triggers

πŸŽ‰ HOLIDAY TIME & FAMILY TRIGGERS πŸŽ‰

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Merry Christmas and happy holidays! 

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Whether Christmas is a happy, joyful place for you, whether you really don't care about it or whether its not as easy for you as it is for some people, Merry Christmas and happy holidays! Honour however you're feeling. You don't have to be feeling happy this time just because everyone is. I see and feel you.
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I'm with Aaron's family today and tomorrow eating food and being together. Then we're going to Turkey on Thursday for the new year's eve. Everything you do for Christmas, gifts, tree, family time is done on the new year's eve there. So I'm having a double Christmas this year πŸ˜ƒ
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If you're choosing to spend this time with your family, you might have old wounds surfacing, or thing you thought you dealt with. If you have doubt that you haven't progressed, see your growth as a spiral, not a line. You feel like you arrived at the same place but on a deeper level and awareness you have today.
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Follow these steps to let go of a trigger you have being around someone in your family:
- Notice and name how you're feeling
- What is that feeling telling you to do or not do?
- Close your eyes, take in a deep breath in.
- Have the 4 year old you in front of you, ask them to show a scene that made you feel the same way.
- Let the scene unfold and now see it unfold in a way that it makes the 4 year old you safe.
- Now imagine yourself rising above the situation, seeing it from a higher perspective.
- Ask, 'What's the truth?' Or 'What would I love in this moment?'
- What's that telling you to do or not do?
- Follow through on that.
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I wish you a gorgeous Christmas and a wonderful time whereever you are. And happy birthday if you're born around this time of the year as well πŸ˜ƒ See it as everyone's celebrating your new age with you πŸ˜πŸŽ‰
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Loads of love to you! ❀️
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🌹 SOUL VS. EGO IN RELATIONSHIPS 🌹

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Relationships are coming up loads recently so here's another one ☺️

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More able you recognise each other's darkness, more love and connection there will be in your relationships. Not just the intimate ones, but relationships you have with everyone.

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Your Soul, your true self, wants to share love and to connect. This is who we are in the beginning of the relationship most of the time. We're loving, feeling connected. As you go deeper and become more intimate, it scares your Ego, your unconscious mind, it feels like it's going to be find out.. So your Ego, your beliefs, conditioning, programs kick in and they go 'You can't hide us anymore!'.

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At this point you have two options. You either break up or you stay together and go deeper. 

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First one is what happens anyway if you're not aware of what your immediate reactions are. It's what Ego wants and its the easy option. Other person will bring up your darkness and shadow. Most people don't want to go within the depths of their darkness. So when the other person mirrors, triggers, you leave. Or you push the other person so much that they leave lol. Same thing, seperation.

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Or you have the second option. This is what Soul wants and its not always easy but its so worth it.. If you are willing to grow together you stay, be vulnerable, be honest with yourself with other person. Rather than fighting, arguing all the time, you work through it together..

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Realising its your Ego coming up as it comes up is probably the most important thing you can do in a relationship.. Then you're not illusion anymore, you can see the truth.

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So here are few indicators of its Ego coming up πŸ˜ƒ

- It feels dense and heavy.

- You feel like you want to control, manipulate, create a drama etc.

- You hate that person to bits, intense rage, sadness, feeling alone..

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That's the first step, you recognise its Ego. Then how do you come back to love and connection you felt?

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Then you share with person how you feel. If you don't know how you feel, you imagine taking your awareness into your body and ask how you feel. You say exactly how you feel starting, 'When you do ... I feel like I'm being judged and I feel alone.' Whatever it is. 

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While you do this other person listens and doesn't say anything. This is important. 

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Then they tell how they feel. That's it, you just hear each other out while staying present. You're seeing other person in their pain and you're been seen, witnessed in your pain. Through being vulnerable and transparent, the pain goes away. All that is remaining is the pure love you have for each other..

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The Ego goes 'what am I getting?' And the Soul goes 'what are we creating together?' πŸ™πŸΌ

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It's simple but I'm not saying its always easy.. It can be hard work. As you do this more, you recognise each other's patterns and you work your way through it together.. It's a journey of growth you go onto together πŸ’ž

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What are your indicators showing you're in your Ego? 

What are the ways you found that allows you to make the difference of Ego and Soul (truth)? 

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Would love to hear them ☺️

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Loads of love 😍✨

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Artist: Android Jones