Feminine Power

We had a Goddess Circle on Monday!

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We had a Goddess Circle on Monday, a beautiful, loving and surrendering experience of coming back to the body ❤️ Last one of this year is in 2 weeks and it’s sold out 🙏🏼 We’ll be starting again on the 28th of January 😍

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There are still few spots left for the breathwork journey tomorrow. If you’ve been feel a little frustrated, anxious, angry, sad or in grief lately, come and let’s feel them all together to transform them 💚 It’s a space where all emotions are welcome with no shame or judgement 🙏🏼
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“The only way out is through.” - Robert Frost
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Freedom Through Breath // A Breathwork Journey:
6:30-9:30pm
Centre 151, Haggerston
£25
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Link to book is below ✨
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https://www.brownpapertickets.com/event/3745467
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Wishing you a beautiful evening ✨
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I had a girly night out a week ago 💃🏽❤️ 

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I put make up on after 3 MONTHS, it felt weird and also felt good. I love the balance between cacao ceremonies, meditation, breathwork etc and getting dressed up, going out drinking, eating good food in a nice restaurant 🥂

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Expectation of the night was having dinner, getting drunk and dancing until 3am 🥂 Reality was we had dinner and 2 glasses of wine. We laughed, cried and had deep conversations. And I was home by 11pm, we partied hard 😂
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I love you Amanda 💗
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💞 THE SMALL THINGS IN LIFE 💞

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I emerged from my period tent 💫

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I like having few days off from sharing on social media. I’m either busy with sessions, either on my period, going inwards to feel and process something fully or just resting for no reason. Then I always come back feeling refreshed, rested and grounded.
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Right now, I’m here in this little secret garden I found in Clerkenwell, journaling and centring myself. I feel like if I don’t journal every few days, my mind doesn’t register to what happened in those past days, I literally forget 😃 So journaling is a necessity for me to function at my best really 🗝
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I felt so blessed to have found this garden cafe here and I remembered a similar feeling I had a week ago.
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It was right after a Goddess Circle workshop I gave. The workshop went amazing despite the speakers gave up halfway through. Then I went to Pret, sat down with my avocado brie toast. As I had the first bite, I started crying. I felt like I didn’t need anything else in that moment. I felt so content, so happy. It was one of those moments where if I died, I’d be complete, I’d be completely happy with what I did here. I’m going to create more obviously but it was a rare moment where I didn’t feel I could’ve done this, done that etc. I felt proud of the life I created so far.
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Then I started listing things that I’m grateful for in my life. I don’t have a gratitude journal or anything, but when I feel a moment of bliss, happiness, joy etc, I take a moment to put my hand on my heart and to feel it fully. Then I feel into other things in my life that make me feel this way. It feels like a love bubble surrounding me and getting bigger and bigger ❤️
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I love finding happiness in the little things as well as the big things. I’m feeling like that’s reaching a new level. It’s like my capacity to feel is expanding. I have incredible, in flow, aligned as fuck days where I go, ‘finally I’m back in my flow’ followed by a super scary, messy day where I feel like I’m loosing my shit. And I’m learning to accept the non linear style of life and complexity of human emotions 😃
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I’ve been receiving a constant flow of messages full of love and support since my dad died and I’m so grateful for all of them. Thank you all! I’m taking screenshots of it all to read again if I feel lonely or seperate 😉✨
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Wishing you a gorgeous rest of the day 😘❤️
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Love you 🌻
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🔻🔴 GODDESS CIRCLE MAGIC 🔴🔻

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I held a Goddess Circle last Monday.

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When I allow myself to feel rather than resisting, I realise I’m becoming more and more stronger in holding others through a similar journey.
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I love every single women who attends these Goddess Circles. I’m grateful for the open heart, courage, willingness to go there they bring with them and trust they have for me to hold them. We go on a journey of dancing, meditating and doing breathwork together. In the end of the breathwork, I always put my hand on their heart and pour love into them imagining them shining more and more.
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Love is an energy we can give freely without fear or expectation. I feel like it’s a powerful and infinite source that can shift anything. It’s an energy that can shine through our deepest fears, shame and darkness and bring into our lives what matters to us the most.
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If you swipe, you can see few of the participants share. I’m seeing over and over again, we all want to be loved, seen and heard as we are without being judged or shamed. This is a place you can feel that. In a space where you feel safe and loved, you are naturally your true self connected to your feminine power.
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It gives you an experience of what it feels like to be in your body, to feel your feminine energy and power so next time you’re in your head, you can access and come back to this feeling. It becomes a reference point for your body to remember.
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Taking the last feedback into account, they’ll be twice a month from now on ✨
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Next one will be on the 8th October, at my place in Golders Green. 4 SPACES LEFT.
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Here’s the link to book:
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https://www.brownpapertickets.com/event/3625967
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There are always 6 women max as it creates a beautiful, safe and sacred space full of love ❤️
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Have a beautiful rest of the day 💛
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Love you 😘
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💃🏽 CONFIDENCE: BEING YOURSELF💃🏽

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Video: https://www.facebook.com/isik.tlabar/posts/10160864658090300?__tn__=K-R

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Confidence is owning all that you are and showing up in the world saying “This is who I am.” ❤️

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One of the most common things I come across people say in sessions and workshops is in some form or another, “I want to be myself. Sometimes, I don’t know who I am.”

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Confidence starts with being yourself. I don’t believe you can fake until you make it. People can tell that you’re faking it, they’re not stupid. And you definitely know that you’re faking it 😃 so what’s the point of that when you can start from where you’re at? Sometimes being yourself is being in silence. You don’t have to express your opinion about everything all the time. Or you don’t have to be loud to be or feel confident. No confident person ever tried to prove they’re confident anyway.

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When you see someone being themselves, it gives you the permission to do the same in your own way. You might have heard this quote by Marianne Williamson, 

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“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

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It’s probably my favourite quote to date ❤️

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As children we felt free, we lived in the moment. We didn’t worry about how we looked or what people thought about us. We were so busy being ourselves, having fun and enjoying the world. What if we kept that outlook on life? What if we didn’t doubted or questioned ourselves?

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I saw ‘I Feel Pretty’ last week. I loved it so much that I watched it again. It’s about how we pressure ourselves to look a certain way, especially women, how we criticise ourselves constantly beating ourselves up. When we look at someone we can see what makes them, them, in their unique way but when it comes down to ourselves, we’re our worst critics.

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✨ Who would you be if no one you knew existed?✨

Who you are is you, better than all the comparisons and shoulds because no one is you. No one has your face, your ideas, your energy, your creativity. Even if its a similar idea that is done before, it’s not you who’s doing it, your energy matters. 

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✨ What would you do if rejection didn’t exist? ✨

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Rejection is another thing. When it happens, we make it personal about us. Even if we knew deep down, that person wasn’t right for us, now on top of that you feel rejected, unwanted and unloved. The truth is it doesn’t mean anything about you, and it’s time to find someone who will cherish you for who you are.

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Another thing is you don’t have to believe in yourself all the time. I definitely don’t. All you need is 1-2 cheerleaders by your side as a reminder of what you already know, deep down. They can be your friend, lover, your coach, someone that will tell you, “I believe in you. You’re a shining star and you got this.” And some days its you, telling yourself.

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Here’s a process for you:

- Stand infront of a mirror and look into your eyes

- Keep breathing

- Think of something you like about yourself and say it to yourself out loud

- It can be small or big, physical or anything else. To take it to the next level, do this once a day every day for a week and see what you come up with 🤩 you might even hug yourself by the end of it 🌹

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If you want to feel what it feels like to be yourself, with no judgement or shame, come do breathwork with me on the 20th next week. If you know what that feels like, come join anyway. Let’s go deeper, find parts of you that you didn’t know was there. And all you’re doing is breathing ✨

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Make sure to book your ticket if you want to join, we’re half full now. Here’s the link to book:

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https://www.brownpapertickets.com/event/3600217

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You might get caught up in your imperfections and completely miss what makes you amazing until someone points it out.

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So tag a friend and comment below. What do you love about them? What makes them, them? Let’s celebrate each other 😍❤️

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Loads of love to you 😘

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🎧 by Monolink - The End

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🍒 WHY I STOPPED WEARING BRAS 🍒

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Here is the last post from the makeup, body hair etc I’ve been writing about in the last few days ❤️ 

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Ever since I’ve grown breasts up until two years ago, I was wearing bras every day. I was wearing those underwired ones, the ones that make you feel like you’ve just stepped into a heaven when you take them off. So I started thinking “It’s super comfortable to have these off, why am I not having them off completely?” I stopped wearing them for a while just to try it out. And I ended up not wearing them for a whole year.
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When you feel self-conscious about how you look, people look at you as if they read your mind 😃 When you don’t feel self-conscious, people just mind their own business. So in the beginning, I was super conscious of people seeing my nipples as if they’re things you should hide while everyone pretends they doesn’t exist. Over time, I relaxed into it. The more women do it, the more it becomes a normal thing as well.
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There is also a sexualisation of women and their breasts. Yes, they’re sensual, beautiful and sexy but they’re also nurturers of new life, they feed babies and they are part of a women’s body. They’re actually functional too.
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Later on I found out wearing a bra doesn’t actually prevent your breasts from sagging. On the contrary, that underwire in the bra weakens the supporive tissue by stopping the blood flow. When I found this out, I went, “Fuck this, I’m not wearing those underwires again.” (unless its an irresistably sexy one 🍒)
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Here’s the article if you want to read other myths about breasts sagging - https://www.health.com/breast-ca…/what-causes-breasts-to-sag
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Another thing that happened to my breasts over the last year was, they grew in size! There’s something about your breasts also being around your heart centre. When you fully receive love and you feel loved, your breasts grow. I don’t know if there is a scientific explanation to this but this is what happened to me and if it happened to me, I’m pretty sure it can happen to other women too.
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Now I got rid of all my underwired bras and I only wear bralettes some days when I go dancing etc. They can be super sexy and my God, they’re comfortable!
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Whether you have a partner or not, give love to your breasts. Close your eyes and caress them in a way you’d love to receive touch to your breasts. Don’t wait until someone comes in and shows then love while you don’t do that for yourself 😍
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How’s your journey been with your bras and breasts? 🌹
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Feel free to share this 😘
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Loads of love to you 👙❤️
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🎨 by @tinamariaelena

💛 YOUR BEAUTIFUL BODY HAIR 💛

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Following the post I wrote two days ago about makeup, today’s post is about body and pubic hair.

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I’m Turkish and I am a naturally hairy woman. As a teenager, I was very self-conscious of my body hair. I started waxing super early in my life. I was super embarrassed about my hair that I got laser on my legs, arms and armpit at the age of 16 to get rid of the hair. I got rid of %90 of the hair (as good as it gets with Turkish hair 😃). So now I barely have hair on my body apart from my pubic hair. 

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I remember the main reason I didn’t do laser on my pubic hair was having a very low pain threshold. And I remember this thought, ‘What if a future partner prefers to have hair down there?’ I was prioritising someone else’s opinion over how I feel about having or not having hair. 

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I remember boys at school would tease girls who had hair on their arms, legs, upper lips and near the chin line. They would tell them they look like a boy. I know they didn’t know any better, as they were young boys growing up feeling insecure about their own hair as well. But how damaging is that to hear, as a girl growing up to find out who she is?

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I watched Russell Howard’s show “Recalibrate” on Netflix. He’s just an incredible comedian. He was talking about pubic hair and how young girls are pressured to be and look in a certain way. They thought having hair on their vagina looks horrible. This breaks my heart as I was one of them too.

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He makes a joke saying, “No men found himself in paradise and went, ‘Well this is lovely, but look at the lawn.’” 😃 

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It’s your body, your hair. You decide what you want to do or not do with it. No one can tell you what you should do with it. They might have a preference and that doesn’t mean anything about you or how your vagina looks. Your vagina is beautiful as it is. 

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Men are blessed to be around your naked body and your vagina. Don’t let them tell you either way. It is the most sacred part of your body and most intimate someone can be with you. They’re literally in you.

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Here’s a little process if you were shamed for your body or pubic hair:

- Close your eyes

- Imagine the person who shamed you, infront of you

- Say out loud everything you need to tell them to let go of this memory (alternatively write)

- Now see what their pain, their conditioning was, why did they behave that way?

- Forgiveness is always great, not to make them right, but to release heaviness from your side. If you feel to do so, forgive them.

- Imagine a cord between you, cut the cord woth your hands

- (Do this one by one or address a whole bunch of people collectively and cut the cord collectively.)

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It is never personal, only a conditioning ✨

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I believe this will change with women sharing how they feel about having or not having hair. Rather than men telling how it should be on a body or body part they don’t even have. I find it similar to expecting men to magically know how it feels to have a period, they can’t. Because they haven’t experienced it. Only women can tell them how it feels.

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I know many women who choose to grow their body hair. That’s beautiful. I know many women who choose to shave all the hair off their body. That’s beautiful too. Because women are beautiful, as they are 💃🏽

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I’m not saying throw away all your shavers and grow all your hair on your body and never shave, do whatever feels good for your body. 

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Now I shave my arms / legs / armpits with that bit of hair comes out after laser. Because I love how my skin feels and I’m actually grateful now that I did the laser. And I wax my pubic hair regularly after cupping my vagina telling her I love her, I’m here and this will hurt a bit, because that ‘painless’ wax is such a lie 😂

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Feel free to share this 🌹

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Loads of love to you all ❤️

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Painting by Georgia O’Keeffe

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💄 A MONTH WITHOUT MAKEUP 💄

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Today marks one month without wearing any makeup ❤️

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I grew up being told if you go out without make up, it’s disrespectful for other people. You haven’t put any effort in, meaning you don’t care about the person you’re meeting up with. It sounds ridiculous writing this but growing up it sounded legit. Ever since I was 15, I learnt to put makeup on my face every day. It just became a habit so I rolled with it.
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I had a week here and there when I was camping, in nature, or at a retreat and didn’t put makeup on. It felt weird initially, like something’s missing. I look like I just rolled out of bed. After few days though, it felt beautiful. I get to connect with and love my real face ❤️
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This time around, after 2-3 weeks of no makeup (not even ‘bit of mascara’), I swear, my eye lashes started to grow! Even my skin got better, my eyes started to shine a lot more. My face literally perked up. So I carried on until now ✨
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I keep hearing men sometimes find telling women ‘You’re beautiful’ a bit cheesy, assuming they hear it all the time. They might or might not hear it all the time, but it never is cheesy to hear it again. You have no idea how many incredibly beautiful women don’t find themselves beautiful. It might be a vulnerable thing to say but go for it ❤️
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I didn’t find myself beautiful without makeup at some point because I was disconnected from who I truly was. Now I’m super happy to say I can go out without makeup and feel beautiful and good in my body (I don’t really go out, but you know to 5rhythms class or something 😃)
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You might be in a workplace where you feel you have to wear makeup. Start with a week on holiday where you’re not putting anything on to try it out, to pass that initial resistant phase and see how your face will start to shine in it’s natural beauty 😍
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Another thing is how men treat you when you have no makeup on. If they don’t honour and treat you well without it, maybe have an open and honest conversation about your expectations and upbringings around how women should be. They are just beliefs many people took on board without questioning how they feel about them. They’re not the ultimate truth, and they don’t have to be your truth for sure.
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✨ You don’t have to do anything you don’t want to do. ✨
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If they honour and treat you well without makeup on, amazing. You should be treated like a queen, just as you are, with or without makeup 💃🏽
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I’m not saying throw away all your make up and never use it again 😃 If the desire to do so comes naturally, that’s amazing. Just don’t do it out of reaction. I love make up, I’ll probably use it in the future 😍 Just sharing how in awe I am for the result of not using makeup for a month 💄
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Your face is the only face you have and no one else has it. Give so much love to it ❤️
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Feel free to share this post 😘
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May you have a gorgeous week ahead 💛
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💃🏽 JUST BE YOU 💃🏽

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I hear this a lot, ‘just be you’. I say it a lot too actually 😃 

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But how can you actually just be yourself?

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Being yourself sometimes can be the hardest thing to be. You might feel you need to control yourself, you’re not allowed to be yourself, that’s just too risky.

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You might feel you need to be a certain way to receive love. You can’t rock the boat or create too much conflict, you need to do what you’re told and be a good girl/boy.

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Or you might feel you have to accommodate poeple and make sure they’re not uncomfortable. So you prefer to keep the peace and sacrifice being you once again for the sake of keeping everyone happy.

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So what do you do?

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You sacrifice being yourself in order to be in control, in order to receive love and in order to keep everyone happy. 

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The truth is by controlling yourself, you loose touch with your true self and when it comes to being yourself you might be clueless in what that feels like.

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And when you do receive love, you’re receiving that love to the masked version of you. Still you feel unloved because it’s not you they’re loving, it’s the rundown version of you. And still, everyone’s not happy, it’s never enough.

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And when you make other people uncomfortable when you’re yourself, you’re just showing them something they’ve been avoiding and they don’t like facing it. You’re actually serving them.

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I’m great at being a chameleon. I enter a room, scan the energy of the people, listen to the words they use, the way they move and quickly calculate how I should be there to not create too much of a contrast. I used to do this a lot to fit in. Now I do it to connect with people and really feel and see who they are, not to change my way of being around them. And I still fall back into it some days. I catch myself saying things I wouldn’t normally say and go, ‘who dis?’ and come back to myself 😃

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Two weeks ago at Boom festival, there was a woman I was dancing with for a bit. In the end she came up to me saying, ‘You’re so powerful and beautiful. You have so much strength. You activated something in me. I’m going to do my best to pass it on. Thank you so much. ’ 

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I had to have her repeat it to me as I wasn’t sure how she got all of that by me just dancing around. Then again, I saw it. By your way of being, by just being you, you can show people so much without even trying.

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Here are few ways to come back to yourself when you’re loosing touch with being yourself:

- Close your eyes, take a deep breath.

- As you exhale imagine you’re sending off anything that’s not you, all the beliefs, energies people might have put on you.

- As you inhale, imagine you’re gathering back all your energy, power you mught have given to people. Imagine you’re becoming whole as you inhale, feeling whole and complete.

- Ask yourself, ‘What would I do in this moment, if no one I knew existed?’ ‘Who would I love to be?’

- Go and do that, be that.

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When you see someone who are themselves unapologetically, they don’t have to explain you who they are. You just know it, feel it from their way of being. 

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I haven’t mastered this btw. I have days where I’m being me and loving who I am. Then I have days I doubt if I should wear my feather earrings to that formal dinner. But then I do 😉

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What do you celebrate, love or honour about yourself? 

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Comment below, let’s celebrate our uniqueness 💃🏽

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Loads of love to you all 💛✨

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💃🏽 THE INTEGRATED FEMININE RETREAT 💃🏽

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2 weeks ago Clara and I gave our first women’s retreat 😍

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What a ride has it been! We rode through the waves of emotions, our shadow, releasing emotions in a healthy way, owning our pleasure, connecting with our bodies through breath and being with other women.
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While we were birthing the workshop I was going through a breakup, my nan passed away and few other things happened. Clara had few things going on for her too. It was a great reminder of how you can create whatever you want no matter what’s going on in your life. No conditions have to exist for you to have what you want. You can be grieving and creating at the same time.
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It’s an honour to hold space for women sitting around in a circle, being open and vulnerable and willing to go there. It’s incredible what can be shifted in 2.5 days. Thank you all for showing up 😍❤️
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Thank you Natalie and Natalie for assisting with your wisdom, awareness, love and organisational skills 🙏🏼
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Thank you Nicola for pouring your heart out into your food and nourishing us during the weekend 😋
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And thank you my dear Clara, for reaching out to me, for making this dream a reality. Thank you for teaching me to trust and surrender a lot more 💜
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One of the participants said ‘I am all women and all women are me.’ There is no competition only celebration, We are so powerful as women, on our own too but when we come together, magic happens..
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How the retreat came together, unfolded and completed, showed this once again ✨
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Loads of love to you 💛