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✨ MAGIC OF THE DAY ✨

I went to get my nails done today after a coaching session I gave.

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As I was sitting in the nail salon, two women were chatting next to me. I didn’t pay much attention to what they were saying until I heard, “They went to therapy together.” 😃 So I started to listen.
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The couple they were talking about went to therapy to work on their relationship. The therapist asked them if they had a dog. They had two dogs. So the therapist told them, “When you go home, before going to the dogs first, go to each other and treat each other how you would treat your dogs.”
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Turns out, they were giving all the tenderness and love to the dogs and not to one another. After treating each other with the love they give to the dogs, they didn’t have to go to therapy again.
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This story made me smile and reminded me how when you put love and care into a relationship, a project, anything, it will give you tend times folds. Whatever you nurture, it will grow. Whatever you avoid or abandon, it will die.
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Where are you putting your love and care into? And where are you not?
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I love you 💛
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Love love love this woman!! 💖

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Thank you for a beautiful afternoon full of open hearted conversation (as always), dancing, shaking our bodies, making sounds, playing like kids and deep connection 🙌🏼💛

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I feel so grateful to have you Daisie in my life as a friend and a sister.. You're a gift to the world and an inspiration to me. I'm soo looking forward for our journey together 🌺
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Now on my way to the airport to see my love, so excited! 😍
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Have a gorgeous evening lovelies 🙏🏼💙
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💚 5 LOVE LANGUAGES 💚

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This keeps coming up for me, people are asking me about their relationships. As they do I'm mentioning 5 love languages more and more. So here is how you can use this simple tool to create more intimacy and love in all your relationships.

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5 love languages are 5 ways we feel loved: physical touch, words of affirmation, quality time, gifts and acts of service.
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You and your partner's love language might not be the same and doesn't have to be the same. As long as you're aware of both your love languages, you're good.
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So what are they exactly?
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Physical touch is kissing, hugging, a loving stroke on arm, cheek, back rubbing, massage, sexual intimacy, love making etc 🙌🏼
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Words of affirmation is expressing your love through words. Giving compliments, writing poems, appreciating through written or spoken expression ❤️
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Quality time is spending time together being fully present with no phone, going on adventures together, sharing experiences together 💑
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Gifts are giving gifts, pretty obvious 🎁😃
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Acts of service is doing things for your partner like cooking for them, cleaning their room for them, hanging some pictures on the wall, taking the bin out etc. Showing your love through your acts 🍛
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Love languages are formed by how you were treated when you were younger. Maybe you were hugged loads by your parents so you want the same from your partner. Or you weren't hugged at all and you want hugs from your partner.
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They might change over time as well depending on your life circumstances, for example when you go through hard times, service might become more important for you as someone doing something for you will lift the weight off your shoulders..
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How can you use this?
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First find out yours through here:
http://www.5lovelanguages.com/
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Mine is in this order: physical touch, words of affirmation, quality time, gifts and acts of service 😍
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Then you can make a game out of it and ask your loved one:
- Do you feel more loved when you receive a hug or a gift?
- Do you feel more loved when someone cooks for you or gives you a compliment?
- Do you feel more loved when someone rubs your back or spend the whole afternoon with you?
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You get the point 😉 Or just follow the questions on the website with your partner, friend, children, family etc.
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Great conversation to have on dates too 😉
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When you do this you can truly make your loved one feel loved and vice versa, massive life saver..
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What makes you feel loved? Comment below top three ways you feel loved 👇🏼💞
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Much love to you 💚
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