your body

💛 YOUR BEAUTIFUL BODY HAIR 💛

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Following the post I wrote two days ago about makeup, today’s post is about body and pubic hair.

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I’m Turkish and I am a naturally hairy woman. As a teenager, I was very self-conscious of my body hair. I started waxing super early in my life. I was super embarrassed about my hair that I got laser on my legs, arms and armpit at the age of 16 to get rid of the hair. I got rid of %90 of the hair (as good as it gets with Turkish hair 😃). So now I barely have hair on my body apart from my pubic hair. 

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I remember the main reason I didn’t do laser on my pubic hair was having a very low pain threshold. And I remember this thought, ‘What if a future partner prefers to have hair down there?’ I was prioritising someone else’s opinion over how I feel about having or not having hair. 

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I remember boys at school would tease girls who had hair on their arms, legs, upper lips and near the chin line. They would tell them they look like a boy. I know they didn’t know any better, as they were young boys growing up feeling insecure about their own hair as well. But how damaging is that to hear, as a girl growing up to find out who she is?

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I watched Russell Howard’s show “Recalibrate” on Netflix. He’s just an incredible comedian. He was talking about pubic hair and how young girls are pressured to be and look in a certain way. They thought having hair on their vagina looks horrible. This breaks my heart as I was one of them too.

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He makes a joke saying, “No men found himself in paradise and went, ‘Well this is lovely, but look at the lawn.’” 😃 

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It’s your body, your hair. You decide what you want to do or not do with it. No one can tell you what you should do with it. They might have a preference and that doesn’t mean anything about you or how your vagina looks. Your vagina is beautiful as it is. 

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Men are blessed to be around your naked body and your vagina. Don’t let them tell you either way. It is the most sacred part of your body and most intimate someone can be with you. They’re literally in you.

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Here’s a little process if you were shamed for your body or pubic hair:

- Close your eyes

- Imagine the person who shamed you, infront of you

- Say out loud everything you need to tell them to let go of this memory (alternatively write)

- Now see what their pain, their conditioning was, why did they behave that way?

- Forgiveness is always great, not to make them right, but to release heaviness from your side. If you feel to do so, forgive them.

- Imagine a cord between you, cut the cord woth your hands

- (Do this one by one or address a whole bunch of people collectively and cut the cord collectively.)

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It is never personal, only a conditioning ✨

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I believe this will change with women sharing how they feel about having or not having hair. Rather than men telling how it should be on a body or body part they don’t even have. I find it similar to expecting men to magically know how it feels to have a period, they can’t. Because they haven’t experienced it. Only women can tell them how it feels.

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I know many women who choose to grow their body hair. That’s beautiful. I know many women who choose to shave all the hair off their body. That’s beautiful too. Because women are beautiful, as they are 💃🏽

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I’m not saying throw away all your shavers and grow all your hair on your body and never shave, do whatever feels good for your body. 

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Now I shave my arms / legs / armpits with that bit of hair comes out after laser. Because I love how my skin feels and I’m actually grateful now that I did the laser. And I wax my pubic hair regularly after cupping my vagina telling her I love her, I’m here and this will hurt a bit, because that ‘painless’ wax is such a lie 😂

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Feel free to share this 🌹

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Loads of love to you all ❤️

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Painting by Georgia O’Keeffe

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