Feminine Power

I took this few weeks ago after the last Goddess Circle I held.

Goddess Circle is a workshop for women I created where it’s a loving and safe space you get to connect with your femininity, your body and your wisdom. It’s a space where you can soften, allow, let go and surrender ❤️ We dance, meditate and do breathwork together.

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I held them at Buddha on a Bicycle in Covent Garden every month for 2 years for 6 women only. Now, I’m taking them to another venue with more space for around 10-12 women 😍🎉
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Here are some feedback from the previous ones👇🏼
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✨ “I have been to places and levels of emotions I have not been to before. You offered a safe and loving environment, so it felt secure to release.”
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✨ “It didn’t necessarily turned out the way I thought it would, but it gave me exactly what I needed!”
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✨”Allow yourself to let go and relax into it! Trust that you are held in a safe space.”
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The next one:
30th May Thursday // 7-10pm
Unmind Space, Hackney
£25
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Earlybird ends 22nd of May, Wednesday. You can book your place through the link below ✨
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https://www.brownpapertickets.com/event/4047203
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I’d love to see you there 😍
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I love you 💛
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(Also can someone tell me if there’s a way to record and play music on my phone at the same time? Otherwise I’m doing these silent breath dances 😃)
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As a woman, your receptivity, your softness and your sensitivity are your superpowers. 

You don’t have to control every outcome.

You don’t have to analyse and overthink everything.

You don’t have to become rigid to get stuff done.
You don’t have to close your heart to protect yourself.
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There is a softness and receptivity that comes with slowing down and a radiance that comes with an open heart.
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I created Goddess Circles, an embodiment workshop for women, a safe and loving space where women get to feel this, where they connect with their feminine power and come back home to themselves.
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There are 3 LAST SPACES left for tonight.
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Buddha on a Bicycle, Covent Garden
Tonight 22nd April
6:30-9:30pm
£25
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You can book your space through the link in bio ✨
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I’d love to have you there 🌺
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Enjoy this gorgeous sun today!
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I love you ❤️
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🔻🔴 HOW I CAME TO LOVE MY MENSTRUAL CYCLE 🔴🔻

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Having your period can be a daunting or a beautiful experience. Here’s my journey from hating my period to loving and honouring it 🌺

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When I had my period for the first time, my mum took me out for dinner with my dad to celebrate. I’m grateful for that experience how it left me feeling this is something to be celebrated rather than be ashamed of. Thank you mum 😍❤️

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Later on, I found having my period daunting through my teenage years up until 2 years ago. I wasn’t aware of what was actually going on in my body not just during bleeding but other times during my cycle as well.

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I was pushing pushing pushing, busy getting stuff done. I saw having period as a roadblock. It was slowing me down and getting in the way of my productivity and focus. 

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Until I learnt, in one menstrual cycle, you actually go through all four seasons. 

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❄️ During bleeding, you’re in winter where you go inwards, slow down, release and rest. 

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🌺 After you bleed, you’re going into spring where your natural energy is coming back to you, feeling productive and on top of things. 

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☀️Then you go into summer where you’re in full bloom, at your peak, great with people, feeling loving, connected and balanced. 

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🍂 As you ovulate, you start to go into autumn where the desire to go inwards is getting stronger, noticing what needs to change in your life, your intuition showing you your truth.

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Then I understood, we women, are connected with the cycles of nature, we are nature herself. We have a whole year happening inside our bodies every month 🌎

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I stopped using tampons and started using divacup - a cup you use during bleeding to collect your blood. I was grossed out of the idea in the beginning, then I noticed I had less period cramps and I got to connect with my blood. I would put my blood on my face, give it to my plants or paint with it 🔴 

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You can read a post I wrote a year ago, connecting with my blood with my partner 👇🏼

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https://www.facebook.com/595885299/posts/10160027539565300?sfns=mo

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2 summers ago, my whole forehead flared up with spots. I went to dermatologist and gynecologist to find out what that was about. The gynecologist immediately told me to start taking the birth control pill. I’ve only taken it for 3 months in my life. I asked my body, looked at him and said, “No.” He was surprised. Two weeks later, my forehead cleared up naturally being around Mediterranean sun, sea and salt.

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I had a non hormonal coil (IUD) in my womb for 3 years as a birth control method. It is a T shaped copper object that creates an environment in your womb impossible for sperms to survive. 6 months ago, when my long term relationship ended, I got clear during a period that I needed to take the coil out as I was bleeding a lot due to inflammation from this foreign object in my womb. 

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I’m ever grateful for that piece of copper for allowing me to go to places I never knew existed, knowing I’m safe to surrender in lovemaking. I thanked it and went to get it out by a woman at the clinic who was called the “coil whisperer” 😂

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During the last 6 months, I noticed my bleeding got lighter and lighter with every cycle up until now, with no pain.

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I started using Natural Cycles which is a natural birth control method where you measure your temperature every morning and it tracks where you are in your cycle, if you’re fertile or not, whether you should use protection or not while having sex. I started to get to know my body a lot better which left me feeling even more empowered.

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I still use divacups as a way of connecting with my blood and period pants in case it leaks.

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Connecting with your menstrual cycle is one of the gateways to your full power as a woman. It’s about holding the little girl in you and showing her she can trust her body, have a deeper sense of appreciation for her body, knowing her body has an innate wisdom and functions beautifully. All she need to do is trust, allow and listen.

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Then that little girl turns into an empowered woman who knows her body, who knows her truth and is not afraid to express it. She’s embodied and empowered.

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Your body tells you every day, “You can trust me.” If you’re coming off the birth control pill, know that you can trust her. Your body’s waiting for you to come back home, to come back to your power and celebrate your body’s magic.

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As you connect with your menstrual flow:

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👉🏼 You feel a lot deeper, the whole spectrum - the lighter and the darker emotions. 

👉🏼 You become very in tune with yourself, others and the world. 

👉🏼 Your creativity flows as your blood flows. 👉🏼 As you embrace and welcome the ride, you practice surrender not just in your menstruation but in your life as well.

👉🏼 You come back home to your body feeling gratitude for what your body naturally does without you thinking about it.

👉🏼 You won’t let anyone in your womb you don’t connect with deeply as you love and honour your body. Your womb is the most sacred part of your body and no one should enter without your permission. 

👉🏼 You come back to your wholeness knowing yourself so deeply 🌸

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If you want to read more about menstrual cycle:

- Woman Code by Alisa Vitti 👉🏼 masculine approach

- Red Moon by Miranda Gray 👉🏼 feminine approach

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Learn everything from specialists, experts and then question them all. Ask your body. See if it feels true for your body, you know the final answer ❤️

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REMINDER: This can be a taboo subject to talk about. I’m sharing this because most woman, at some point in their lives get frustrated about their menstrual cycle, hormones or period not knowing what to do. There is a way out into a beautiful journey.

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Feel free to share if you feel this might empower someone you know 🔴

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I love hearing about women’s journeys with their period, blood, birth control methods etc. Would love to hear in the comments below or you can message me 😘

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Love you ❤️

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❤️ HOW TO FALL IN LOVE WITH YOURSELF AFTER A HEARTBREAK ❤️

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Breakups are painful. 

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As much as they hurt, they can also be the beginning of a new chapter.

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Falling in love is one of the most beautiful feelings on the planet. You find each other and love every single thing about each other. You become a team together, you fall into this love bubble you create together.

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You become each other’s whole world, everything and everyone to one another. You forget how you even lived before meeting this person. You love so deeply that you’d do anything for each other. 

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Then for whatever reason, that love bubble pops, you come back to reality. You see parts in this person you don’t like. You either blame the person for not being who you want them to be OR you own the fact that it’s something actually you need to be working on so you hold each other and work through it together. 

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It’s never one thing. It’s the accumulation of little things that leads to breakups. And it hurts. It can feel like this beautiful love you shared is gone overnight and you left with nothing. You might go into the story of the love you shared wasn’t real, you were betrayed, you will never be loved again, men can’t be trusted, they abandon you etc.

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The truth is, when you’re falling in love, you’re falling in love with aspects of yourself. You love yourself through loving the other person. The other person is just you, an aspect of you. When you love those qualities in them, you love the same in yourself ❤️

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The love you shared is always there, it’s never lost. The problem is, you make it about the person. When they are out of the equation, it feels as if the love is gone. It’s not. It shows you what love can feel like so you can feel it with yourself and others.

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After a breakup, you have two choices:

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✨Are you going to close your heart and give up on love? 

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✨Or are you going to keep your heart open and love again and again?

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Mark Nepo says in the documentary, Power of the Heart, heart grows through breaking, like muscles. It’s agony in the moment, it hurts. But the heart says, “Give me more.” It’s about coming back to love, finding acceptance and forgiveness.

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When you close your heart, it can feel like protecting yourself from being hurt but you’re also closing yourself to the love, magic, happiness and all there is in life. There is a risk of your heart being broken again, but the cost you pay when you keep your heart closed is much bigger.

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Nearly throughout last year, I went through a painful breakup. We chose to seperate in a way we hold each other in our sadness and grief as we wanted to be in each other’s life forever as close friends. It was hard because we literally exposed ourselves to feel rather than numbing. It brought up loads of other stuff I avoided looking at before. It wasn’t a straight line where I felt it for three days and that was it. It was more like a cycle where some days I felt free and empowered, some days, I felt sad and heartbroken until one day, I wasn’t sad anymore.

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I had my doubts creeping in, “How can you let this go? Will you find this love again?” When you let go of something not knowing what will come, that in between space can feel scary. Wherever there is space, universe will bring in something. You just don’t know it yet.

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Filling that space doesn’t have to be being with someone else. Be with yourself first, take care of yourself first rather than expecting someone to do that. You can go straight back into another relationship that makes you feel better. This could be a distraction from feeling. When that new connection ends, there you will find your pain, waiting to be felt. That’s all it wants, to be felt.

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Here are some steps to bring you back to your own love when you feel heartbroken:

- Close your eyes.

- Take 4 deep breaths.

- Notice what emotion is present in you? Allow yourself to feel it knowing it’s safe to feel it.

- Which memory is it bringing up in you? When was the first time you felt this?

- Now see the 4 year old you. How does she feel? What does she need to hear from you? Tell her she’s loved, whole and beautiful as she is. No one’s behaviour can change that.

- Place your hand on your heart.

- Imagine bringing down your awareness into your heart space. Take a deep breath into your heart. What is your heart telling you?

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No one’s behaviour or words can change who you are. The way they treat you says more about who they are. It doesn’t mean anything about you but it shows you what you believe about yourself. It shows you about your wounded self and Ego. It’s not who you truly are. The reason it’s happening is to show you a lesson that needs to be learnt, a boundary needs to be put or a change that needs to be made.

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If you’re resistant to self-love, start with self-respect and self-honour. Treat yourself with respect and honouring of your needs. When you do, all the people who don’t treat you well will start vanishing from your reality and you won’t compromise for any less than you deserve.

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"Talk to yourself like you would to someone you love." - Brene Brown

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Forget about everyone else. Only you matter. Everyone else is a gateway to you, to learn more about yourself and love yourself even more. 

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Explore what you love. What brings you joy? What comes naturally to you? What excites you the most? What would you do for the rest of your life if you weren’t paid to do it? What do people say you’re good at?

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Know that you’re healing, growing, learning and expanding your capacity to receive and give love ☺️

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Love you ❤️

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💫 CELEBRATING YOU STARTS TOMORROW, LAST SPACES AVAILABLE! 💫

This 7 week journey is all about falling in love with yourself and stepping into your wholeness.

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It’s powerful and life changing. Loving and empowering ☺️💛 It will push you out of your comfort zone while you’re supported with so much love.
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This is what’s inside:
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✨ 7 video lessons specific for each theme of the week
✨ 7 guided meditations guiding you through powerful journeys
✨ 7 intuitive letters
✨ 7 self love practices
✨ 7 weekly group calls held as a women’s circle where you’ll receive coaching from me and connect with other women.
(Every Tuesday, starting on the 19th March 7pm UK time.)
✨ Access to a secret Facebook group where you’ll be supported, seen by other women, share and ask any questions
✨ Dance game
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We have few last spots left. If you feel called to join, this is the last chance 🔥
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You can find all the info on here 👇🏼 Payment plans are available.
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https://www.isiktlabar.com/celebrating-you-1
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Message me for any questions ✨
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Love you 💙
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🌹 SISTERHOOD 🌹

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Happy belated International Women’s Day! 

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On Friday, I was so happy to see on social media how women were not just celebrating womanhood but sisterhood as well, appreciating the beautiful women in their lives. 

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Women are powerful on their own, but even more powerful together. Men as well but I’m going to talk about women for a second here 😃 We got 8 months for Men’s Day lol.

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(spoiler alert 🚨👇🏼 - Sex Education)

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Few weeks ago, I watched Sex Education. It’s basically a series set in high school about sex and intimacy. One of the most genius ideas I’ve seen in a long time to make something taboo, mainstream. I fell in love with it. It’s so good, go watch it.

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In an episode, one of the popular girl’s vagina’s photo is being passed around at school and no one knows its her. The popular girl feels very ashamed and embarrased about how her vagina looks like. 

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Turns out it was her best friend who did it to make her understand how horrible she is to people. 

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Later on, on stage, the headteacher tells all the students sitting in their seats gives a warning about pornographic images being distributed. As he says that this best friend who betrayed the popular girl stands up and says, “It’s my vagina.” The headteacher is a bit shocked, tells her to sit down. 

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Another woman stands up and says, “No, it’s my vagina.” Then another one and another one. One by one, nearly all women stood up to say its their vagina. At some point, even a guy stands up and says it’s his vagina 😂

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After so many people standing up, the popular girl who was ashamed of her vagina in the first place stands up, holds her best friend’s hand and says, “It’s my vagina.”

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This is my favourite scene in the whole season. She owns her body and herself. It shows the power of solidarity, how it can heal shame and betrayal between women.

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Other women are not your enemy. You might have felt, women betrayed you, they broke your trust. So did mine. My best friend at high school went out with a guy I really loved right after we broke up. It broke my heart and I couldn’t believe it. I fell out with my friend group as well for a good while as I didn’t want to be around her. It left me with a decision I made not to trust women believing they will betray me. 

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I forgave her and only 2-3 years ago, I geniunely started trusting women and trusting the feminine again. And now I’m so grateful for being surrounded by many beautiful women. All loving, all so generous, inspiring and unique in their own way.

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When a woman betrays you, it doesn’t mean anything about you. When you decide, “women can’t be trusted”, you close your heart and might become calculated with your words and actions, very controlled and rigid. While protecting your heart, you’re also shutting it down to love, connection and support.

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Friday evening, I went to Gaia Rose’s women’s gathering. What a wonderful event it was. 6 speakers shared their story in such an open, vulnerable and raw way. I’m so proud of my friend Lauren for sharing her story too. 

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I was in tears seeing that we’re not meant to be like each other. We’re meant to shine in our own unique way. We’re meant to express our truth. We’re meant to lift each other with love and encouragement. In doing that, we allow more women to step into their power and live their truth 🔥

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There is no comparison. There is no competition. It starts with an open heart, forgiveness and vulnerability 😍

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To all women, I love you 🌹❤️

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Photo by @harleyweir

✨ CELEBRATING YOU ✨

2 years ago, 

✨ I used to live in my head a lot.

✨ I gave my power away to others.
✨ I was disconnected from my body and sensuality.
✨I held onto hurt and resentment from the past.
✨ I believed I didn’t have much to offer.
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I feel very grateful that I’ve gone through the most transformational 2 years of my life to come to this point where I’ve found my power, my sovereignty and I live my true nature feeling connected to my essence.
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I had another 8 years before that where I was constantly growing and learning about myself. During this journey, I wish there was a platform where I can find the most profound and powerful tools that supported me to feel empowered and embodied as a woman. I had to go to different sources, apply them, see what worked and didn’t work.
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So I created that platform!
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✨ Celebrating You ✨ 7 weeks online course for women
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This is a powerful course. It will go deep and create transformation and you will journey with other women ❤️
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If you’ve come to any of my workshops or had 1-1 sessions with me and resonate with what I write, imagine the energy of this course is all combined 🔥
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And you can join now! 😍 It’s for 12 women only 💃🏽

You can find out more on here 👇🏼

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https://www.isiktlabar.com/celebrating-you-1

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If you have any questions, just message me ❤️

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Have an awesome weekend 😍

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Love you 💛

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😍 I’M CREATING AN ONLINE COURSE! 😍

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The energy of this course came to me last summer. I put all the structure together back then. Then I went through an intense grieving time, it took me 6 months to come around to it. 

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Looking back, I’m actually grateful for it coming to life 6 months later than planned as I grew and learnt so much during this time. Even coming back to the course and upgrading it, showed me you work with life, not against it. Then life always rewards you... with a pizza 😂🍕
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It breaks my heart when I see women comparing themselves with people who are "further ahead" and they don't realise how far they came, the lessons they learnt and who they become during the process.
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I know this, because I can go down this slippery slope as well. Then I catch myself.
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When you’re in constant comparison, you don’t know who you are and what you want. You lost touch with your essence. There is no space for you to connect with your essence and explore who you are, what you love.
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The freedom is when you know yourself, you know what you want and you own who you are. You step into your power and your uniqueness as a woman.
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This course does that.
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It’s called ✨ Celebrating You ✨
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It’s a 7 weeks long journey with 12 women starting on the 19th of March 💃🏽
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I've been working on the course all day today and I'm so excited it's coming to life! 🔥
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I will announce it with the link to register etc on the 1st of March. If you're interested, message me or comment a ❤️ below 👇🏼
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I love you all 💛
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Honestly, thank you for being here and following my journey. I’m so grateful for you all 🙏🏼
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We had another Goddess Circle tonight 😍

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When I went into architecture years ago, I wanted to create spaces where people feel connected and loved. Now I get to do exactly that, not in a way I thought I’d do, but in a much more true way ❤️

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I’d love to share what women said about tonight’s workshop:
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✨ “An incredible journey and opportunity to connect back to the real you again - a real act of compassion to oneself and allowing anything to be felt and experienced.”
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✨ “Isik offers a beautiful, safe space to explore anything that comes up for you and supports you as you work with or through it :)”
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✨ “Refreshing, calming, so nice to be able to release to give myself self love.”
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Goddess Circles are basically 3-6 women gathering in a loving and held space being guided through a journey including movement, meditation and breathwork, coming back to softness, surrender and self love ❤️
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The next one 👇🏼💃🏽
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Goddess Circle // Connect to Your Feminine Power:
25 Feb Monday
6:30-9:30pm
Buddha on a Bicycle, Covent Garden
£25
(5 spots left)
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Link to book ✨ https://www.brownpapertickets.com/event/4047197
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If you prefer to do just breathwork in a women and men mixed place with a big group, the next breathwork 👇🏼🔥
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Freedom Through Breath // A Breathwork Journey:
21 Feb Thursday
6:30-9:30pm
Centre 151, Haggerston
£25
(Half full)
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Link to book ✨ https://www.brownpapertickets.com/event/4053846
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See you there! 😘
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Wishing you a beautiful night 💙
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❤️ YOUR HEART vs YOUR MIND ❤️

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This post is for you if you’re independent, don’t like being vulnerable and struggle to let your guards down 🙏🏼

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I know exactly how you feel, because this is my default. I had to geniunely face myself and my fears to be vulnerable, open my heart and create intimacy in all my relationships not just the romantic ones. 

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You might let people in but only to an extent that you know you’re in control. If you’re aware of this, it shows that you owned that part of you. This is great because not everyone who controls want to admit that that’s what they do 😃 It’s also the first step to change it, to accept it.

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As a young girl or boy, maybe you decided it wasn’t safe to let people in. If you did, people hurt you, judged you, didn’t love you back or abandoned you. So you decided it’s so much better to keep people at a safe distance, be self-sufficient to the point you don’t need people to be close to you.

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This strategy might have served you at the time as a little girl or boy, but it might not be serving you anymore as a grown adult.

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So this conversation happens:

You: Ok guys, I want to start letting people in now 🤩

Your heart: Dude thank God, I’ve been waiting for this moment! 💖

Your mind: Yeah right. Here’s a spreadsheet of what happened when you wanted to let someone in for in the last 10 years. Enjoy 📊

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So there’s a conflict between your mind and your heart. Your mind is trying to keep you safe by keeping you do what you did in the past, while your heart knows what’s possible. It is longing for the openness, transparency and intimacy. 

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Here’s what you can do to start choosing your heart over your mind:

- Notice what your mind is telling you. (Need to control, fear of abandonment, being found out there’s something wrong about you etc)

- Notice what control, fear etc is telling you to do. Every emotion comes with an action.

- Close your eyes. Take a deep breath. Now imagine you’re breathing into your heart. You’re connecting with your heart. You don’t have to feel euphoric doing this. Just know that you’re in your heart space now.

- Ask you heart, “What would you love to do?” 

- Follow that heart ❤️

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See the two option clearly. 

One is fear based, one is love based. 

One is in the known, there’s no magic there.

One is the unknown, there’s shit loads of magic there. 

You decide ✨

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Have a mini notebook (or phone’s notes section) where you write down something magical happened synchronistically when you followed your heart. When your mind is winning, you can open this notebook and show your mind some solid proof. Talk in your mind’s language to calm it down - facts 😉 

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Plus your controlling side is going to love this new thing you can document and control 😂

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I find that this is number one struggle of women around intimacy - surrender ✨ 

It’s what we fear but what we most desire. I work with women around this in 1-1 coaching and breathwork sessions in how to surrender, not just to men but to life, living your truth in magic. Message me if you’re interested 😘

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Love you ❤️

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