inner child

🌹 DON’T SAVE PEOPLE, LOVE THEM 🌹

Saving someone strips them out of their power. The intention behind it could be geniune but the person might not be wanting to be saved. Maybe they just wanted to be heard and loved.

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Loving someone instead of saving them could be being there for them, listening to them. It’s not about trying to make things better for them, it’s accepting and meeting them where they’re at and simply asking, “What can I do to support you?” Then trusting they will tell you what they need. If they don’t know what they need, you can support them in finding that but you can’t find that for them.
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When people face a challenge they also have the ability to create resources. Even if you know from afar that they’re messing up, let them mess up. They need to go through that to learn the valuable lesson 🙏🏼
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This is not only overcrossing people’s boundaries but also assuming you know what’s best for them better than them. You might also have a part of you that feels worthy and significant when you save someone. In that case, you’re taking from that person rather than giving.
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If you tend to save others ✨ You can let them know you’re there for them, you love them trusting they will ask for help if they need ❤️
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If you tend to expect to be saved ✨ Know that you’re a powerful being. You can go through the challenge you’re facing. You can speak your truth, set boundary, whatever you need to do. And you can ask for help ❤️
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Loads of love to you 😍
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👩🏽 HEALING THE PARENT WOUND 👨🏽

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This is can hold the key to your freedom, being yourself authentically. Family is not an area people want to work on until they realise it effects all areas of their life from relationships to business.

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Most of our fears and insecurities come from our perception of our interaction with our parents. Everyone had something in their childhood. Even the person who had the most beautiful childhood has pain somewhere whether they share it or not.
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Maybe your parents never saw you and understood you. Maybe they physically abused you leaving you feeling worthless. Or maybe they put too much pressure on you that you felt you had to be perfect to receive their love.
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Your mum and dad will never be who you want them to be. There will always be something you wish they did or didn’t do. The truth is you can’t change the past but you can see the lessons and forgive them.
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So how do you forgive?
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You see that forgiveness is for your freedom, not for them. When you forgive, you’re not making them right. You’re choosing to let go of the weight, resentment and move on. You’re choosing your future over your past.
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There is such a truthful quote I found the other day by Anne Lamott, “Expectations are resentments under constructions.”
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When you expect your mum or dad to do something, you lost sight of who they truly are. You might say, “Yeah but they’re meant to be my parents!”. They are, but they’re humans on their journey as well and no one is perfect.
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Letting go of the story requires you stepping into your authority and leadership which can feel scary. Because who would you be without your story? It’s what the little girl/boy in you have known all those years.
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This is a process of growing up and parenting yourself, coming closer to yourself every step along the way.
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Your parents are your mirrors. They show you parts you don’t love and accept about yourself. The more you love them, the more you love yourself ✨
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If you’d like support in forgiving, loving your parents, and healing childhood traumas, I offer coaching sessions around this. I deeply care about you all and I want you to move forward with ease, freedom and love this year 😍
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If you’re interested, message me ❤️
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I love you 🌹
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(Image is me with my mum and dad, love them so much 😍)
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