️ WHAT I DO IN 1-1 SESSIONS  ️

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I’m wrapping up the year on the 19th December for my 1-1 sessions. I realised I haven’t share on here what I do in my private sessions. So here they are:

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I’ve been going to trainings, doing self-help work since I was 14. I don’t really talk about this but I’ve learnt so much in personal growth, psychology, shamanism, spiritual growth, tantra, embodiment practices, energy healing, coaching etc. in the last 12 years. You name a modality, I most probably did it and actually applied it. I’m familiar with what’s out there, what works, what doesn’t. Whenever I learnt something new, I learnt it as if I was going to teach it to someone and I did. This way I learnt it quick and applied it straight away to see if it works.

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I brought in all those teachings I came across over the years and put in the bits that are most valuable, appliable and reliable. When you book a session with me you get all of that. Your time is the number one thing I value. So when someone books a session with me, when they give me their time, I give back a lot. I give everything I got without holding back. For that reason I say sessions are between 1-1.5 hours to have the freedom of not finishing until it feels complete. 

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I’m to the point, clear, time efficient while being loving, compassionate and welcoming. Obviously I’m still a human, but I can say I bring in the balance of masculine and feminine together in the sessions. Being direct while being loving and keeping you accountable while being compassionate.

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TRANSFORMATIONAL COACHING 

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Knowing what’s true and what’s not true is a skill that if you master it for the rest of your life and absolutely not learn anymore modalities, you will be successful in your life. If you know when it’s your Ego, distractions or when it’s the truth, your Higher Self, your true self, you have the power. From there, you can choose where to put your energy create what you desire. I am very grateful for SuperGenius trainings for teaching me this skill.

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I guide you in how to do this in your life on a practical level. It’s about receiving a true answer from your intuition and grounding it with an inspired action. It is about empowering you to find your own answers. No one can tell you what is right for you but they can empower you to find your own answers. This is exactly what I do in those sessions. That’s why they’re transformational, your turn your life around, you start trusting yourself and start finding what you love, what you don’t love.

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In these sessions, we focus on something specific in your life and we tend to go into all areas of your life. How you do one thing, you do everything the same way.

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If you’re a coach/healer/facilitator, I work with you too in starting your business, getting clear in what you’re offering and building the momentum of your business. Sometimes you might want to do so many things and not know where to start from. I guide you and keep you focused for the times you might doubt or distract yourself. Your business will reflect your subconscious mind. Starting and growing your business, if you’re willing to go deep, is a wonderful opportunity to grow as a human being. It teaches you so much about yourself. 

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These sessions are held at my place in Golders Green or online via phone or Skype.

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EXPERIENTIAL HEALING 

(Now called “The Sayer Method”)

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This is a healing modality that actually works.

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I’ve done many healing modalities and I found this one modality my friend Duke Sayer created, combining NLP, Hypnotherapy, inner child work, past life regression, Theta healing, cord cutting etc. It’s a one full package of clearing what’s holding you back from being yourself and expressing your gifts in the world. 

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It brings you back to a moment for example where you decided you are unloved, you can’t make a difference in the world, there is something wrong with you. You acknowledge what happened, you feel it. After acknowledging, releasing sadness, anger, or whatever emotions is there, you see why your Ego was holding onto it for so long, you integrate the lesson and you release it, forgive the people in the situation and yourself, talk to younger self, Future self and you integrate further. Every time I do it, I finish with a future vision to move forward to replace what has been released.

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Of course you can’t clear everything in one session, but after 1-2 hours of this modality, you’ll feel and even look different. I don’t believe something can be cleared in a session, there are deeper layers of releasing to come back to your truth. I hold that process as deep as it can go in one session, in a loving and empowered way by leaving you connected and clear in the end of the session.

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This modality can be the focus of the session to release a pattern or it can be used within the transformational coaching. When you’re growing and stepping up, your Ego doesn’t step aside and goe, “Oh I’ll just wait here, here is your purpose.” It brings up your stuff. This is when this process is gold so you can finally release the density that’s holding you back so you can shine bright.

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It’s powerful. I’ve been grateful for my ex partner and friend Aaron for doing this process on each other in the first year of our relationship whenever there was a trigger. It was intense and very healing. Thanks to that, we grew so much. I started my own business, my relationship with my parents transformed and I am able to write and share posts I thought I could never share. I’m ever grateful for Duke  

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These sessions are held at my place in Golders Green or online via phone or Skype. Face to face is recommended as you might need a hug afterwards  ️ 

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BREATHWORK SESSIONS

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I’ve been doing breathwork for the last 7 years, I started with an incredible practitioner in Istanbul in transformational breathwork, by releasing my supressed anger in a healthy way rather than random passive aggression or dominance. Then I practiced biodynamic breathwork, shamanic breathwork, rebirthing over the past years.

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I took the elements from each one that resonated with me and made a version combining with emotional release, energy work and body work. 

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In those sessions, all of you is welcome. Any old emotions, old wounds, old energies stuck in your body is felt and released. Parts you abandoned, feel ashamed of can exist here to be seen and then released through breath, sound and movement. It allows you to embrace and love all of you. These sessions can also be very empowering, connecting you to your power and strength, giving you clarity in moving forward.

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I hold sessions at my place in Golders Green, London. 

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INTUITIVE VISION READINGS

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This is a process I use in the transformational coaching sessions. I started offering them seperately lately as I met many people that have done so much healing work and they still feel lost. This is because they don’t have a vision to work towards.

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When you’re driving, if you’re looking at a tree at the side of the road, you’re going to drive into the tree. If you look at the road, you will stay on the road. Similarly, when you have a vision of where you want to go, as you put your energy into it and focus towards it, naturally you’ll end up there.

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No matter how much healing work you do, if you don’t have a vision to work towards, you’ll be lost.

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These readings are either focused on your vision in relationship or your gifts. They are in written 500 words format being sent to you.

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The sessions are all confidential. Whatever you share with me, stays with me. No one even knows who I’m working with unless they share themselves. Everything stays with me. There is no judgment or shame anywhere so all of you is welcome.

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If you have any questions or feel called to work with me 1-1, message me. I’d love to support and empower you ️:)

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Have a gorgeous week!

✨ MAGIC OF THE DAY ✨

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Yesterday I assisted my dear friend Natalie on her guided ecstatic dance event in Re:Centre. 

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As I walked towards the venue, I had a feeling I’ve been on that exact road before. Then I realised I have been! 3 years ago, when I was looking for jobs in architecture, I used to go around offices leaving job applications. As I approached the venue, I realised that a huge architecture office I went into (Rogers Stirk Harbour + Partners) was now turned into this venue 🤗
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As I was dancing at the event, I felt a deep sense of gratitude for following my truth no matter how scary and unknown it felt, leaving architecture to go into coaching, leading workshops etc.
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If you want to do something that is so close to your heart, do it. Just take one step forward, then another and another. It doesn’t have to be perfect and you don’t have to feel confident either 🙏🏼
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There is a Zen proverb that I love, “Leap and the net will appear.” 💛
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Wishing you a beautiful evening 😘
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Love you ❤️
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We held a breathwork journey last Thursday 😍

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I’m seeing more and more self love is more than just taking baths, getting a massage etc. They’re amazing, I love them, but it’s also about going into your darkness, accepting those parts of yourself you don’t want anyone to find out. 

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Growing up, I believed anger was a bad emotion and I felt guilt and shame whenever I felt it, especially towards people I loved. Now I see, anger when integrated, coming from a higher place, is actually power and strength.
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There are always two sides to things. Our pain becomes our greatest strength when we see the lesson, forgive and let go of the story. Our shame becomes compassion. Our fear becomes courage. Our grief becomes freedom.
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I’m grateful to have created a space where people get to see parts of themselves they don’t normally allow themselves to see, where they release old emotions, old stories, old identity and where they get to be themselves with no shame or judgment and come back to self love through breathwork 😍
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The next one and the LAST one of this year is on the 6th of December, Thursday. Would love to have you there 🙏🏼
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Here’s the link to book your place:
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https://www.brownpapertickets.com/event/3819608
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I’m so grateful for this amazing team Natalie Ford, Octavia McDonald, Natalie Peire, Conch O'Bar and Inka Linda, who choose to do the work on themselves as they empower others to do the same. Thank you and love you all ❤️
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Wishing you a beautiful Sunday ☀️💛
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We had a Goddess Circle on Monday!

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We had a Goddess Circle on Monday, a beautiful, loving and surrendering experience of coming back to the body ❤️ Last one of this year is in 2 weeks and it’s sold out 🙏🏼 We’ll be starting again on the 28th of January 😍

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There are still few spots left for the breathwork journey tomorrow. If you’ve been feel a little frustrated, anxious, angry, sad or in grief lately, come and let’s feel them all together to transform them 💚 It’s a space where all emotions are welcome with no shame or judgement 🙏🏼
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“The only way out is through.” - Robert Frost
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Freedom Through Breath // A Breathwork Journey:
6:30-9:30pm
Centre 151, Haggerston
£25
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Link to book is below ✨
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https://www.brownpapertickets.com/event/3745467
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Wishing you a beautiful evening ✨
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I went to 6 5rhythms dance classes this week ❤️

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It was beautiful. Going into new classes is like joining a new community, a new family for 2 hours. It was also exhausting, after 4 classes my legs felt like they had a leg day at the gym 😃

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After trying so many things, for me writing and dancing are two ways I get to be with myself, sit with my feelings honestly and transform them into something else.
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In yesterday’s class, one of the teachers Ajay quoted Gabrielle Roth, “Turn your suffering into art.” It’s about going into your pain and creating something out of it. Also reminds me of the Rumi saying, “The light is through the wound.”
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I saw this week once again you can feel sad and feel joyful at the same time. You can grieve and celebrate at the same time. It’s not black and white. Whatever it is, allow it. Know that it will transform into something else eventually. Trust it ❤️
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How do you feel and process your emotions lovelies?
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Loads of love to you ✨
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I had a girly night out a week ago 💃🏽❤️ 

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I put make up on after 3 MONTHS, it felt weird and also felt good. I love the balance between cacao ceremonies, meditation, breathwork etc and getting dressed up, going out drinking, eating good food in a nice restaurant 🥂

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Expectation of the night was having dinner, getting drunk and dancing until 3am 🥂 Reality was we had dinner and 2 glasses of wine. We laughed, cried and had deep conversations. And I was home by 11pm, we partied hard 😂
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I love you Amanda 💗
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✨ MAGIC OF THE DAY ✨

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I was sitting at this cafe the other day, doing my morning pages that slightly turned into afternoon pages. They’re 3 pages of journaling of whatever comes to your mind, like a brain dump. Julia Cameron created them.

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Then a lovely woman approached me asking me what I was writing about so intensely 😃 I told her, turns out she does the morning pages too! We started chatting, she asked me what I listen to when I write, I showed her this playlist:
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https://open.spotify.com/…/spotify/…/37i9dQZF1DX3Ogo9pFvBkY…
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Yesterday we met up for a coffee at the same cafe, she’s beautiful and we had a lot to talk about from writing, creativity to self discovery ❤️
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If you want to go up and talk to a stranger, do it. You never know where it might lead you ☺️
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Have a beautiful afternoon 💛
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💫 SURRENDER TO YOUR EMOTIONS 💫

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I’m learning the balance of allowing myself to feel sadness, grief and loss while creating and doing my work. I have no control over this at the moment. The more I surrender to my emotions, the more they transform and I’m able to create from that space. 

Life comes with it’s highs and lows. People mostly share about the highs which I find is easy to share. I don’t see many people sharing about lows openly and honestly until I meet up with them and they tell me that’s exactly how they felt 😃 Maybe it’s because of not wanting to go there again or maybe the desire to be vulnerable to a controlled extent where they still get to keep their appearances. 

The lows are where you become who you are. They’re the your stones that turn into diamonds. They’re the richness of life, raw, real and vulnerable.

The most loving and compassionate people I met are the ones who went through hell, who faced their darkness, their lows and went out from the other side, transformed. You don’t become a beautiful person by only experiencing happiness, joy, bliss etc. You can’t have depth with only experiencing these emotions. If you only allow yourself to feel those ones, you’re living your life in denial, removed from life itself. You’re not living fully.

What doesn’t kill you doesn’t always make you stronger. It can make you a closed hearted, resentful, fearful and angry person towards life as well. But when you accept what’s happening and surrender, you grow from it. The more you resist it, the more it’s going to carry on.

Especially if you menstruate and bleed regularly, before and during period is a time where all your stuff comes up. If you look closely, that period pain is telling you something. That feeling of loneliness, sadness etc is there to be felt fully. Allow it before you jump to wanting to fix it. Painkillers are not the answer.

Over the years, especially when I was small, I learnt to be joyful and interested to make friends. And I got good at it. I can make friends with anyone. I love that side of me which is being a social butterfly. It makes me feel alive and connected. 

I also have a super depressed side to me that just doesn’t want anything to do with life. It wants to hide in a room, curl up into a ball and not exist for a while. In that egoic pattern, I can’t even cry. I don’t feel, I’m completely numb and apathetic.

Now I’m learning to accept that side, talk to it, write about it, love it and transform it. Every emotion moves through you when you allow it ❤️

Acceptance is the key. If you’re not accepting as life shows you things, you can’t move forward. You’re stuck. Accept that your loved one passed away, accept that you’ve been cheated on, accept that your friend stabbed you in the back. For your own freedom, see the situation for what it is without putting a meaning to it.

I saw a beautiful friend of mine last week. After catching up, she told me I felt more loving, grounded and accepting. See in my head, everything is turning upside down and I’m loosing my shit. If you feel like that, have an honest reflection from a close friend and don’t beat yourself up. You might be doing so much better than you think you are 😉

Here’s how you can process emotions like sadness, loss, grief:

- Accept that you feel sad. Even this can be revolutionary if you usually deny your sadness. It doesn’t mean anything, it just mean that you feel sad. You’re a human with emotions.

- Close your eyes. Take 5 deep breaths into your belly while allowing the feeling to be there. 

- If you feel teary, let those tears come. If you feel rage, let the rage be there.

- Out loud, say how you feel, to the person you’re angry at, or to yourself while feeling sad. Say anything else that wants to come out.

- Hold and hug yourself.

- (If you find it challenging to get into the feeling, start writing how you feel and let the feeling talk without censoring.)

And remember, after a low, there’s always a high. Crying is not weak, it’s powerful. It’s a gift for yourself from yourself in form of a beautiful release. After big good cries I always feel lifted, calm, grounded and happy. I feel joy starting to come in again in mini waves. 

If you have a job and have things to do, allow yourself that 30 min to feel, to not do anything but to be with your pain like you would do for a friend. Whenever I go inwards, cry, write, someone books their place in my workshop or wants to have a session with me. Always. It happened today as I wrote this post.

Any unprocessed emotions will stay in your body until you feel it fully. It’s the fear of feeling we’re scared of. Once you’re in it, it’s not actually that bad. But the disconnection you have from feeling reveals itself as chronic pain, a disease, numbness. It can even effect your face. For example the left side of your face can change becoming heavier.

I went to 5rhythms movement class the other day. One of the dancers just got qualified in teaching, so the teacher invited her into the huge circle of maybe 70 people. She went in with pure joy, ecstasy, celebrating herself and her success. Then she invited everyone else to join in. Few people joined in. Everyone else was clapping in the outside circle. I watched them, I watched the people in the middle dancing, smiling and laughing. That’s when it hit me:

✨ In life, you have to participate ✨

Whatever it is, wherever you are, however you’re feeling, bring that into your life. Don’t exclude your sadness, your insecurities, include them. Show them to people, love them. 

If you want to feel your emotions fully and transform any heaviness, shame, frustration, sadness, come to breathwork next Thursday, the 15th. Bring all of you to the table. Even the parts you don’t accept or love about you as they will hunt you back until you learn to love them ❤️

Make sure to book your ticket if you want to join, we’re half full now. Here’s the link to book:

https://www.brownpapertickets.com/event/3745467

Happy new moon, a new beginning 🌕 

Sending you so much love and big hugs 💛

⭐️ SHARING FROM ABUNDANCE ⭐️

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This post is for you guys, you coaches, teachers. healers, practitioners, speakers, givers ❤️ 

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It’s about sharing from abundance (love) rather than sharing from lack (fear).

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In the end of the breathwork journeys I hold, I always promote the assistants’ events or offerings. I send a follow up email the next day to recommend events I’ve been to and found them powerful.

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This is something I do naturally since I was a kid. Whatever I have, I’d share it without wanting anything in return.

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When people ask me how I get clients or fill my breathwork and women’s events, I don’t have a specific answer. Breathwork ones are the most magical ones, they bring me alive. Of course there are practicals I do such as creating a fb event, inviting people in and sending a newsletter twice a month to 400 subscribers. Then maybe a post here and there. But that’s pretty much it.

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Behind the scenes, what I do is, I imagine 20-28 people in the room, breathing, going into their darkest places, feeling it all, releasing and coming back to their full power. I imagine this a month before the event, 3 weeks before, the week before, when I’m on the bus, when I’m eating my breakfast, I send love to those people I haven’t met yet. Love is the most powerful force on the planet. It transforms everything, it’s magnetic. And those people show up.

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Last breathwork we held was 23 people, I didn’t know half the room, they were all referrals. This is what happens with love, it rippels out to people you don’t even know ❤️

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You can’t use love as a way to manipulate to get what you want. Same as you can’t manipulate yourself into feeling grateful. It has to be natural. It has to come from your heart, from a pure place of no expectations. I don’t expect the room to fill up, but I imagine people coming back to themselves, loving themselves. That’s all I want, a world where people feel they can be themselves ✨

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It’s easy to assume that there are limited amount of people you can help. If there is a potential person who can attend your event, it can be tempting to hold onto them and resent them when they don’t turn up after saying they will. Remember, people don’t owe you anything. Set them free. They can change their minds and that’s ok. There are billions of people on this planet and there is never too many coaches, healers to help people. It’s now more than ever we need you guys. To step in to serve and give.

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✨ What if people copy me?✨

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That’s actually a good thing. It shows that what you’re doing is working. Focus on serving rather than worrying other people stealing your stuff. When people copy you, they can never copy you fully. They’re not you, they don’t embody your energy. 

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Nothing belongs to you. You don’t own anything. You are in a way a channel for love and wisdom to move through you. Let it flow. A dear client of mine I haven’t seen in few months, reached out and told me that she’s been sharing what I told her, “You teach what you struggle with the most.” It made me cry with gratitude as I don’t even remember saying that but it reached a deep part of her that she’s sharing it now with others.

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✨But I’m not healed yet, how can I help others? ✨

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You can choose to wait until “you’ve healed yourself” but that’s never going to happen. All you need is to come to a point where you have awareness about your Ego, remove yourself from it for a moment, so you can help someone in a similar situation.

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I can be in deep grief and help someone process their grief. It’s authentic, it’s real because I’ve been there, I’ve felt it. Embodying it is much more powerful than having the knowledge. Being human is much more important than being an expert. Since my dad’s death, I’m able to hold more sadness and grief in the space. 

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Sometimes in the beginning of a workshop, I tell the participants I’m in deep grief and let’s do this. You don’t have to be this incredible and perfect leader, you just have to show up as you are. They signed up for this, because of your energy. Not the venue, not the music, not the assistant, but you. This is your creation 🔥

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If you want to learn how to operate from love and have a natural abundance in your business through giving and surrender, I offer coaching and healing (that actually works) for you spaceholders, coaches, healers, speakers. I’m offering a 20% discount until the end of the year. If you’re interested, just message me.

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Feel free to share this post if it resonated with you ❤️

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Sending you love and blessings 🙏🏼✨

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✨ A NEW BEGINNING ✨

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I got a new tattoo last week!

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It’s a butterfly that was flying around at my dad’s funeral 1.5 months ago. It was there for 20 minutes, even when it was raining a little.
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I love how when butterflies come out from the cocoon, they actually need to rip the cocoon themselves to strengthen their wings. If you go and rip it for them, they die. It’s in the hardship they strengthen their beautiful wings.
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I like having a tattoo as a ritual, to have an intention that will go into it and will remind me every time I look at it.
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This one’s about many things. It’s about the hardship that makes you beautiful and who you are when you surrender. It’s about my dad’s love and presence as well as my masculine love and presence being with me. It’s about not needing validation from men anymore.
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I have a low pain threshold and it hurt like hell. So I kept repeating the words like mantra, strength and grace, empowered action, new beginning, masculine love and presence ✨
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Thank you Andrea Giulimondi Tattooer for the beautiful art 🙏🏼
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Here’s to a new beginning. It’s time to fly ✨
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Loads of love to you ❤️
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