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🍃🍂 LETTING GO 🍂🍃

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The more you let go, the more you'll become who you truly are.. 

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There's this story of a lion being brought up amongst sheeps. So it feels and acts like a sheep. Then one day, he gets captured by another lion. Taken to a pond, he sees his own reflection. He realises he's a lion. 

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What people expect from you becomes who you should be. Other people's opinions of you becomes what you believe about yourself. You might have taken them on without questioning, so what you believe about yourself might not even belong to you.. 

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Living up to that expectation takes a lot of energy. It makes you feel tired and exhausted. You might want to be in your own space. Because you haven't been yourself, then you feel like you can only be yourself when you're on your own so you're better off on your own.

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These are all conditionings, habits, how you believe you should be in the world to get love, to be enough, to fit in, to have control and power.. So many masks you carry around which are not really you. 

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So how do you change that?

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Know what you want, find out what your true nature is. Then if there are experiences and people from the past you're holding onto that stops you from being that, let them go. 

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And how do you exactly let go? 

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You stop holding on. You know that its done its job and you don't need it anymore. See what it taught you, thank it and say goodbye. Know that the void you just created will be filled with something as good or even better 😉

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As you shed all these skin, you might feel like you're not where you used to be, but you're not where you want to be either. So that can feel like this weird in between stage where things are moving and not very stabilising. That's ok, acknowledge how far you came and keep your focus on where you want to go.

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Look at nature, especially the transition period we are in right now. Trees don't hold onto their leaves as they die, they let them go knowing that in few months they'll have new leaves.. They're in total surrender in what is naturally happening.

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People might not understand or judge the change that is happening in you, because you're showing them parts they're not happy within themselves either but not brave to go in there to face and shift it.. Let them be. By following your truth you're doing them a massive favour in the long run showing them they can do the same. Their worry is not your problem anyway 😃

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When you're struggling to let go, ask yourself:

- What am I scared of loosing?

- Which part of me feels unsafe?

- When I don't let go, what's the payoff? (Everything you do has a payoff. It might be you get to be taken care of, you get love, you avoid being in your power by not letting go or you get to be in control by holding on etc)

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As you let go more and more, change becomes easier, you let go easier. As the old story leaves you, your life leads to a new beginning ✨

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There's an incredible guided meditation about letting go, moving on that I love. It's great for grief and seperation. If you'd like to try it out, let me know your email and I'll send it to you 🙌🏼

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Loads of love to you! ✨

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💆🏽 BALANCE OF RESTING & TAKING ACTION 🏃🏽‍♀️

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There's this notion of you need to keep taking action to get where you want to be. 

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I don't agree fully.

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Yes, you need to take action. But you need to rest as well. Allowing your mind, your body, your Soul to rest and do nothing for a while.. 

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If you're someone who's always getting stuff done and taking action, this can be hard sometimes. You might have thoughts like,

- 'You're not doing anything'

- 'You haven't ticked off anything from your to do list today'

- 'See I knew it, you're useless'

- 'You'll never get where you want to be'

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And that's ok. It's just how your mind works, nothing wrong with that. 

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If you tell your mind, your Ego that you'll rest after 2 days of getting loads done, it'll listen to you and it'll work with you rather than working against you.

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The gift is, in those empty spaces, ideas will come to you. You have a void, so the nature will fill that void with new seeds, that business name or logo you were thinking about for days will come to you once you have emptiness and silence.. 

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Here are few suggestions in how to rest:

- Spending time in nature for 2 days with your phone off

- Treating yourself to a massage 

- Having a bath with candles and soft music

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If you're more comfortable with taking action, you can rest by doing something. You can choose an activity like yoga, walking in nature etc.

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You might be someone who's more comfortable with being. Resting won't be an issue for you, taking action might be a struggle.

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You might procrastinate, have excuses delaying taking action or have thoughts like:

- 'I'm flowing with life at the moment'

- 'If it's meant to be it will happen'

- 'Having my inner peace is more important than taking action and feeling nervous'

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Again, there's nothing wrong with those thoughts. There's a time to listen to them and there's a time to not. If it's true for you to take action, go and do it. 

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You can see if it's not meant to be after you've taken action. You'll also have more inner prace after you've taken action too.

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You might have resistance to taking action, it might be 'too masculine' or 'too rigid'. Truly see if the action is leading you to where you want to go. If it does, the rest doesn't matter.

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Here are few suggestions in how to take action and get stuff done:

- Sit down Sunday evening and create a calendar for the next 2 weeks. It can be on a notebook or on your laptop.

- Every day put something small that you'll do. It can be doing 10 mins breathwork every day, reading your book for 15 mins every day. Whatever it is, make sure you put it in small chunks all throughout the 2 weeks so you don't overwhelm yourself.

- As you do those every day, cross them off or highlight them. This will make you feel good 😃

- In the end of 2 weeks, look back at your schedule. See how you feel and see if there is any changes in your energy levels.

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By taking a small action every day, even in 2 weeks you can see a big change and that way you'll prove your Ego, taking action can be good and fun too! 🙌🏼

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What are good ways you found to rest? What made you take action easier? Would love to hear from you 💙🙏🏼

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Have an awesome rest of the week 😍✨

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Much looove 😘

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