💃🏽 JUST BE YOU 💃🏽

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I hear this a lot, ‘just be you’. I say it a lot too actually 😃 

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But how can you actually just be yourself?

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Being yourself sometimes can be the hardest thing to be. You might feel you need to control yourself, you’re not allowed to be yourself, that’s just too risky.

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You might feel you need to be a certain way to receive love. You can’t rock the boat or create too much conflict, you need to do what you’re told and be a good girl/boy.

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Or you might feel you have to accommodate poeple and make sure they’re not uncomfortable. So you prefer to keep the peace and sacrifice being you once again for the sake of keeping everyone happy.

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So what do you do?

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You sacrifice being yourself in order to be in control, in order to receive love and in order to keep everyone happy. 

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The truth is by controlling yourself, you loose touch with your true self and when it comes to being yourself you might be clueless in what that feels like.

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And when you do receive love, you’re receiving that love to the masked version of you. Still you feel unloved because it’s not you they’re loving, it’s the rundown version of you. And still, everyone’s not happy, it’s never enough.

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And when you make other people uncomfortable when you’re yourself, you’re just showing them something they’ve been avoiding and they don’t like facing it. You’re actually serving them.

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I’m great at being a chameleon. I enter a room, scan the energy of the people, listen to the words they use, the way they move and quickly calculate how I should be there to not create too much of a contrast. I used to do this a lot to fit in. Now I do it to connect with people and really feel and see who they are, not to change my way of being around them. And I still fall back into it some days. I catch myself saying things I wouldn’t normally say and go, ‘who dis?’ and come back to myself 😃

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Two weeks ago at Boom festival, there was a woman I was dancing with for a bit. In the end she came up to me saying, ‘You’re so powerful and beautiful. You have so much strength. You activated something in me. I’m going to do my best to pass it on. Thank you so much. ’ 

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I had to have her repeat it to me as I wasn’t sure how she got all of that by me just dancing around. Then again, I saw it. By your way of being, by just being you, you can show people so much without even trying.

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Here are few ways to come back to yourself when you’re loosing touch with being yourself:

- Close your eyes, take a deep breath.

- As you exhale imagine you’re sending off anything that’s not you, all the beliefs, energies people might have put on you.

- As you inhale, imagine you’re gathering back all your energy, power you mught have given to people. Imagine you’re becoming whole as you inhale, feeling whole and complete.

- Ask yourself, ‘What would I do in this moment, if no one I knew existed?’ ‘Who would I love to be?’

- Go and do that, be that.

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When you see someone who are themselves unapologetically, they don’t have to explain you who they are. You just know it, feel it from their way of being. 

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I haven’t mastered this btw. I have days where I’m being me and loving who I am. Then I have days I doubt if I should wear my feather earrings to that formal dinner. But then I do 😉

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What do you celebrate, love or honour about yourself? 

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Comment below, let’s celebrate our uniqueness 💃🏽

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Loads of love to you all 💛✨

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My friend Nathalie is here in London!

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One of my closest friends Nathalie went to Croatia a year ago to follow her heart to create a retreat/home holding embodiment retreats. She ended up traveling to Australia, Spain, Texas, Peru and New York after Croatia 😃

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She inspires me with her courage and her determination to cope with the lack of routine 😂 I love routines and having a clean and organised home. I couldn’t do what she did for a year, would probably go crazy. She loves routines too so I admire her for what she’s done.
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She’s staying with me this week then off to Australia to move in with her boyfriend and continue with her projects ❤️
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I want to share how we met and got close as I’m super grateful to have her in my life. So we met 2-3 years ago at ecstatic dancing, started talking about tantra and I added her as ‘Nathalie Tantra’ on my phone, to this day she’s still Nathalie Tantra on my phone and in my life 🙏🏼
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We bumped into each other few times at ecstatic dancing and each time I asked her when she is starting her dance group. I was geniune, she’s really good. She got super uncomfortable each time I asked 😃 Anyway we met up for a coffee one day. I felt a strong pull to ask if she wanted to meetup with me and dance every week (we’re not close by this point) she was a bit shocked but said ‘yes’.
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We started dancing in her kitchen followed by deep conversations and eating on the floor. We laughed, cried, had so much fun, filmed ourselves. Sometimes Adam joined us 🐵 We moved with one another with blindfolds on, learnt to surrender and trust again.
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During this time we both started training as life coaches (Nov 2016) at the same time in Animas Coaching and now here we are, both graduated in a whole new chapter in our lives.
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We went to 5rhythms last night and on Sunday we’re going to picnic gathering our coaching school is organising ✨
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I am grateful to have very few but deep friendships like this one where no matter how far you go without talking for weeks, when you come back together the connection’s always there and deeper.
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Love you Nathalie so much 💛
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✨ MAGIC OF BOOM ✨

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I’m back!

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I was at the Boom festival last week in Portugal with Amanda and Aaron.
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It’s 33,333 people from 147 countries with a healing area, different stages, a lake, workshops, so much to experience that I didn’t even know in 6 days. A bit like Burning Man where you create the experience you need to have receiving what you need in the complete unknown.
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I mostly ate, napped, danced and swam in the super hot sun. By the end of it, I gave up on wearing clothes, on the last day I had my bumbag as the only thing I wore 😃
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We did deep processes, had fun, connected, spoke our truth to each other, met incredible people on the dancefloor. There is so much love at Boom, magic, possibilities and growth that can unfold.
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There is a lot I want to share but for now I will share only these as I take my time to integrate the experience:
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I saw what’s most important to me, what my priorities are. Even though I create a lot, I’m also the queen of distractions 💁🏽‍♀️ It was a great reset to come back to what matters to me the most and how I can use my time here in a true way for me.
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I saw once again your body is a way to experience ecstasy in life through movement, lovemaking, singing etc. For me it’s always about body, coming back to the body, moving through anything using your body.
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I saw the beauty and love in people, how every single humanbeing has something beautiful to offer to this world, big or small, doesn’t matter. We all want to be loved and to feel connected. We all want to be seen, heard and be appreciated. And we all can give that to one another unconditionally.
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I saw that no one knows what’s best for you, only you know. I saw what being in my own authority felt like once again on a deeper level 🔥
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And you always get the experience you need, not the one you wish for 😉✨
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Loads of love to you ❤️

💃🏽 THE INTEGRATED FEMININE RETREAT 💃🏽

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2 weeks ago Clara and I gave our first women’s retreat 😍

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What a ride has it been! We rode through the waves of emotions, our shadow, releasing emotions in a healthy way, owning our pleasure, connecting with our bodies through breath and being with other women.
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While we were birthing the workshop I was going through a breakup, my nan passed away and few other things happened. Clara had few things going on for her too. It was a great reminder of how you can create whatever you want no matter what’s going on in your life. No conditions have to exist for you to have what you want. You can be grieving and creating at the same time.
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It’s an honour to hold space for women sitting around in a circle, being open and vulnerable and willing to go there. It’s incredible what can be shifted in 2.5 days. Thank you all for showing up 😍❤️
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Thank you Natalie and Natalie for assisting with your wisdom, awareness, love and organisational skills 🙏🏼
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Thank you Nicola for pouring your heart out into your food and nourishing us during the weekend 😋
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And thank you my dear Clara, for reaching out to me, for making this dream a reality. Thank you for teaching me to trust and surrender a lot more 💜
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One of the participants said ‘I am all women and all women are me.’ There is no competition only celebration, We are so powerful as women, on our own too but when we come together, magic happens..
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How the retreat came together, unfolded and completed, showed this once again ✨
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Loads of love to you 💛

I’m on my way to Avebury now, going to Swindon first.

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I’m on my way to Avebury now, going to Swindon first. I said to the woman who was giving me this coffee who reminded me of my mum’s eyes, ‘You have incredible beautiful eyes.’ She lit up and said, ‘I wanted to tell you the same. They’re beautiful.’ We held our eye gaze for a bit, I felt the love, such an amazing feeling, to connect with another woman for a moment, whether you know her or not. Then she gave me the coffee for free ❤️

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Always choose kindness ✨ And of course don’t use it to manipulate people to get your way 😂 (More on the Integrated Feminine Retreat later)

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We did a workshop! Your Empowered Cycle 😍🔥

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Amanda and I did a half day workshop today for the first time, journeying into four seasons we go through in our menstruation cycle.

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I presented the spring (maiden) - summer (mother) phase as Amanda did autumn (wild woman) and winter (crone) which works so well with our natural energy 😍 Then we led a dance together through the seasons.
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You never know how the dances are going to turn out. Complete unknown. Somehow they always do their magic and I feel so alive doing them. I feel tingles, complete presence, joy, bliss, gratitude, everything. I feel everyone in the room and I feel grateful to be able to feel.
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That’s what we were saying, when you feel something fully, it leaves naturally. It finished it’s course and now it’s a new phase. Nothing stays the same no matter how hard you hold onto it, it transforms and flows when you allow and surrender.
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When you embrace all parts of you, sit with all parts of you, nothing can hold you back really. You claim your space in the world by being yourself 🔥
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I always get nervous when it’s a new workshop format and always, I mean always, it turns out great. And I still get nervous 😂 Then I remember when women come together things naturally flow and connect anyway 🌷
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I feel grateful to have women showing up, ready to go in to shift things. And I feel so grateful to do this with Amanda. We work so well together ❤️
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My intention was to make this post a short one which no longer is but will end this one with those beautiful words from the feedback today:
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“Powerful circle for women to feel open, acknowledged, empowered. It allows you to connect deeply to yourself, to find yourself and reconnect with the rhythms of being a woman.”
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And looking at the feedback forms, I am calm, grounding, focused, loving and gentle. Amanda is wild, funny, passionate, present and a free spirit 😃
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Thank you everyone who joined us today ❤️ We’ll do another one after summer ☀️
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Coming up next is The Integrated Feminine retreat next weekend with Clara, bringing aspects of femininity together through different embodiment practices. 4 spaces are left lovelies if you’re interested, here’s the link for more info ✨
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https://www.brownpapertickets.com/event/3434972
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Loads of love to you 💛
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✨ JUDGEMENT DETOX ✨

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Yesterday I went to Gabrielle Bernstein’s talk about her new book ‘Judgment Detox’. 

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I love this woman and her energy so much and I love how she’s able to get her message across from the truth. One thing she said about storytelling was ‘You write from a language that’s not triggering so you can serve the highest’. In a way, translating the language so that it can be received, I love that!

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In her book, there are 6 steps to rise above judgement:

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1. Witness your judgment without judgment ✨

You accept the fact that you’re judging and sit with how it makes you feel, how you might be justifying yourself for judging and what experience from your childhood is being triggered.

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2. Honour the wounds that live beneath the judgment ✨

Allow yourself to feel the core wound that is being triggered in this experience, be with it. You might even have a chat with your inner child, make sure that little boy/girl feels safe.

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3. Put love on the altar (through prayer) ✨

Ask for guidance and willingness to make a new choice coming from love. Example of a prayer, ‘I’m open to higher consciousness, I’m ready to receive higher guidance.’ Or ‘I choose to judge nothing that occurs.’ Last one kinda gives your power away to judging by focusing on, you’re fixing it from the level you created it, so I’m not sure about that one.

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4. See for the first time ✨

See the person through the lens of love for the first time, see their beauty, what you admire about them, see who they truly are beyond their mask. 

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5. Cut the cords ✨

Imagine there are energetical cords between you and this person, that is weighing you down, that is not love. Imagine you’re cutting them so there’s pure love now.

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6. A willingness to forgive ✨

Forgive the person not because what they did was right but because you no longer want to hold onto them, letting go of the judgment and willing to forgive so you can be free.

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I didn’t read the book and didn’t know about the process until yesterday evening.

The interesting thing is on my way to the talk with my friend Steve, I was talking about Aaron, how it hurt me seeing him with someone so soon etc (I was judging). Whilst judging I knew it was a part of me that feels unloved and lonely that was getting triggered, it wasn’t personal. He felt it and I asked him if he can cut cords between me and Aaron as we both felt the heaviness. So he did. 

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Cutting cord doesn’t have to be a massive ceremony just the intention would do, he did it with his hand like a cutting gesture and I felt something leaving me. I cried a bit, usually a great indication something shifted 😃 In a way went through the whole 6 step process there and then ✨

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Noticing yourself judging, bringing it back to what it triggers in you, acknowledging that and coming back to love can happen within seconds really. I’m constantly doing this as it comes up.

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A part of me thinks, ‘Jeez I’ve been working on myself for a while now, there’s STILL stuff to work on.’ Accept the fact that if you’re committed to live your truth, there will always be, but you feel so much more freer and happier on the other side 😉

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Enjoy this beautiful sunny day ☀️💛

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Loads of love to you ❤️

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🙏🏼 GRATEFUL FOR LIFE 🙏🏼

I took this video last weekend when we arrived at our accommodation after a long walk into Avesbury. 

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As soon as I entered the room, I heard ‘Just trust. So much more is coming. We got you.’ ✨
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Writing words from that moment or even better recording yourself or your voice is a great way to capture and remember it. It becames an access point when you rewatch/listen/read it, you can literally go back to that moment. Whichever works for you. I used to write them down, now I find that if my voice is in it, I can feel it more. And to make sure I write them down anyway 😂
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I don’t think you can force gratitude. For me, it’s something I feel after hard times, grateful to have gone through that experience, grateful to be coming out from the other side with lessons and grateful to be going into a new chapter ❤️
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Or it doesn’t have to be huge, little things like laying on grass barefoot, feeling the sunshine on my face. Being in nature 💚 I definitely feel grateful to do that in London 😍
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Loads of love to you ✨
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🍃 SACRED WILDERNESS 🍃

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Last weekend, I went on a 2 day walk to Avebury my amazing friend Daisie guided to celebrate the sun and the summer solstice.

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I’ve never done long distance walking, pilgrim, summer solstice celebration or anything like that before. Something about this one drew me in just knowing Daisie’s guiding them.
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We set our intentions and started to walk in silence. I saw that you slow down a lot more when you walk. Especially if you’re not talking, you feel one with nature. You can breathe, you feel expanded and free. You feel fully connected and in your body. I loved it. It’s physically challenging but also liberating once you pass a point.
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And it’s so good to be out of London. I feel like going out in nature somewhere is great to get inspiration, creativity, refill yourself. London is where you come back and make cool stuff happen 🔥
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After walking for 3 hours we arrived at Avebury. The place is known to be an energy spot and there are huge stones there. We arrive at the stones and I’m in tears. I feel so grateful for being there. I hug the stones and thank them not knowing why I’m even thanking them for.
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We went to our Bed & Breakfast, a magic land. It’s filled with massive crystals and statues that emit powerful energy. I walked into the bedroom where there are more crystals, a bowl similar to the one my grandma had, angel cards etc. I looked at Daisie and I’m like, ‘Oh my god! This place is amazing!’ And she does the same even though she stayed there before. You can never get too excited about magical places 😍 I hug her and have a good cry, realising once again that I can trust, that so much more is coming and that the universe got me ✨
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We had a gorgeous breakfast in the morning, made with love, you can just feel it. I’m bursting with gratefulness by this point. We hang out a bit with the owner of the house who’s a super wise and connected woman. I just know I’ll be back there soon.
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You know it when you see someone doing what they’re meant to do. It’s so natural to them and they love doing it 💚 Daisie’s walks are like that. She’s a modern day pilgrim walking people to freedom and eternal bliss. I’m going to join them as much as I can, they’re pretty special 🙏🏼 It’s an honour to witness her making these walks happen from the point of when she first imagined them. Thank you my lovely Daisie for this sacred experience, for introducing me to nature in a way we haven’t met before 🍃
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If you’re interested send her a message with your email address so she can keep you updated about the future walks. Next one is on 28-29th July in Chiltern ✨
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Wishing you a gorgeous rest of the week ❤️
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