heart vs mind

Own and share who you are, no matter what ✨

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Your “too much”ness, weirdness, your dance, your words, your being, show it all. Don’t dim your light to make someone else comfortable.

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This quote by Steven Spielberg changed my life:
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"Sometimes a dream almost whispers. And I've always said to my kids, the hardest thing to listen to—your instincts, your human personal intuition—always whispers; it never shouts. Very hard to hear. So you have to every day of your lives be ready to hear what whispers in your ear; it very rarely shouts. And if you can listen to the whisper, and if it tickles your heart, and it's something you think you want to do for the rest of your life, then that is going to be what you do for the rest of your life, and we will benefit from everything you do.
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The whisper might not make sense, it might go against what your friends and family think or you might not believe you can do that. Listen to it and act on it anyway 😘
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If people are judging you, that’s ok. Know that their judgement is based on their wound. No matter what you do, they will see it through their wounded lens. So you might as well be yourself ✨
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If people are telling you to not rock the boat, get a steady job and stay in a safe relationship, that’s ok. As you grow and expand, their own fear might kick in. They might realise they’ve been playing it so safe that you going beyond norms into the unknown makes them uncomfortable. So they try to keep you small rather than expanding themselves. Have compassion ✨
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If people are not getting it, that’s ok. Rather than trying to explain it to them, let them be. Focus on your vision and growth. Show them through your actions rather than words ✨
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Do that website.
Post that video.
Ask that girl out.
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What are you avoiding doing knowing deep down it is what your heart yearns for?
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Follow that. It might just empower someone else to shine their light ✨

Love you 💛

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❤️ YOUR HEART vs YOUR MIND ❤️

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This post is for you if you’re independent, don’t like being vulnerable and struggle to let your guards down 🙏🏼

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I know exactly how you feel, because this is my default. I had to geniunely face myself and my fears to be vulnerable, open my heart and create intimacy in all my relationships not just the romantic ones. 

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You might let people in but only to an extent that you know you’re in control. If you’re aware of this, it shows that you owned that part of you. This is great because not everyone who controls want to admit that that’s what they do 😃 It’s also the first step to change it, to accept it.

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As a young girl or boy, maybe you decided it wasn’t safe to let people in. If you did, people hurt you, judged you, didn’t love you back or abandoned you. So you decided it’s so much better to keep people at a safe distance, be self-sufficient to the point you don’t need people to be close to you.

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This strategy might have served you at the time as a little girl or boy, but it might not be serving you anymore as a grown adult.

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So this conversation happens:

You: Ok guys, I want to start letting people in now 🤩

Your heart: Dude thank God, I’ve been waiting for this moment! 💖

Your mind: Yeah right. Here’s a spreadsheet of what happened when you wanted to let someone in for in the last 10 years. Enjoy 📊

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So there’s a conflict between your mind and your heart. Your mind is trying to keep you safe by keeping you do what you did in the past, while your heart knows what’s possible. It is longing for the openness, transparency and intimacy. 

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Here’s what you can do to start choosing your heart over your mind:

- Notice what your mind is telling you. (Need to control, fear of abandonment, being found out there’s something wrong about you etc)

- Notice what control, fear etc is telling you to do. Every emotion comes with an action.

- Close your eyes. Take a deep breath. Now imagine you’re breathing into your heart. You’re connecting with your heart. You don’t have to feel euphoric doing this. Just know that you’re in your heart space now.

- Ask you heart, “What would you love to do?” 

- Follow that heart ❤️

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See the two option clearly. 

One is fear based, one is love based. 

One is in the known, there’s no magic there.

One is the unknown, there’s shit loads of magic there. 

You decide ✨

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Have a mini notebook (or phone’s notes section) where you write down something magical happened synchronistically when you followed your heart. When your mind is winning, you can open this notebook and show your mind some solid proof. Talk in your mind’s language to calm it down - facts 😉 

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Plus your controlling side is going to love this new thing you can document and control 😂

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I find that this is number one struggle of women around intimacy - surrender ✨ 

It’s what we fear but what we most desire. I work with women around this in 1-1 coaching and breathwork sessions in how to surrender, not just to men but to life, living your truth in magic. Message me if you’re interested 😘

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Love you ❤️

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