aside and serve.

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✨ His commitment to his growth. He doesn’t share as much on social media but I know that he sits down every day, goes within into his darkness with his processes, feels uncomfortable emotions and always finds a way to get to the other side of it. It’s very inspiring to witness.

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✨ His love for his loved ones. He would do anything for his family and friends, he feels geniune joy out of helping them unconditionally with pure love and no agenda.

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✨ His silliness. Behind all the peace, love and the hugs he gives out, there’s a silly boy with a dark humour.

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He taught me how to connect with my heart and my body. He taught me how to let go of the idea of what something should look like and be open to what it might become. And he taught me the beauty of spending hours together as quality time.

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He showed me how love can be supporting your ex partner to be ready to attract their future partner.

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Here are few things we did that enabled us to transition and to be great friends today:

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❤️ Being vulnerable and open with each other ❤️

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If there’s even a slight little thing that feels off or triggering, we share it IN THE MOMENT in how we make each other feel. Of course we had moments where we manipulated each other but we called each other out and came back to honesty.

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❤️ Telling each other what we need ❤️

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At some point during our breakup, we asked each other exactly what we needed to hear looking into each other’s eyes. It went something like this: “Us breaking up doesn’t mean neither of us is not good enough or worthy of love, it means we’re not right for each other.”

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❤️ Having time apart with periods of no communication ❤️

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Some time apart helped in letting go of the relationship and remembering who we are without the relationship. We had few weeks where we didn’t speak, but always reconnected and checked in how we were both doing.

❤️ Trusting the truth of we’re not right for each other ❤️

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This was a hard one to accept because there is so much love between us. It also showed us how if we’re letting go of this which was true, something even more aligned is coming. We also connected with our future partners’ energy and described it for each other which helped with letting each other go. If you’re not focusing on the future, you can’t let the past go.

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❤️ Not leaving a conversation without resolving ❤️

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We would argue, talk, eventually be vulnerable and open until we come to a resolution. At times, this was happened to be inconvenient places like 2am at night or tube stations. We left things unresolved few times and it got worse, there was more to resolve afterwards. Better sooner then later. Best way I feel to end a conflict is to catch yourself when you’re in your Ego, admit out loud you’re in your Ego. Then you hold each other and come back to love together.

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❤️ Choosing friendship first ❤️

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We wanted to be friends first. When we decided to break up, we got matching triangle tattoos on our ankles to commit to our friendship. We promised to treat each other how friends would treat each other during this seperation, with respect, love and decency.

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This is what worked for us. I know its not for everyone. Some relationships are those where you just need to leave and not look back. And some have a potential to turn into beautiful friendships. If this is something you want to create and both sides want it, it is possible with honesty, vulnerability and direct communication.

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I believe true love between two people never goes away. It doesn’t have to just because there was a breakup. It can transform into a form of love that is even deeper. Aaron is like a brother and a super close friend to me now. I cried many times while I wrote this post feeling the love, appreciation and gratitude I have for him.

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This photo was taken back in April after a breathwork journey eating at Pizza Express which is a ritual we do to celebrate. Aaron was away for 3 months and I’m super excited that he’s in London for a week now 😍

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There is no set in stone way of going about in relationships. You decide how you want to start, create and end a relationship. Be honest with yourself. What is your truth? Have an open, honest conversation about it and follow that.

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I’d love to hear your thoughts or questions below ✨

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I love you 💛

😍 BEAUTIFUL WOMEN 😍

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I’m excited to announce Clara and I are offering a women’s retreat on 6-8 July in Kent - The Integrated Feminine! ❤️

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For few months, I wanted to create a weekend away from your usual surroundings going into nature with women 🌹 Clara reached out to me asking if I want do a retreat with her so here it is 😍
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This will be a 2.5 days immersion in nature into your wild power and playful innocence coming out from the other side feeling whole, complete and alive 🔥
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In pilgrimages, you sleep in different places, you walk different ways every day. New awareness, wisdom, inspiration start coming to you because you’re opening yourself up. You’re not doing what you normally do in every day life. It’s the opposite of taking the same tube to same work every day. It creates new pathways in your system allowing you to experience life in a whole new way.
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This weekend is an experience of exactly that. Experimenting and opening yourself up to being alive on a whole new level in a held, empowered, loving space. No judgment, no shame. You can be anything here 💛
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First 7 women who register will receive a reduced price of £177. We have 4 of those places left at the moment.
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You can pay the initial deposit of £100 to secure your place and pay the rest in a month if you wish to.
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Here’s the link to book your place:
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https://www.brownpapertickets.com/event/3434972
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Any questions you have, please message me ✨
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Looking forward to seeing you there if you’re feeling to be there 😍❤️
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Loads of love 🌹
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💛 BOUNDARIES: SAYING NO 💛

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What are boundaries? 

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They are choices you make about what you feel ok and not ok with.
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These can feel like non existent for you. You might feel like you never explored boundaries. In some cultures, it can even be considered disrespectful to have boundaries, to say no, but they're actually super healthy agreements you have with people to respect and love one another.
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You might have had an experience where you said yes when really you wanted to say no. Maybe you felt guilty about saying no, maybe you felt that's what you should say to get love.
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Each time you say yes but you actually want to say no, you're abandoning your body. You start loosing trust in yourself and in your own intuition.
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You don't have to take on people's fear and worries when they are accusing you, so that the conflict will be over. You can say no.
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You don't have to have sex when you don't feel like it, so that the argument will be over and you can go to bed. You can say no.
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You don't have to drink at the bar when you don't want, so that everyone else who is drinking won't judge you. You can say no.
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The problem is the guilt that comes up, when you say no. Stay with the guilt, feel it. Then ask what you need and prioritise your needs before others. This can feel selfish but actually it benefits everyone in the long run.
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Saying no is a loving thing to do for the other person too. Then they can trust you that you will speak your truth instead of resenting them. You can always choose not to have what you don't want. You don't have to justify yourself either. And at any point, you can also change your mind.
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Follow these steps to find out what a real yes and a real no feels in your body:
- Close your eyes, take in a deep breath in.
- Repeat in your mind, 'My name is ...(someone else's name).'
- Repeat in your mind, 'No'
- Notice how the no feels in your body. Where do you feel it in your body?
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This is your real, authentic no. Start noticing how you feel when you say no in your daily life. If its a maybe, take that as a no for now and then explore it again 😉
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When do you struggle to say no? When do you absolutely know when something is a no for you?
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Share below if you're drawn to or private message me if you don't want to share publicly, would love to hear. You can also say no and choose not to 😃
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Loads of love to you 💛
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