Feminine Power

We had another Goddess Circle tonight 😍

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When I went into architecture years ago, I wanted to create spaces where people feel connected and loved. Now I get to do exactly that, not in a way I thought I’d do, but in a much more true way ❤️

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I’d love to share what women said about tonight’s workshop:
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✨ “An incredible journey and opportunity to connect back to the real you again - a real act of compassion to oneself and allowing anything to be felt and experienced.”
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✨ “Isik offers a beautiful, safe space to explore anything that comes up for you and supports you as you work with or through it :)”
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✨ “Refreshing, calming, so nice to be able to release to give myself self love.”
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Goddess Circles are basically 3-6 women gathering in a loving and held space being guided through a journey including movement, meditation and breathwork, coming back to softness, surrender and self love ❤️
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The next one 👇🏼💃🏽
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Goddess Circle // Connect to Your Feminine Power:
25 Feb Monday
6:30-9:30pm
Buddha on a Bicycle, Covent Garden
£25
(5 spots left)
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Link to book ✨ https://www.brownpapertickets.com/event/4047197
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If you prefer to do just breathwork in a women and men mixed place with a big group, the next breathwork 👇🏼🔥
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Freedom Through Breath // A Breathwork Journey:
21 Feb Thursday
6:30-9:30pm
Centre 151, Haggerston
£25
(Half full)
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Link to book ✨ https://www.brownpapertickets.com/event/4053846
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See you there! 😘
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Wishing you a beautiful night 💙
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❤️ YOUR HEART vs YOUR MIND ❤️

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This post is for you if you’re independent, don’t like being vulnerable and struggle to let your guards down 🙏🏼

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I know exactly how you feel, because this is my default. I had to geniunely face myself and my fears to be vulnerable, open my heart and create intimacy in all my relationships not just the romantic ones. 

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You might let people in but only to an extent that you know you’re in control. If you’re aware of this, it shows that you owned that part of you. This is great because not everyone who controls want to admit that that’s what they do 😃 It’s also the first step to change it, to accept it.

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As a young girl or boy, maybe you decided it wasn’t safe to let people in. If you did, people hurt you, judged you, didn’t love you back or abandoned you. So you decided it’s so much better to keep people at a safe distance, be self-sufficient to the point you don’t need people to be close to you.

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This strategy might have served you at the time as a little girl or boy, but it might not be serving you anymore as a grown adult.

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So this conversation happens:

You: Ok guys, I want to start letting people in now 🤩

Your heart: Dude thank God, I’ve been waiting for this moment! 💖

Your mind: Yeah right. Here’s a spreadsheet of what happened when you wanted to let someone in for in the last 10 years. Enjoy 📊

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So there’s a conflict between your mind and your heart. Your mind is trying to keep you safe by keeping you do what you did in the past, while your heart knows what’s possible. It is longing for the openness, transparency and intimacy. 

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Here’s what you can do to start choosing your heart over your mind:

- Notice what your mind is telling you. (Need to control, fear of abandonment, being found out there’s something wrong about you etc)

- Notice what control, fear etc is telling you to do. Every emotion comes with an action.

- Close your eyes. Take a deep breath. Now imagine you’re breathing into your heart. You’re connecting with your heart. You don’t have to feel euphoric doing this. Just know that you’re in your heart space now.

- Ask you heart, “What would you love to do?” 

- Follow that heart ❤️

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See the two option clearly. 

One is fear based, one is love based. 

One is in the known, there’s no magic there.

One is the unknown, there’s shit loads of magic there. 

You decide ✨

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Have a mini notebook (or phone’s notes section) where you write down something magical happened synchronistically when you followed your heart. When your mind is winning, you can open this notebook and show your mind some solid proof. Talk in your mind’s language to calm it down - facts 😉 

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Plus your controlling side is going to love this new thing you can document and control 😂

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I find that this is number one struggle of women around intimacy - surrender ✨ 

It’s what we fear but what we most desire. I work with women around this in 1-1 coaching and breathwork sessions in how to surrender, not just to men but to life, living your truth in magic. Message me if you’re interested 😘

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Love you ❤️

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Yesterday I wrote 3173 words to my book 😍

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Then in the evening, I gave the best Goddess Circle I ever did 😍 I felt more me than I’ve ever been in a workshop, making silly jokes etc. Today after a coaching session, two breathwork sessions rescheduled themselves so I wrote 2024 more words.

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Between Goddess Circle, session and writing, I was crying my eyes out in deep grief, loss and sadness. And in this moment, I feel grateful ❤️

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✨ Grateful for these last two days
✨ Grateful for keep feeling through emotions even when it feels like it’ll never end
✨ Grateful for not holding onto magic moments, letting them come and go
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Sending you loads of love 🙏🏼
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❤️  Full Moon Women's Gathering ❤️ 

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Thank you Amanda Dutson for holding such a restful, rejuvinating and restoring full moon gathering last night 😍❤️ 

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It was beautiful to stay in a lovely room with women and switch from doing to being. This is our morning breakfast, it felt as if we left London for a night and went to a different land. 

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This is Amanda’s gift, creating spaces for women to slow down, connect and drop into silence where they know all the answers. Follow her for the next one, I’ll be there 😍
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Love you 💛

✋🏼 DON’T EVER DO THAT TO ANY WOMEN EVER AGAIN ✋🏼

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This might not be a comfortable post to read. I want to share something that happened a few weeks ago because it’s important.

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I was on the tube and I sat next to a guy who was sitting his legs wide spread, I sat normally my legs touching his as he was taking up the space in my seat. I forgot about it, put on my earphones and started listening to some music.

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A minute or so later, he started to rub his leg against mine very slowly to the point I think he assumed I wasn’t going to notice. I noticed it, obviously. I didn’t say anything, shocked how he can do such thing in public.

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Then he stopped. After a while he did the same thing again while the tube was moving. I said to myself, ‘Ok, if he does it again, I’m going to say something.’ He did it again. 

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I took a deep breath and I took out my earphones. As I did that, he immediately took his leg away and got uncomfortable. I turned my head to face him and asked, “What are you doing with your leg?” He looked away. I carried on looking at him breathing deeply. I said very calmly and slowly, “You know what you did. Don’t ever do that to any woman ever again.” 

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I turned my face forward, put back my earphones on and carried on listening to music. He kept his legs within where his seat was. Two stops later it was my stop, I got off feeling slightly paranoid he might follow me, he didn’t.

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As I got off, I thought how if this has happened to me, it must happen to so many women as well. So many times that maybe women don’t share it, feeling ashamed, scared or unsafe. Also not knowing, what to do in this kind of situation. 

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If you ever find yourself in a situation like this, here are some steps for you:

- Take 5 deep breaths, stay in your body. 

- Imagine you’re sending the breath to your centre, strengthening your core. Keep breathing.

- Notice what feels true to do, sometimes it’s saying something, sometimes it’s removing yourself etc . Whatever it is, don’t endure. You don’t have to tolerate what you don’t want.

- Breathe into your heart space. Now, if you want to say something, say it with presence and power coming from your heart space. Turn your anger into power that goes into your words so they can receive your words rather than shutting down or attacking back. You have as much strength and power as this person infront of you, if not more emotional strength and power.

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The truth is if you ever find yourself in a situation like this, it doesn’t mean anything about you. Know that no human would want to hurt or prey on other human unless they’re in pain or feeling hurt themselves. Saying that, it doesn’t make what they did right either. Of course it’s not right. 

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Not saying anything keeps this behaviour going. Even the slight “it’s ok, no big deal, happens all the time” is worth mentioning coming from fierce love, not from attacking. You have the ability to stop it. You are saying no, not just for yourself but for other women this person might go and do the same thing to.

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Your words and presence carry power. Use them 🔥

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I hope this post has given you something to reflect on today. Feel free to comment or share 🙏🏼

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Loads of love to you ❤️

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We had a Goddess Circle on Monday!

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We had a Goddess Circle on Monday, a beautiful, loving and surrendering experience of coming back to the body ❤️ Last one of this year is in 2 weeks and it’s sold out 🙏🏼 We’ll be starting again on the 28th of January 😍

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There are still few spots left for the breathwork journey tomorrow. If you’ve been feel a little frustrated, anxious, angry, sad or in grief lately, come and let’s feel them all together to transform them 💚 It’s a space where all emotions are welcome with no shame or judgement 🙏🏼
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“The only way out is through.” - Robert Frost
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Freedom Through Breath // A Breathwork Journey:
6:30-9:30pm
Centre 151, Haggerston
£25
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Link to book is below ✨
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https://www.brownpapertickets.com/event/3745467
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Wishing you a beautiful evening ✨
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I had a girly night out a week ago 💃🏽❤️ 

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I put make up on after 3 MONTHS, it felt weird and also felt good. I love the balance between cacao ceremonies, meditation, breathwork etc and getting dressed up, going out drinking, eating good food in a nice restaurant 🥂

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Expectation of the night was having dinner, getting drunk and dancing until 3am 🥂 Reality was we had dinner and 2 glasses of wine. We laughed, cried and had deep conversations. And I was home by 11pm, we partied hard 😂
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I love you Amanda 💗
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💞 THE SMALL THINGS IN LIFE 💞

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I emerged from my period tent 💫

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I like having few days off from sharing on social media. I’m either busy with sessions, either on my period, going inwards to feel and process something fully or just resting for no reason. Then I always come back feeling refreshed, rested and grounded.
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Right now, I’m here in this little secret garden I found in Clerkenwell, journaling and centring myself. I feel like if I don’t journal every few days, my mind doesn’t register to what happened in those past days, I literally forget 😃 So journaling is a necessity for me to function at my best really 🗝
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I felt so blessed to have found this garden cafe here and I remembered a similar feeling I had a week ago.
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It was right after a Goddess Circle workshop I gave. The workshop went amazing despite the speakers gave up halfway through. Then I went to Pret, sat down with my avocado brie toast. As I had the first bite, I started crying. I felt like I didn’t need anything else in that moment. I felt so content, so happy. It was one of those moments where if I died, I’d be complete, I’d be completely happy with what I did here. I’m going to create more obviously but it was a rare moment where I didn’t feel I could’ve done this, done that etc. I felt proud of the life I created so far.
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Then I started listing things that I’m grateful for in my life. I don’t have a gratitude journal or anything, but when I feel a moment of bliss, happiness, joy etc, I take a moment to put my hand on my heart and to feel it fully. Then I feel into other things in my life that make me feel this way. It feels like a love bubble surrounding me and getting bigger and bigger ❤️
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I love finding happiness in the little things as well as the big things. I’m feeling like that’s reaching a new level. It’s like my capacity to feel is expanding. I have incredible, in flow, aligned as fuck days where I go, ‘finally I’m back in my flow’ followed by a super scary, messy day where I feel like I’m loosing my shit. And I’m learning to accept the non linear style of life and complexity of human emotions 😃
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I’ve been receiving a constant flow of messages full of love and support since my dad died and I’m so grateful for all of them. Thank you all! I’m taking screenshots of it all to read again if I feel lonely or seperate 😉✨
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Wishing you a gorgeous rest of the day 😘❤️
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Love you 🌻
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🔻🔴 GODDESS CIRCLE MAGIC 🔴🔻

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I held a Goddess Circle last Monday.

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When I allow myself to feel rather than resisting, I realise I’m becoming more and more stronger in holding others through a similar journey.
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I love every single women who attends these Goddess Circles. I’m grateful for the open heart, courage, willingness to go there they bring with them and trust they have for me to hold them. We go on a journey of dancing, meditating and doing breathwork together. In the end of the breathwork, I always put my hand on their heart and pour love into them imagining them shining more and more.
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Love is an energy we can give freely without fear or expectation. I feel like it’s a powerful and infinite source that can shift anything. It’s an energy that can shine through our deepest fears, shame and darkness and bring into our lives what matters to us the most.
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If you swipe, you can see few of the participants share. I’m seeing over and over again, we all want to be loved, seen and heard as we are without being judged or shamed. This is a place you can feel that. In a space where you feel safe and loved, you are naturally your true self connected to your feminine power.
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It gives you an experience of what it feels like to be in your body, to feel your feminine energy and power so next time you’re in your head, you can access and come back to this feeling. It becomes a reference point for your body to remember.
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Taking the last feedback into account, they’ll be twice a month from now on ✨
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Next one will be on the 8th October, at my place in Golders Green. 4 SPACES LEFT.
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Here’s the link to book:
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https://www.brownpapertickets.com/event/3625967
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There are always 6 women max as it creates a beautiful, safe and sacred space full of love ❤️
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Have a beautiful rest of the day 💛
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Love you 😘
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💃🏽 CONFIDENCE: BEING YOURSELF💃🏽

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Video: https://www.facebook.com/isik.tlabar/posts/10160864658090300?__tn__=K-R

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Confidence is owning all that you are and showing up in the world saying “This is who I am.” ❤️

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One of the most common things I come across people say in sessions and workshops is in some form or another, “I want to be myself. Sometimes, I don’t know who I am.”

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Confidence starts with being yourself. I don’t believe you can fake until you make it. People can tell that you’re faking it, they’re not stupid. And you definitely know that you’re faking it 😃 so what’s the point of that when you can start from where you’re at? Sometimes being yourself is being in silence. You don’t have to express your opinion about everything all the time. Or you don’t have to be loud to be or feel confident. No confident person ever tried to prove they’re confident anyway.

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When you see someone being themselves, it gives you the permission to do the same in your own way. You might have heard this quote by Marianne Williamson, 

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“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

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It’s probably my favourite quote to date ❤️

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As children we felt free, we lived in the moment. We didn’t worry about how we looked or what people thought about us. We were so busy being ourselves, having fun and enjoying the world. What if we kept that outlook on life? What if we didn’t doubted or questioned ourselves?

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I saw ‘I Feel Pretty’ last week. I loved it so much that I watched it again. It’s about how we pressure ourselves to look a certain way, especially women, how we criticise ourselves constantly beating ourselves up. When we look at someone we can see what makes them, them, in their unique way but when it comes down to ourselves, we’re our worst critics.

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✨ Who would you be if no one you knew existed?✨

Who you are is you, better than all the comparisons and shoulds because no one is you. No one has your face, your ideas, your energy, your creativity. Even if its a similar idea that is done before, it’s not you who’s doing it, your energy matters. 

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✨ What would you do if rejection didn’t exist? ✨

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Rejection is another thing. When it happens, we make it personal about us. Even if we knew deep down, that person wasn’t right for us, now on top of that you feel rejected, unwanted and unloved. The truth is it doesn’t mean anything about you, and it’s time to find someone who will cherish you for who you are.

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Another thing is you don’t have to believe in yourself all the time. I definitely don’t. All you need is 1-2 cheerleaders by your side as a reminder of what you already know, deep down. They can be your friend, lover, your coach, someone that will tell you, “I believe in you. You’re a shining star and you got this.” And some days its you, telling yourself.

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Here’s a process for you:

- Stand infront of a mirror and look into your eyes

- Keep breathing

- Think of something you like about yourself and say it to yourself out loud

- It can be small or big, physical or anything else. To take it to the next level, do this once a day every day for a week and see what you come up with 🤩 you might even hug yourself by the end of it 🌹

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If you want to feel what it feels like to be yourself, with no judgement or shame, come do breathwork with me on the 20th next week. If you know what that feels like, come join anyway. Let’s go deeper, find parts of you that you didn’t know was there. And all you’re doing is breathing ✨

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Make sure to book your ticket if you want to join, we’re half full now. Here’s the link to book:

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https://www.brownpapertickets.com/event/3600217

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You might get caught up in your imperfections and completely miss what makes you amazing until someone points it out.

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So tag a friend and comment below. What do you love about them? What makes them, them? Let’s celebrate each other 😍❤️

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Loads of love to you 😘

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🎧 by Monolink - The End

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