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🌹 SISTERHOOD 🌹

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Happy belated International Women’s Day! 

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On Friday, I was so happy to see on social media how women were not just celebrating womanhood but sisterhood as well, appreciating the beautiful women in their lives. 

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Women are powerful on their own, but even more powerful together. Men as well but I’m going to talk about women for a second here 😃 We got 8 months for Men’s Day lol.

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(spoiler alert 🚨👇🏼 - Sex Education)

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Few weeks ago, I watched Sex Education. It’s basically a series set in high school about sex and intimacy. One of the most genius ideas I’ve seen in a long time to make something taboo, mainstream. I fell in love with it. It’s so good, go watch it.

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In an episode, one of the popular girl’s vagina’s photo is being passed around at school and no one knows its her. The popular girl feels very ashamed and embarrased about how her vagina looks like. 

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Turns out it was her best friend who did it to make her understand how horrible she is to people. 

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Later on, on stage, the headteacher tells all the students sitting in their seats gives a warning about pornographic images being distributed. As he says that this best friend who betrayed the popular girl stands up and says, “It’s my vagina.” The headteacher is a bit shocked, tells her to sit down. 

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Another woman stands up and says, “No, it’s my vagina.” Then another one and another one. One by one, nearly all women stood up to say its their vagina. At some point, even a guy stands up and says it’s his vagina 😂

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After so many people standing up, the popular girl who was ashamed of her vagina in the first place stands up, holds her best friend’s hand and says, “It’s my vagina.”

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This is my favourite scene in the whole season. She owns her body and herself. It shows the power of solidarity, how it can heal shame and betrayal between women.

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Other women are not your enemy. You might have felt, women betrayed you, they broke your trust. So did mine. My best friend at high school went out with a guy I really loved right after we broke up. It broke my heart and I couldn’t believe it. I fell out with my friend group as well for a good while as I didn’t want to be around her. It left me with a decision I made not to trust women believing they will betray me. 

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I forgave her and only 2-3 years ago, I geniunely started trusting women and trusting the feminine again. And now I’m so grateful for being surrounded by many beautiful women. All loving, all so generous, inspiring and unique in their own way.

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When a woman betrays you, it doesn’t mean anything about you. When you decide, “women can’t be trusted”, you close your heart and might become calculated with your words and actions, very controlled and rigid. While protecting your heart, you’re also shutting it down to love, connection and support.

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Friday evening, I went to Gaia Rose’s women’s gathering. What a wonderful event it was. 6 speakers shared their story in such an open, vulnerable and raw way. I’m so proud of my friend Lauren for sharing her story too. 

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I was in tears seeing that we’re not meant to be like each other. We’re meant to shine in our own unique way. We’re meant to express our truth. We’re meant to lift each other with love and encouragement. In doing that, we allow more women to step into their power and live their truth 🔥

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There is no comparison. There is no competition. It starts with an open heart, forgiveness and vulnerability 😍

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To all women, I love you 🌹❤️

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Photo by @harleyweir

✨ CELEBRATING YOU ✨

2 years ago, 

✨ I used to live in my head a lot.

✨ I gave my power away to others.
✨ I was disconnected from my body and sensuality.
✨I held onto hurt and resentment from the past.
✨ I believed I didn’t have much to offer.
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I feel very grateful that I’ve gone through the most transformational 2 years of my life to come to this point where I’ve found my power, my sovereignty and I live my true nature feeling connected to my essence.
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I had another 8 years before that where I was constantly growing and learning about myself. During this journey, I wish there was a platform where I can find the most profound and powerful tools that supported me to feel empowered and embodied as a woman. I had to go to different sources, apply them, see what worked and didn’t work.
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So I created that platform!
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✨ Celebrating You ✨ 7 weeks online course for women
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This is a powerful course. It will go deep and create transformation and you will journey with other women ❤️
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If you’ve come to any of my workshops or had 1-1 sessions with me and resonate with what I write, imagine the energy of this course is all combined 🔥
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And you can join now! 😍 It’s for 12 women only 💃🏽

You can find out more on here 👇🏼

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https://www.isiktlabar.com/celebrating-you-1

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If you have any questions, just message me ❤️

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Have an awesome weekend 😍

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Love you 💛

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Last week we held a breathwork journey.

This is Jitka, my dear friend and lover of breathwork ❤️😃

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In the videos, she shares about her experience afterwards 👇🏼

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Next breathwork 🔥
21 March 6:30pm
Haggerston, Centre 151
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Link to book is below ✨
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https://www.brownpapertickets.com/event/4095624
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My mum will be there!! 😃💛
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Night night everyone 🌙
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Own and share who you are, no matter what ✨

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Your “too much”ness, weirdness, your dance, your words, your being, show it all. Don’t dim your light to make someone else comfortable.

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This quote by Steven Spielberg changed my life:
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"Sometimes a dream almost whispers. And I've always said to my kids, the hardest thing to listen to—your instincts, your human personal intuition—always whispers; it never shouts. Very hard to hear. So you have to every day of your lives be ready to hear what whispers in your ear; it very rarely shouts. And if you can listen to the whisper, and if it tickles your heart, and it's something you think you want to do for the rest of your life, then that is going to be what you do for the rest of your life, and we will benefit from everything you do.
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The whisper might not make sense, it might go against what your friends and family think or you might not believe you can do that. Listen to it and act on it anyway 😘
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If people are judging you, that’s ok. Know that their judgement is based on their wound. No matter what you do, they will see it through their wounded lens. So you might as well be yourself ✨
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If people are telling you to not rock the boat, get a steady job and stay in a safe relationship, that’s ok. As you grow and expand, their own fear might kick in. They might realise they’ve been playing it so safe that you going beyond norms into the unknown makes them uncomfortable. So they try to keep you small rather than expanding themselves. Have compassion ✨
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If people are not getting it, that’s ok. Rather than trying to explain it to them, let them be. Focus on your vision and growth. Show them through your actions rather than words ✨
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Do that website.
Post that video.
Ask that girl out.
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What are you avoiding doing knowing deep down it is what your heart yearns for?
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Follow that. It might just empower someone else to shine their light ✨

Love you 💛

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This is my celebration dance! 💛

https://www.facebook.com/isik.tlabar/videos/10161512410025300/

https://www.facebook.com/isik.tlabar/videos/10161512410025300/

I took this after coming back from the talk I gave last night 💃🏽

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I’m not going to lie, a part of me was terrified of this talk. I’m used to giving workshops in circles but standing up infront of people was a whole different scenario. This is what my mind was telling me. The truth is, one person or a group, sitting or standing, it’s all the same thing. It’s about connecting to the heart and serving.
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When I was younger, I decided it’s not safe to put my heart out in the world. It’s so much safer to be in my head. So when I’m triggered, I get all analytical, calculated and rigid, right into my head. It feels exhausting.
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Yesterday, I told my younger self that I got her, she can trust me now. She can see fear as excitement and anticipation. She can show her heart and speak from her heart and it’s ok ✨
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I remembered my friend Celynn told me once, the audience wants you to succeed. When I was standing there, feeling connected with my heart and with the audience’s heart, I realised there is no authority, right or wrong, we’re all in this journey together ❤️
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Giving this talk made me appreciate how much I’ve grown in the last two years. When I gave my first talk a year ago, I was going through a breakup, just moved out to live on my own and so much more was going on. Now I feel the most grounded and the most empowered I ever felt. It feels easy and effortless ❤️
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And I feel like I’m just starting 🔥
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Love you 💛
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I’m on my way to give a talk 😍

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It’s about how to get out of your head and come back into your heart, which has been my journey for the last 2 years ❤️

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I rarely post last minute but I have a feeling someone needs to see this and come. If that’s you, come 😘
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It’s at We Work, Moorgate
1 Fore Street
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Link to book is below 😍
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https://www.animascoaching.com/coaching-cpd-events/
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Love you 💛
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I saw this the other day and I love it 😍

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There are 5 love languages, 5 ways we feel loved. How you love people might not be how others want to be loved. For example, you might love giving compliments as that’s what you would love, but the other person might just wants to spend quality time together with full presence and no phone.

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It’s so good to talk about these not just with your partner, but friends, family, colleagues even, to find out how they feel appreciated so you connect with people deeper.
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It’s also important to find out what makes you feel good and connect with yourself deeper. How are you giving yourself love? ❤️
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Maybe your love language is more quality time, it could be going on walks in nature. Or if it’s words, it could be catching yourself when you’re beating yourself up and saying kind words to yourself instead 🙏🏼
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Do the test 5 love languages online, then find one thing from your first love language that you can do this week to be loving towards yourself and do that 😍
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Enjoy this gorgeous sun! ☀️
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Love you 💛
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Image by Blessing Manifesting: Self Love Quotes

Last Thursday, we had our monthly breathwork journey 🔥

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It’s not always easy to fully feel your pain. It’s so much easier to numb yourself, drink, take drugs etc. But that’s not living, it’s escaping into a delusional reality. When you actually turn towards your pain to feel it and go through it, then you’re free from it. You come out from the other side feeling lighter ✨ This is exactly what happens during those journeys, with occasional laughs 😃

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I love all the elements in it. Welcoming people, music, opening & closing circle, the journey, energywork, bodywork, eating fruits and hugs afterwards 😍 I can see them all having a purpose and coming together like a piece of art 💛
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Holding these breathwork journeys is one of the things that bring me most alive. They push me to show up as more of who I truly am and they just keep going deeper and deeper 😉
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I’m so grateful for Aaron and Abbey for holding the space with me. Thank you guys ❤️
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Next one is on the 21st of March, link to book is below 👇🏼
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https://www.brownpapertickets.com/event/4095624
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Have a gorgeous rest of the weekend 💛
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Love you ❤️
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A reminder for today 😍

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For the times when you think:

- I should be further along right now

- I should be married and have kids by now
- I should have accomplished more by now
- I should know what I meant to be doing by now
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Getting somewhere is not the ultimate success. It’s also about your enjoyment, your learnings and who you become while you’re on the journey. There is no comparison and who decides these shoulds anyway? Whoever it is, you can make a new decision that actually serves you and inspires you ✨
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Even if you don’t get there, you have lessons from it. You are growing either way 😍 What are the lessons you learnt from your unexpected detours?
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On another note, we have few spaces left for the breathwork journey tonight.
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Come join us if you need a good release this post full moon 🌑
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You can book your space through the link below ✨
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https://www.brownpapertickets.com/event/4053846
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Centre 151, Haggerston
6:30-9:30pm
£25
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Wishing you a wonderful day 💛
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Art by @chibirdart

I’m giving a talk next week! 😍

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I’ll be talking about how to differentiate our Ego from our truth and a practical tool to use in the moment to come back to truth and love 🤓

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It’s for Animas, the coaching school I went to and it’s open to public! You can book your place through here 👇🏼
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https://www.animascoaching.com/coaching-cpd-events/
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Tuesday 26th
7pm
Double Tree by Hilton West End
92 Southampton Row
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See you there lovelies ❤️
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