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💃🏽 CONFIDENCE: BEING YOURSELF💃🏽

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Confidence is owning all that you are and showing up in the world saying “This is who I am.” ❤️

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One of the most common things I come across people say in sessions and workshops is in some form or another, “I want to be myself. Sometimes, I don’t know who I am.”

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Confidence starts with being yourself. I don’t believe you can fake until you make it. People can tell that you’re faking it, they’re not stupid. And you definitely know that you’re faking it 😃 so what’s the point of that when you can start from where you’re at? Sometimes being yourself is being in silence. You don’t have to express your opinion about everything all the time. Or you don’t have to be loud to be or feel confident. No confident person ever tried to prove they’re confident anyway.

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When you see someone being themselves, it gives you the permission to do the same in your own way. You might have heard this quote by Marianne Williamson, 

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“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

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It’s probably my favourite quote to date ❤️

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As children we felt free, we lived in the moment. We didn’t worry about how we looked or what people thought about us. We were so busy being ourselves, having fun and enjoying the world. What if we kept that outlook on life? What if we didn’t doubted or questioned ourselves?

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I saw ‘I Feel Pretty’ last week. I loved it so much that I watched it again. It’s about how we pressure ourselves to look a certain way, especially women, how we criticise ourselves constantly beating ourselves up. When we look at someone we can see what makes them, them, in their unique way but when it comes down to ourselves, we’re our worst critics.

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✨ Who would you be if no one you knew existed?✨

Who you are is you, better than all the comparisons and shoulds because no one is you. No one has your face, your ideas, your energy, your creativity. Even if its a similar idea that is done before, it’s not you who’s doing it, your energy matters. 

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✨ What would you do if rejection didn’t exist? ✨

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Rejection is another thing. When it happens, we make it personal about us. Even if we knew deep down, that person wasn’t right for us, now on top of that you feel rejected, unwanted and unloved. The truth is it doesn’t mean anything about you, and it’s time to find someone who will cherish you for who you are.

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Another thing is you don’t have to believe in yourself all the time. I definitely don’t. All you need is 1-2 cheerleaders by your side as a reminder of what you already know, deep down. They can be your friend, lover, your coach, someone that will tell you, “I believe in you. You’re a shining star and you got this.” And some days its you, telling yourself.

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Here’s a process for you:

- Stand infront of a mirror and look into your eyes

- Keep breathing

- Think of something you like about yourself and say it to yourself out loud

- It can be small or big, physical or anything else. To take it to the next level, do this once a day every day for a week and see what you come up with 🤩 you might even hug yourself by the end of it 🌹

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If you want to feel what it feels like to be yourself, with no judgement or shame, come do breathwork with me on the 20th next week. If you know what that feels like, come join anyway. Let’s go deeper, find parts of you that you didn’t know was there. And all you’re doing is breathing ✨

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Make sure to book your ticket if you want to join, we’re half full now. Here’s the link to book:

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https://www.brownpapertickets.com/event/3600217

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You might get caught up in your imperfections and completely miss what makes you amazing until someone points it out.

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So tag a friend and comment below. What do you love about them? What makes them, them? Let’s celebrate each other 😍❤️

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Loads of love to you 😘

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🎧 by Monolink - The End

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🔥 COME BACK TO YOUR BODY 🔥

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Last week, I was on a podcast. We talked about so many things but one thing that stood out was how to get out of your head to come back to your body 💃🏽

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You might feel like you live in your head a lot, feeling frustrated with your body when you get ill. Or you might feel like you can’t trust your body, it’s not safe to be in your body so you’re better off making sense of things logically. 

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You have this beautiful vehicle, your body which allows you to move, feel all range of emotions, has a voice and it’s own wisdom. It remembers, it knows what it’s doing without us managing it, it’s truly a miracle.

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There are sooo many ways to come back to your body. I want to share few I use 🔥

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5RHYTHMS

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I’m super grateful I found this map of life really. It has 5 stages: flowing (like water), staccato (rhythmic movement), chaos (you loose your shit), lyrical (melodical I guess) and stillness (moving with stillness). You move your body through these phases, there is no choreography. You move through your emotions letting them flow into one another.

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5rhythms I go to nearly every Thursday - 

http://www.dancingtao.net/journeys/index.php?p=class1

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I realised 2 days ago this is amazing as well, Wednesdays - https://www.meetup.com/HOME-5-rhythms-ecstatic-dance/

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CHANTING

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I never got chanting up until 1-2 months when I started to get into it. I would have mornings where I wake up and feel deep loneliness. Chanting connected me back to myself within 5 minutes. It’s a powerful way to connect to your voice, your body and feel the vibrations move through your bodies. 

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Here’s the song I sing, Gayatri Mantra. Look up the lyrics and have fun ✨

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https://open.spotify.com/track/3fiZFD0BhU9LBGpkhxn4qJ…

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SENSUALITY

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This is simply, connecting with your senses, especially touch. One simple exercise you can do is to connect with the pleasure in your hands. Grab a pillow. Close your eyes and start caressing the pillow with your hands. Do that for 10 minutes without thinking too much. Have no expectations and see what happens 🙌🏼

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There is so much on this that it’s endless, here are some videos where you can learn about touch and wheel of consent by Betty Martin ✨

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https://bettymartin.org/videos/

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BREATHWORK

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We all breathe but not really. There are so many ways to do this but I lay down, take deep continuous breaths into my body. Inhale, exhale, inhale, exhale without pausing in between. It’s an incredible way to let go of old emotions, old memories, old beliefs. You don’t even need to know what you’re releasing. Your body’s wisdom is working it’s magic ✨

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I’m holding a breathwork journey next Thursday in East London, come join! 😍 

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https://www.brownpapertickets.com/event/3449780

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There are so many more embodiment practices.. Yoga, contact improv, parkour, pole dancing, circus arts (silks, rope, trapeze etc), martial arts (ji jitsu, muay thai, kickboxing etc), working out etc. 

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Try out few things and see which one works for you 😍❤️ I know that I’m not a fan of sitting down meditation for example and never fully got into yoga, but I know that I love dancing as a way to meditate ✨

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Which ones do you resonate the most? How do you connect to your body?

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Would love to hear in the comment below 💜

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Have a gorgeous weekend lovelies 😘

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🎼 Olafur Arnalds - Only the Winds