christmas

๐ŸŒฒ HEREโ€™S WHAT I DID ON CHRISTMAS ๐ŸŒฒ

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A year ago, I had this idea instead of doing a vision board, printing out beautiful words people said to me, words from my friends, family, you guys who comment on my posts, messages from you, client messages etc. I printed some out and kept them in a drawer for a year. 

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My love language is mainly words so I feel loved and appreciated mainly through words of affirmation, compliments etc. Then itโ€™s service and physical touch. Other love languages are quality time and gifts (do the test on 5lovelanguages.com to find out yours).

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So Iโ€™ve been doing this wall for the last week and I took my time with it. I went through all my posts this year, emails etc, printed them all out. It filled me with so much love. As I was cutting out the words which took me hours, I backed up my photos on my phone something Iโ€™ve been wanting to do since the beginning of the year ๐Ÿ™ˆ I watched interviews, documentaries, cleaned my flat. 

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I thought I could feel lonely being on my own on Christmas while most people are with their families, but I felt so full, whole and loved being on my own doing this. It was so beautiful ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿผ

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Doing this wall taught me something. If I aim to enjoy myself I get more done but if I aim to finish the task, it doesnโ€™t get finished plus I get super stressed.

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Focusing on enjoyment rather than focusing on efficiency. So by the end of it, not only you completed the task, but you enjoyed it rather than feeling as if you were tortured. Obviously donโ€™t loose touch with reality, you might have deadlines etc, but simply asking, โ€œHow can I bring more joy and fun into this?โ€ will do.

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If you want to complete things asap like I am, find out where that need is coming from. For example, I realised the other day I believed if I finish things quicker, then Iโ€™ll be good enough. So the speed was stemming from feeling not good enough. Since realising this, I became much more slower, as slow as a person with not good enough belief can be though ๐Ÿ˜‚ 

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It takes hard work, persistency and patience to create something beautiful. My older posts, surrender in lovemaking, your sacred blood, two breakup posts, my dadโ€™s funeral, they all took between 2 to 6 hours mainly spent crying and typing. When I look at this wall now, I see why I do what I do. I can see the impact of my hard work, persistency and patience. Then I want to serve more, give more sessions, workshops and write more posts. 

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When I see a couple using a process they read in a post and feeling more connected after or a woman starting to write again after reading my post, that means the world to me. 

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Itโ€™s easy to create when everything in your life is going great. When your dad passes away and you have a workshop to give in four days, thatโ€™s creating, thatโ€™s showing up no matter what.

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So this wall is my reminder to show up no matter what, because I have so many examples now that when I do, people transform โค๏ธ

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Find out what helps you to show up, look at it when things get tough and use it as your support system in 2019 when shit hits the fan because if youโ€™re aiming high, it will ๐Ÿ˜˜

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Thank you all for your support, love, sharing my words and work. It means so much to me. 

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I appreciate you all ๐Ÿ˜

Iโ€™m back in London! โœŒ๐Ÿผ๐Ÿ’›

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This is crossing the Bosphorus Sea on a boat, one of my favourite things to do when I go back to Istanbul ๐Ÿ’™

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I used to live on the European side and my high school was on the Asian side so I often took this boat to cross. It was beautiful to be there for few days, to see family and some of my friends I havenโ€™t seen in 2-3 years ๐Ÿ’›
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Now Iโ€™m back in London for a good to be with friends during Christmas and New Yearโ€™s Eve.
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May you have a wonderful rest of the afternoon ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿผ
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I came to Istanbul for a few days ๐Ÿ˜

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Mum and I went to this movie called Sampiyon, itโ€™s a true story of a horse racer who won so many races with this horse called Bold Pilot to the point where he was called a magician.

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Itโ€™s such a beautiful story. The horse racer falls in love with his trainerโ€™s daughter and races with the love he has for her. She later on has cancer and fights for her life from seeing them shining, winning so many races.
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I never knew this horse and this story. Before every race, the horse would get all agitated. The audience would become quiet so the horse can calm down and go into the starting box to begin ๐Ÿ˜Š
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This sentence from the movie went right into my heart โค๏ธ โ€œBeing a champion means is to keep running knowing that you might fail.โ€ No matter what happens, keep going, fight for people and things you love โœจ
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Love you ๐Ÿ˜
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๐ŸŽ‰ HOLIDAY TIME & FAMILY TRIGGERS ๐ŸŽ‰

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Merry Christmas and happy holidays! 

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Whether Christmas is a happy, joyful place for you, whether you really don't care about it or whether its not as easy for you as it is for some people, Merry Christmas and happy holidays! Honour however you're feeling. You don't have to be feeling happy this time just because everyone is. I see and feel you.
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I'm with Aaron's family today and tomorrow eating food and being together. Then we're going to Turkey on Thursday for the new year's eve. Everything you do for Christmas, gifts, tree, family time is done on the new year's eve there. So I'm having a double Christmas this year ๐Ÿ˜ƒ
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If you're choosing to spend this time with your family, you might have old wounds surfacing, or thing you thought you dealt with. If you have doubt that you haven't progressed, see your growth as a spiral, not a line. You feel like you arrived at the same place but on a deeper level and awareness you have today.
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Follow these steps to let go of a trigger you have being around someone in your family:
- Notice and name how you're feeling
- What is that feeling telling you to do or not do?
- Close your eyes, take in a deep breath in.
- Have the 4 year old you in front of you, ask them to show a scene that made you feel the same way.
- Let the scene unfold and now see it unfold in a way that it makes the 4 year old you safe.
- Now imagine yourself rising above the situation, seeing it from a higher perspective.
- Ask, 'What's the truth?' Or 'What would I love in this moment?'
- What's that telling you to do or not do?
- Follow through on that.
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I wish you a gorgeous Christmas and a wonderful time whereever you are. And happy birthday if you're born around this time of the year as well ๐Ÿ˜ƒ See it as everyone's celebrating your new age with you ๐Ÿ˜๐ŸŽ‰
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Loads of love to you! โค๏ธ
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