🌈 FROM STRESS TO ABUNDANCE 🌈

I realised I never wrote about stress until it came up in a session I was giving.

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You might feel like there is so much to do and not enough time. You might feel like you need to be doing something all the time. So you might keep yourself busy just to be busy because not doing anything doesn’t get an acknowledgement.
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Or you might feel when you have money, you need to hold onto it because who knows the next time it will come your way. There’s never enough of it. Similarly with time, there’s never enough time.
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The truth is there isn’t lack of anything. People who made a difference in the world, had the exact time as you have. They weren’t just ‘lucky’. They created their future as if their life depended on it and so can you.
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You are an infinite being connected to everything through all time and space. So when you tell yourself,
- I don’t have energy
- I don’t have time
- I don’t have money
Well, you don’t have energy, time or money because that is what you’re telling yourself.
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For example, when you’re driving, you’re looking at the road so you keep driving on that road. But if you look at the tree next to the road and if you keep looking, sooner or later you’ll end up your car there.
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You have the power to shift your focus to where you want to go. When you tell yourself, “I’m stressed.” you will be even more stressed. I’m not saying bypass, be delusional and just pretend its ok. Acknowledge the situation then know that you can turn that around.
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Follow these steps next time you’re stressed or feeling panicky:
- Become aware that you're stressed.
- Close your eyes, take a deep breath.
- Take another deep breath.
- Imagine you are connecting to the source above your head and infinite amount of energy pouring down on you. You’re held.
- Ask "What’s the number one priority right now?" (If you’re in the middle of getting things done)
- Do that before thinking about anything else
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If you don’t always catch yourself in midst of stress, that’s ok too. Give yourself a hug and try again next time. Be kind to yourself. Just don’t overdo it and use kindness towards yourself as a way of escaping taking responsibility though 😁
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Know that it’s absolutely ok. Even when you’re feeling like your whole world is falling apart, it is going to be ok. You’re probably shifting and at the edge of a breakthrough. You can shrink and loose this opportunity or you can embrace it with open arms knowing that you have everything you need inside of you.
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Love you ❤️
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💞 THE SMALL THINGS IN LIFE 💞

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I emerged from my period tent 💫

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I like having few days off from sharing on social media. I’m either busy with sessions, either on my period, going inwards to feel and process something fully or just resting for no reason. Then I always come back feeling refreshed, rested and grounded.
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Right now, I’m here in this little secret garden I found in Clerkenwell, journaling and centring myself. I feel like if I don’t journal every few days, my mind doesn’t register to what happened in those past days, I literally forget 😃 So journaling is a necessity for me to function at my best really 🗝
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I felt so blessed to have found this garden cafe here and I remembered a similar feeling I had a week ago.
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It was right after a Goddess Circle workshop I gave. The workshop went amazing despite the speakers gave up halfway through. Then I went to Pret, sat down with my avocado brie toast. As I had the first bite, I started crying. I felt like I didn’t need anything else in that moment. I felt so content, so happy. It was one of those moments where if I died, I’d be complete, I’d be completely happy with what I did here. I’m going to create more obviously but it was a rare moment where I didn’t feel I could’ve done this, done that etc. I felt proud of the life I created so far.
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Then I started listing things that I’m grateful for in my life. I don’t have a gratitude journal or anything, but when I feel a moment of bliss, happiness, joy etc, I take a moment to put my hand on my heart and to feel it fully. Then I feel into other things in my life that make me feel this way. It feels like a love bubble surrounding me and getting bigger and bigger ❤️
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I love finding happiness in the little things as well as the big things. I’m feeling like that’s reaching a new level. It’s like my capacity to feel is expanding. I have incredible, in flow, aligned as fuck days where I go, ‘finally I’m back in my flow’ followed by a super scary, messy day where I feel like I’m loosing my shit. And I’m learning to accept the non linear style of life and complexity of human emotions 😃
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I’ve been receiving a constant flow of messages full of love and support since my dad died and I’m so grateful for all of them. Thank you all! I’m taking screenshots of it all to read again if I feel lonely or seperate 😉✨
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Wishing you a gorgeous rest of the day 😘❤️
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Love you 🌻
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My Weekend..

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Thank you Jamie Francisco and Kat for a gorgeous all night gong bath last night. It was beautiful, restful exactly what I needed. Just laying there nothing to do, nowhere to go 💛 I’m getting so much better at resting 😍 It’s an incredible offering to have this blissful 8 hours sound journey after a contact improv class. You guys are amazing 🤘🏼

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Followed by spending a day with Ryan’s SuperGenius community connecting with what we would love to create and hanging out with those beautiful people, feeling inspired 🧘🏽‍♂️
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Then I met up with Maya, Isis and Iara , my friends from university I haven’t seen for ages! Love you girls ❤️
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So looking forward to going into my bed now to watch Friends 😍 That has become a thing for weekends for me. Friends or Rick & Morty 😃👍🏼 Living life on edge, yes.
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Have a gorgeous evening 💫
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💫 MAGIC OF THE DAY 💫

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I’m going to an all night gong bath tonight. I wanted to have some cacao to drink before and I ran out of them. I always buy my cacao from Ashaninka Cacao (Rebekah Shaman), it’s the best!

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So I emailed her team if it was possible to have it delivered in 2 days to where I live, Golders Green. I didn’t hear from them for a day and I left it thinking, “Ok it’s not happening.”. This morning Rebekah emailed back saying she’ll be in Golders Green today anyway 😍 And she was somewhere 5 minutes walking distance from me! Cacao magic literally came to me ❤️ I got my cacao and I’m super happy on my way to the gong bath ✨
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Whatever you’re up to, have an awesome weekend! Celebrate the little things 💛
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🔻🔴 GODDESS CIRCLE MAGIC 🔴🔻

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I held a Goddess Circle last Monday.

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When I allow myself to feel rather than resisting, I realise I’m becoming more and more stronger in holding others through a similar journey.
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I love every single women who attends these Goddess Circles. I’m grateful for the open heart, courage, willingness to go there they bring with them and trust they have for me to hold them. We go on a journey of dancing, meditating and doing breathwork together. In the end of the breathwork, I always put my hand on their heart and pour love into them imagining them shining more and more.
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Love is an energy we can give freely without fear or expectation. I feel like it’s a powerful and infinite source that can shift anything. It’s an energy that can shine through our deepest fears, shame and darkness and bring into our lives what matters to us the most.
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If you swipe, you can see few of the participants share. I’m seeing over and over again, we all want to be loved, seen and heard as we are without being judged or shamed. This is a place you can feel that. In a space where you feel safe and loved, you are naturally your true self connected to your feminine power.
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It gives you an experience of what it feels like to be in your body, to feel your feminine energy and power so next time you’re in your head, you can access and come back to this feeling. It becomes a reference point for your body to remember.
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Taking the last feedback into account, they’ll be twice a month from now on ✨
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Next one will be on the 8th October, at my place in Golders Green. 4 SPACES LEFT.
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Here’s the link to book:
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https://www.brownpapertickets.com/event/3625967
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There are always 6 women max as it creates a beautiful, safe and sacred space full of love ❤️
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Have a beautiful rest of the day 💛
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Love you 😘
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🔥 POWER OF BREATHWORK 🔥

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The day after my dad’s funeral, I flew back to London. Two days after that, on Thursday, I held a breathwork journey.

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I could’ve cancelled it. But I had so many moments this year where I felt deep loss and grief and the evening of that day I had a workshop to hold, a session or something. And I showed up. So I had so many moments I’ve done this already and I know I can do it again.
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People think they have to feel great to do something. They don’t. You just have to show up as you, not this amazing leader, “got it all together” robot. I gave the most transformational workshops or sessions when I wasn’t feeling at my best. I was choosing serving over my own pain which helped my pain anyway. Because I was creating. When you create or serve, you’re naturally in a higher vibration.
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No matter how powerful, transformational a workshop goes, even when the participants express that, there’s a part of me feels that it’s never enough. I’m learning to be gentle with that part of me. Rather than being hard on myself, I’m learning to use it as a drive to improve my offerings. That voice is truly a gift to me today, otherwise I wouldn’t have grown this much to this day.
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I feel so much better today thanks to that breathwork. Elizabeth Gilbert shared about constant creative response in her talk in London few months ago. Nature is in constant creation, when a disaster happens it doesn’t stop rivers from flowing or trees from giving fruits. It adapts and continues it’s life.
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We’re the same. Whatever happens in your life, you can adapt and adjust. And your best today might not be your best yesterday. It’s about doing your best in where you are right now.
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I couldn’t have done this breathwork without this incredible team: Aaron, Octavia & Daisie, who are willing to go deep and experience all of life so they can serve back to people ❤️
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If you swipe, you can see one of the participants share. There was an overall theme of sadness, loss, grief at the breathwork journey. When we know the space is safe our bodies naturally unwind and process any unprocessed emotions from the past. Only way out is through. We’re just creating a safe and loving space for you to do that 🙏🏼
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The next one’s on the 25th October. If you book before Tuesday with the code DISCOUNT you get £5 off ✨
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Here’s the link to book:
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https://www.brownpapertickets.com/event/3621581
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And if you need a good cry, Journey’s End - Parijat is for you 💛
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Have a beautiful week ahead 🌹
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❤️ MY DAD’S FUNERAL ❤️

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A week ago today, my dad passed away suddenly from a heart attack. 

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I was camping Saturday when my mum called me to say dad had a heart attack. He was in emergency and not responding. 

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It’s a weird feeling to hear something like that. I never had any situation like that in my life. I was in disbelief, sadness, anger, frustration, loss all at the same time. 12 hours after that he passed away.

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On Sunday, I flew to Istanbul. The next day was the day the funeral was happening. In Turkey, the funeral is 1-2 days after the person dies. It’s all a bit intense to have everything happen in 2 days but it also helps you accept and come to terms sooner. Everything that happened that day I experienced for the first time and it’s a day with a full on itinerary.

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Monday morning, mum and I picked up my aunt and went to the cemetery where they wash bodies before burying them. My uncle came over with two family friends. We waited there while my dad was being washed. While we waited, I ran into a guy from my primary school, he lost his nan the day before. It was a funny conversation to have asking each other, “My nan passed away. How about you?”. But even in those moments you can find humour.

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I wanted to see my dad’s body to say goodbye and to accept that he’s not here anymore rather than thinking he’s here and we’re just not talking to each other. It was lovely, he looked like a baby, super peaceful. Then they wrapped him up, put him in a box covered with prayers in Arabic (irony is dad was deist) to be transferred to a mosque for the afternoon prayers and the funeral.

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That day I saw that you can cry and laugh at the same time. There were moments at the funeral where I laughed then cried. Some of the conversations I had there had a half cocktail half funeral vibe to it. 

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People I haven’t seen for 10 years were there, people I wanted to see each time I went back but didn’t have time, dad’s friends from high school, aunt’s friend from her Sedef Island community, my mum’s friends, my primary and high school friends... 

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They were all saying in one way or another, dad was a gentlemen, kind, loving and supporting. It was like one of those guided meditations you see yourself in the end of your life to make you realise the impact you had on other people.

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Then we all went to the cemetery for the burial. Few men, his friends carried the box. It was a beautiful moment to watch, like a brotherhood, men which dad loved were carrying him for the last time. 

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When the soil was being dug up and closed back after the burial, there was a beautiful orange/brown butterfly flying around the whole time. It landed on the orange flowers for a long time which were from me then went onto the purple ones which were from mum. When the digging was finished, it rained for a bit. My aunt, mum and I stood infront of where dad’s body was buried for a while when this photo was taken.

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Then few of us went to have dinner and celebrated dad’s life 🥂

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I said hi, kissed, handshook or hugged nearly 200 people that day. It felt like everyone was holding us through our grief.

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I learnt so much already in this week.

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People are generally not comfortable about talking about death. Some of my friends I thought would be there dissapeared and some I haven’t spoken to in years got in touch and were there for me.

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Sooner or later you will experience sadness, loss or grief in one way or another. You can’t escape from it. It’s part of life.

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People often take life for granted. When my mum told me dad died, I felt a wave of sadness wash over me but also a sense of urgency. I really don’t have time to waste here. Whatever I want to do I don’t have all the time on the planet really. It is sad to lose him but it also reminds me to live. To say the things I want to say and to create the things I want to create.

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One of my friends messaged me in tears telling me how my dad and his comments on my posts had an impact on her even when not having met him. She was scared to do something that day and she remembered Wayne Dyer’s quote, “Don’t die with your music still in you.” and she did that thing she was scared to do.

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I received so many beautiful loving and supportive messages. So many people seeing my dad, how much dad and I loved each other and how he supported me in what I do. 

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Thank you for all your messages, calls, prayers and blessings 💛✨

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There isn’t a good time to loose for mum or dad, but it couldn’t have been a better timing really. A week after spending a week with mum and dad in Bodrum, going out, having dinners, being silly together, hearing about dad’s childhood and life, realising we have a lot more common than I thought we had, accepting who he is despite the things he did or didn’t do as a dad and loving him as he is because he’s my dad. In a way it was a beautiful completion.

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I learnt that the way to flow with life is not to resist it. To welcome anything that is coming your way even when it doesn’t go to plan. Especially when it doesn’t go to plan. So you can accept, feel fully and continue with life. 

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Grief is not a process where you can just block out 2 weeks of your life and process it all and move on. It comes and goes in waves. I’m so grateful for the breakup I had with Aaron few months ago, without that I’d be in shatters today. I wouldn’t know how to process this.

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I realised through this process there are so many people who lost their loved ones. So many of them shared with me their experience of loss and how time helped. It showed me you can connect with people not just through joy but from sadness and loss as well.

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If you’re one of them, sending you and your loved ones loads of love 🌹

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Love you all 🎈

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My dad passed away..

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(TURKCE ASAGIDA)

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My lovely dad passed away two days ago suddenly from a heart attack. This is one of my favourite photos of my dad that shows his true nature - playfulness & silliness 🎈

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The funeral will be today at 4pm in Bebek Mosque in Istanbul followed by burial in Emirgan Cemetery for those of you who want to join us to celebrate his life with his loved ones ❤️
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Canim babam iki gun once kalp krizinden aniden vefat etti. Bu babamin gercek ozunu yansitan en sevdigim fotograflarindan biri - oyuncu ve sakaci yani 🎈
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Cenazesi bugun Bebek Cami’den sevdikleriyle hayatini kutlamak icin 16:00da kalkacak. Sonrasinda Emirgan Mezarligi’na defnedilecek ❤️
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💃🏽 CONFIDENCE: BEING YOURSELF💃🏽

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Confidence is owning all that you are and showing up in the world saying “This is who I am.” ❤️

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One of the most common things I come across people say in sessions and workshops is in some form or another, “I want to be myself. Sometimes, I don’t know who I am.”

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Confidence starts with being yourself. I don’t believe you can fake until you make it. People can tell that you’re faking it, they’re not stupid. And you definitely know that you’re faking it 😃 so what’s the point of that when you can start from where you’re at? Sometimes being yourself is being in silence. You don’t have to express your opinion about everything all the time. Or you don’t have to be loud to be or feel confident. No confident person ever tried to prove they’re confident anyway.

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When you see someone being themselves, it gives you the permission to do the same in your own way. You might have heard this quote by Marianne Williamson, 

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“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

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It’s probably my favourite quote to date ❤️

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As children we felt free, we lived in the moment. We didn’t worry about how we looked or what people thought about us. We were so busy being ourselves, having fun and enjoying the world. What if we kept that outlook on life? What if we didn’t doubted or questioned ourselves?

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I saw ‘I Feel Pretty’ last week. I loved it so much that I watched it again. It’s about how we pressure ourselves to look a certain way, especially women, how we criticise ourselves constantly beating ourselves up. When we look at someone we can see what makes them, them, in their unique way but when it comes down to ourselves, we’re our worst critics.

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✨ Who would you be if no one you knew existed?✨

Who you are is you, better than all the comparisons and shoulds because no one is you. No one has your face, your ideas, your energy, your creativity. Even if its a similar idea that is done before, it’s not you who’s doing it, your energy matters. 

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✨ What would you do if rejection didn’t exist? ✨

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Rejection is another thing. When it happens, we make it personal about us. Even if we knew deep down, that person wasn’t right for us, now on top of that you feel rejected, unwanted and unloved. The truth is it doesn’t mean anything about you, and it’s time to find someone who will cherish you for who you are.

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Another thing is you don’t have to believe in yourself all the time. I definitely don’t. All you need is 1-2 cheerleaders by your side as a reminder of what you already know, deep down. They can be your friend, lover, your coach, someone that will tell you, “I believe in you. You’re a shining star and you got this.” And some days its you, telling yourself.

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Here’s a process for you:

- Stand infront of a mirror and look into your eyes

- Keep breathing

- Think of something you like about yourself and say it to yourself out loud

- It can be small or big, physical or anything else. To take it to the next level, do this once a day every day for a week and see what you come up with 🤩 you might even hug yourself by the end of it 🌹

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If you want to feel what it feels like to be yourself, with no judgement or shame, come do breathwork with me on the 20th next week. If you know what that feels like, come join anyway. Let’s go deeper, find parts of you that you didn’t know was there. And all you’re doing is breathing ✨

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Make sure to book your ticket if you want to join, we’re half full now. Here’s the link to book:

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https://www.brownpapertickets.com/event/3600217

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You might get caught up in your imperfections and completely miss what makes you amazing until someone points it out.

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So tag a friend and comment below. What do you love about them? What makes them, them? Let’s celebrate each other 😍❤️

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Loads of love to you 😘

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🎧 by Monolink - The End

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I’m on a podcast!

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Few weeks ago, Kat and I spoke about intuition, ego, getting out of your head and coming back to your body and so much more ❤️

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Click and have a listen ✨
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https://www.kathorrocks.com/…/connect-to-your-intuition-put…
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Check out the other super inspiring conversations on her podcast Put Yourself First which are all about empowering women 😘
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Have a beautiful Sunday evening ❤️
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And happy new moon! 🌕
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Here’s to a new beginning and cycle ⭐️
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